[thebassist]

It's definitely a shitty situation, and I feel for you man.

In relationships, they say the one who cares the least holds the power in the relationship. Just chill out, keep hitting the gym, go out, meet some cool chicks, and don't reply with more than a couple words, or a 'lol', if you even choose to reply at all.

The best revenge is to make her realize what she missed out on.

Also consider staying single for an extended period of time- by which I mean no strong commitments to women. From what I understand, you've been in 2 LTR's in the space of one year, maybe it's time to just enjoy the single life for a while.

These kind of experiences hurt, but I hope you will learn from them, and learn to avoid them.

[CMan0928]

I laughed my balls off at certain parts, but I wouldn't send that to her. Could come off as immature.

[scorpion]

Do NOT send that email. Go read Athlone's post again, he is 100% right.

Just writing the email allowed you some cathartic release. There's no need to send it. Sending it would have the total opposite effect of what you're looking for.

It wouldn't knock her down a peg, but it would make you look like a total fucking chump, because if this girl is really so bad as you say, you're even worse: because not only were you dating her and doing a bunch of shit for her, you're going to the trouble of writing her this epic, spiteful email because she's so deep in your head. It's a massive case of oneitis.

Women do not respond to a dressing-down like men do. Giving a woman negative attention means nothing to her, because you're still giving her attention, so she knows she has some power over you.

The worst thing you can do to a woman is NOT to carefully point out all of her flaws and tell her how terrible she is.

The worst thing you can do to a woman is ignore her in favor of other women.

Her own hamster will inflict more self-loathing than you ever could.

[Caligula]

(12-06-2012 09:25 AM)McQueensPlayboyRules Wrote:  

By the way, what did you do to not have a bad relationship again? I have no damn problem getting one night stands but apparently have the intelligence of a mule in selecting girls for relationships. It's like I'm naturally Alpha when single and that attracts alot of girls and is easy for ONS, then once I get comfortable in the relatonship I start slipping, it's like WTF, how to maintain one's frame better?

I haven't been in many LTRs since then but a few things come to mind:

1. Do things on your own terms, maintain hand and be willing to walk away. This does not mean subjugating the girl to your will; just don't make sacrifices that undermine your dignity. The biggest cause of butthurt is the feeling of having been treated unfairly. Usually it's because you gave something and the girl didn't reciprocate how you expected.

The extreme case is the friendzone; guy does girl favours, expecting reciprocity but doesn't get it. Always trust but verify. You gave too much trust, she didn't reciprocate the way you expected. Trust is earned over time, not given freely. Through a positive feedback loop she can prove worthy of more trust.

2. Maintain abundance mindset and avoid tunnel vision. This makes the idea of walking away easier. When you stop seeing what else is out there you overvalue your current relationship. Knowing there are plenty of other options and flirting plenty will paradoxically strengthen an exclusive relationship. She'll love you for it and you'll feel better about yourself.

3. Gain experience and a better understanding of women. Learning to recognise quality women takes time. It only comes with experience. You can read the all Heartiste posts since 2007 yet not really get it. You're intelligent so you understand it on an intellectual level but internalising it on an emotional level takes a long time. Deep understanding takes experience and you can't fast-track this. You can read posts like "Twenty slut tells" all day but without intimately knowing a lot of women you're fumbling in the dark. Realise that you'll make mistakes and look at them as learning experiences.

You mentioned that you repeated the same pattern twice. Why? Why do you fall hard for a girl when you get into a relationship? Is it a more natural state for you? DO you really feel you're better than her deep down in your bones? If not, why not? You see all her flaws, but have trouble convincing yourself she's unworthy of emotional investment. Why?

I don't have any answers, but worth thinking about.

[Avarence]

Meanwhile, an alpha male has just banged her. His intentions are to pump and dump, recognizing she isn't relationship quality. As he indifferently throws the condom wrapper in the garbage, a player smirk forms across his face. As your ex takes her laptop off the charger and gets ready for pillow talk, she laughs and says "Look at this email my crazy ex-boyfriend sent me".

[Eddie Winslow]

The real goal here is not to figure out the best way to crush this girl emotionally. The goal is to get yourself happy and confident again ASAP.

