[FretDancer]

So we are all whores, and they are all whores. Shouldn't we be happy now... ?

[ElJefe]

(12-09-2012 03:00 PM)FretDancer Wrote:  

So we are all whores, and they are all whores. Shouldn't we be happy now... ?

I guess it's just foolish to not trust your gut. A man's gut instinct about a woman is almost always right.

Definitely poor judgment on my part

[ElJefe]

OK guys... I got sucked into the beta-vortex and an argument where I committed the cardinal error of trying to get her to sympathize or see things from my point of view. Rookie mistake. But at the last minute found the guts to say "It doesn't matter anyways, I think it's best we end here".

As far as her facebook is concerned, I changed her password to something I can't remember so I can't log in there anymore.

[qazwsx]

Typical.

Operate with the traditional alpha game: Just give her the "I don't give a fuck" attitude. If she likes you, she'll crawl back to you begging for your love. If she doesn't, well, it's time to move on and bang as much new girls as you can.

[Christian McQueen]

This entire thread is golden with advice. Just went through this (Letter to a Cunt thread).

[ElJefe]

FYI I already regret posting this thread.

But sometimes a guy just needs to rant, hit some shit, and get a pat on the back from his peers.

[iknowexactly]

(12-06-2012 01:07 PM)ElJefe Wrote:  

Thanks for the input, Tenderman/Fisto. It's OK. I'll be fine.

Last time I broke up with a girl I was crushed for months but I feel very much in control of myself this time.

I am going to reinstall WhatsApp just so she knows I didn't delete it just because of her.

could you explain how/why that works?

[ElJefe]

Elaborate? How?

I told another forum member this, but predictably she contacted me again with:

Her: "Hey I know you asked me not to contact you again, but I have to write you to be sure that you are OK and that you're well and that you know I'm thinking of you"

Me: "OK. I'm alive and all is well "

Her: "That's great "

I didn't respond. I know this is typical of women, and I'd also be lying if I didn't somewhere wish for something more substantial, but there's no "winning" in break-ups, I've learned. There's only accounting for yourself, being positive about the future and not showing bad/butt-hurt feelings - that's the only way to show that you're on top of things, to "win". I'm 90 percent certain what she got out of that was more dread that I'm moving on than before she contacted me.

[Dr. Howard]

(12-17-2012 08:06 AM)ElJefe Wrote:  

Elaborate? How?

I told another forum member this, but predictably she contacted me again with:

Her: "Hey I know you asked me not to contact you again, but I have to write you to be sure that you are OK and that you're well and that you know I'm thinking of you"

Me: "OK. I'm alive and all is well "

Her: "That's great "

I didn't respond. I know this is typical of women, and I'd also be lying if I didn't somewhere wish for something more substantial, but there's no "winning" in break-ups, I've learned. There's only accounting for yourself, being positive about the future and not showing bad/butt-hurt feelings - that's the only way to show that you're on top of things, to "win". I'm 90 percent certain what she got out of that was more dread that I'm moving on than before she contacted me.

If you end up with a similar text in the future might I recommend the following in place of "OK. I'm alive and all is well "

instead

"I'm working on moving on"

aka you haven't yet but some sluts are helping you get there.

[ElJefe]

She dropped by today to pick up stuff. We talked and she asked about whether I'd seen anyone during our "break". I said yes.

Boy was she mad... left the place in tears, declared never to speak to me again.

[Asaxon]

And yet speaking to you she probably will. Empty promises! There is no sense in letting yourself slide into depression and analyzing the past in this case. You have learnt your lesson, so treat your body and mind like the predictable system that it is: work out for endorphines, meet girls, get busy, achieve things! Most of my breakups led me to great success by freeing up energy and winning me better girls, improve physically, read more and focus on my career. I often look back at my many exes and am happy I am not with them anymore. Every single one has hit the wall!

[Nomad77]

Speaking from experience...the moment you have to stoop to spying on a girl you have already lost the game and her. Before you do that just assume the worse and everything will take care of itself. I have had girls offer to show me love letters, messages, etc. and I always say no because once you do she will then expect you to return the favor

Doesn't matter what happens, don't ever break the cardinal rule from Bang: you can't show more emotions than the girl at any point in time. You can match her but never exceed her. If she's pulling back for whatever reason, pull back even further. Of course, it helps if you have another girl around.