Here's how you do it:
-Attracting a new girl(s) and banging her/them
-Pursuing your hobbies and personal goals

Please don't send that letter bro. I've been there; the negativity does nothing but bring on more negativity and female-hate. Even if you do crush her; you won't feel any better, and you will probably feel worse. Just focus on doing yourself and being happy.

Maybe this is an extreme example, but look at the Jovan Belcher story. He went a little farther than sending a nasty email, wouldn't you say? Obviously that didn't make him feel any better. It sounds like you got a good heart, and purposely hurting others makes good people feel really shitty. Cut her off 100% and work to improve yourself daily. In a few months this chick will be a funny story.

[WestCoast]

Cut her off and move on.

You should have never written the email, never posted this thread and never bothered wasting what sounds like multiple hours of your life. Sounds like 100+ hours in drama-ville.

Your time should be worth 7000000x that. If she is makin you this emotional, she's winning. Next.

[christpuncher]

I've sent a really mean text once, after a girl blew herself out by sending a nasty little message because I wouldn't agree to have dinner with her parents.

These things are NEVER any good. You THINK that it's going to hurt her, but it's not. She has an army of friends, sisters, and white knights there to tell her that YOU are full of shit, and that she is actually the complete opposite of everything you said.

There is also only a slim chance that she will read the thing more than once, other than to hand it to her friends and say "look what this asshole said to me" and ZERO chance that she will actually read it to see what you said and whether it might be true. The ONLY reason she will read it again is to purposefully enrage herself as a reminder of what an asshole you are.

And worst of all, if you think that her learning the "truth" will somehow help her in anyway improve her life. It won't. The complete opposite will happen. She'll become MORE delusional after a big shot drinking "you bashing" girls night out where she will fuck some guy, and start the whole damn thing over with him. Only this time she'll be even more insane because of what you did.

If you ever meet a girl who has completely lost touch with the reality of her appearance or life worth, there's probably a line of men ten long behind you that have been busy dropping "truth bombs" on her, pushing her further away from reality instead of pulling her back into it as they intended.

The ONLY way to deal with her shit is to cut communication. Soft or hard next, as applicable.

[Vicious]

You should discount the possibility of hitting that again regardless. Stop caring.

[Veloce]

I'm not gonna post the entire parable of the scorpion and the frog, but if you're not familiar with it, it's here:

http://allaboutfrogs.org/stories/scorpion.html

Relate that to women. Once you understand the nature of women, you cease to become emotionally affected by them.

[scorpio]

you want revenge? date and bang her best friend. since you racked up 150 notches, shouldn't be a problem.

report back and keep us posted yo.

[CMan0928]

On second thought after re-reading that letter I think you should go for it. But do it in person. Maybe somewhere like where she goes to school, a restaurant, or the supermarket. Anywhere with a big audience would work. Oh and be sure to PM me the time, date, and location this will be taking place. I want to be there.

[Veloce]

Oh yeah, I forgot this is all coming from the guy with 150+ notches.

I'm usually not one for calling someone out, but I have a REALLY hard time believing a guy with 150+ notches would react this way and develop one-itis this extreme. I don't even have half that many notches, but to me that letter you wrote reads like some high school broken hearted AFC.

Edited: I didn't even read the letter until just now at the time of this edit. I saw so much anger and venting that I didn't care to actually read it.

Good god man, if she's as bad as you make her out to be, why on earth are you this upset? This goes beyond one-itis, this sounds like you were completely emotionally dependent on her. Only someone who was extremely attached could get this heated over something that probably amounts to typical female behavior.

[poutsara]

This email will do nothing except make you feel good for 10 seconds and that's it. It validates her rather than criticizes her. Sounds like you dont like her anymore which is perfect So, just play it cool. Bang her again if you can, or not, doesn't matter. Why get angry? You basically are describing her as a whore. Treat her as such. Do people curse and degrade a prostitute after the transaction? No, they just go about their business, which is what you should do as well. Why not.

[Sombro]

As it's been said:
1. Ignore her.

As for revenge, add this:
2. Be seen with her female friends in public. (One ex went into a jealous meltdown when she saw me come to a party with her friend.)

Bonus points:
3. Sleep with her friends.

Any, or all of the above work.

[Menace]

Look at your forum name. Ask yourself one question: Would Steve McQueen do this? Do likewise.

[Christian McQueen]

Advice taken from all you players. I fucking love this forum.

Believe it or not getting 150+ notches has not been extremely difficult for me. I've been blessed with good looks and natural charm and charisma. That being said, I'm not the best with relationships for some reason.

I did NOT send the email and have decided NOT to send it. You guys are right, it's better to ignore her.

As for her friends there's one of them I'm almost certain I can nail. The other 'best' friend will require some logistics and alcohol but I will put in the work and report back. Latin bitches are NOTORIOUS for fucking their 'best' friends bf or ex bf. One of my latin gf's in college decided to act like a cunt so I promptly fucked her best friend in the other room while my gf was passed out. That turned into an affair which I used against my gf when I broke up with her. Ace up my sleeve and I never heard a girl cry like that in my life. Then I fucked her other 2 'good' friends and made sure she knew about it.

It's LA chicks are devious will be interesting to see how this plays out.

Thanks for the good words, this forum is the best thing that happened to men period.

[Christian McQueen]

As far as the one-itis comments, for some reason the last 2 LTR's I've had I've contracted this bullshit 'disease'. Maybe it's me getting older idk but it's gotten ridiculous. Following Roissy's Laws to a T from now on out.

[46.]

(12-06-2012 04:41 PM)Menace Wrote:  

Look at your forum name. Ask yourself one question: Would Steve McQueen do this? Do likewise.

Exactly what I was thinking. I have a difficult time imagining Steve McQueen writing such an email. As everyone has pointed out, you're just handing her the keys to McQueen's Porche 911, giving her satisfaction and control. Which is kind of lame.

Instead, as was suggested above:

1. Drop Her
2. You got one 7.5-8.5, you can get another
3. Get a new one (doesn't even matter if you hit it or not)
4. Send the new one flowers, MAKE SURE SHE GETS IT IN A PUBLIC PLACE to get the chick rumor mill going
5. Parade the new one around to get the chick rumor mill going

The only thing that really f---s with some women are themselves. They fear irrelevance most of all. Set her own mental implosion in motion.

[CMan0928]

Has anyone other than myself found humor in simply the title of the thread "Letter To A Cunt"? It made my laugh almost as much as when he compared her pussy to beef jerky.

[Alpha Hunter Zero]

By itself without any content associated here it sounds like it could be the title of a red pill movie in my opinion.

[Christian McQueen]

Oh irony....so per everyone's advice did NOT send the email and lo behold this cunt sent me a text around 7pm tonight hahaha...it was a text blasting me re: a parking ticket and how I'm a jerk blah blah blah. Subtext though was "wtf haven't you contacted me since Monday night???"

Did NOT respond to her attempt to get my attention. Ah let the games begin.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

Quote:

Oh yeah, I forgot this is all coming from the guy with 150+ notches.

I'm usually not one for calling someone out, but I have a REALLY hard time believing a guy with 150+ notches would react this way and develop one-itis this extreme. I don't even have half that many notches, but to me that letter you wrote reads like some high school broken hearted AFC.

Do not be surprised. Many guys have huge success due to great height and looks, or perhaps temporary status, and even rudimentary game, but never develop the abundance mentality and impervious internal game because they've never had to. It's surprisingly frequent. I call it "Beta in Alpha's clothing syndrome". For example, I've seen a super-alpha guy (rich, tall model, lots of notches) send mails to my current GF in which he either tries to insult her or begs her to come back to him and offers marriage.

Edit: the OP confirms this as well. Also, apologies to OP as I don't mean to bash him with my post, but just make a general observation.

McQueen Wrote:

Believe it or not getting 150+ notches has not been extremely difficult for me. I've been blessed with good looks and natural charm and charisma. That being said, I'm not the best with relationships for some reason.

p.s. A.D. your latest post: be silent for at least a day, then blast her with either something nonsensical ("ok"), or some Agree & Amplify ("I've spent the last few days in jail") or the like. Ignoring is also just fine. But don't get too excited.

[Christian McQueen]

Yea didn't respond to her text she sent it last night around 7p. Think I'll probably wait until sat morn and reply with 'k'. She HATES that response and its a whatever reply. Plus its friday and I'm going to be busy restocking the harem : )

[el mechanico]

Steves expression after reading this thread....
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