[Piffington]

Hey,

Heres the story: I met this girl at a pool hall/bar by her college, she was celebrating a friends birthday. I commute to a different college 30 minutes away.

We instantly hit it off and got mad kino and touching going on and she took my number and texted me (my phone was in the car). We texted a little bit, text a little during the week and try to meet up but conflicting schedules/flakeyness means it never happened. She agreed to meet up this weekend, tried to meet up yesterday but she told me she was at a school function til late and would text me after. She never texted me so I went and did my own thing last night, but I still wanna meet up with this girl. It's been 8 days since we first met and on tuesday she's going home for thanksgiving break, when she gets back it'll almost be exam time and even harder to set something up. So I don't wanna keep blowing this girl up and let her do a little chasing, but at the same time I don't wanna let this one slip. should I keep in contact over casual texting, keep trying to meet up with her until she leaves. or what?

Thanks

[WesternCancer]

Your time would be better spent gaming other girls.

[Samseau]

If you're in college, there's only one rule to remember: Same night lays.

[Avarence]

I don't blame you for not wanting to let one slip -- but the longer that you communicate with a girl (especially via texting) without actually doing anything sexual, the less of a chance you'll have at getting the lay. Casual texting with younger girls is a one-way ticket to the friendzone. Plus, if she's attractive, she'll categorize you with the betas already blowing up her phone with "hey what's up ".

You talked with her for a while right? Send her a funny meme about something that came up in conversation.

But truthfully I wouldn't get your hopes up. If a girl really likes a guy - she makes time for him. The whole "I have this and this to do" in college is bullshit. There's always some time to be made. So remember that she may not be as interested in you as you think. There is plenty of cock on her carousel, to put things in Heartiste terms.

TL;DR version:
Game other girls. Send this one a few texts but assume it's unlikely.

[CMan0928]

(11-18-2012 10:47 PM)IQVX Wrote:  

I don't blame you for not wanting to let one slip -- but the longer that you communicate with a girl (especially via texting) without actually doing anything sexual, the less of a chance you'll have at getting the lay.

I see the reasoning, but I've actually had success where I'd meet a chick through Facebook, POF, or even Tagged once or twice and exclusively text for weeks, sometimes months. Of course I was dating, fucking, gaming other girls during this time period, but you'd be surprised how girls can seemingly get comfortable during this time period and then, when I feel the urge, spring the "Hey, let's chill tonight or tomorrow?" line on them which in turn leads to the lay because they feel like they already know me, so therefore it isn't "slutty" because we've been talking for awhile. This also requires very little work on my part. Just the occasional brief text session when I'm bored or what have you. I'll continue to use this strategy for easy pussy.

[Avarence]

(11-18-2012 10:56 PM)CMan0928 Wrote:  

I see the reasoning, but I've actually had success where I'd meet a chick through Facebook, POF, or even Tagged once or twice and exclusively text for weeks, sometimes months. Of course I was dating, fucking, gaming other girls during this time period, but you'd be surprised how girls can seemingly get comfortable during this time period and then, when I feel the urge, spring the "Hey, let's chill tonight or tomorrow?" line on them which in turn leads to the lay because they feel like they already know me, so therefore it isn't "slutty" because we've been talking for awhile. This also requires very little work on my part. Just the occasional brief text session when I'm bored or what have you. I'll continue to use this strategy for easy pussy.

On Facebook this has proved true for me as well - but not so much for girls who I've met and exchanged contact info with in person, as the OP did here. Also, I don't really think you can fairly mention POF here -- girls who met you on an online dating site rarely friendzone you as they remember how the two of you met and subconsciously categorize you as a potential dating interest.

[Piffington]

(11-18-2012 05:00 PM)Samseau Wrote:  

If you're in college, there's only one rule to remember: Same night lays.

This is definitely where I fucked up. Probably could have hit that night, I was just in a beta dry-spell mindset not thinking straight. Thanks for the advice guys, I just need to keep approaching more girls to keep my mentality straight.

But for this one, she has initiated text conversation a couple times so I don't know.. I'll radio silence and see if she initiates and then try to get a real answer out of her whether she wants to get together or not. Any other advice is appreciated too.

[Cruisen_Chubby]

(11-18-2012 11:14 PM)Piffington Wrote:  

(11-18-2012 05:00 PM)Samseau Wrote:  

If you're in college, there's only one rule to remember: Same night lays.

This is definitely where I fucked up. Probably could have hit that night, I was just in a beta dry-spell mindset not thinking straight. Thanks for the advice guys, I just need to keep approaching more girls to keep my mentality straight.

But for this one, she has initiated text conversation a couple times so I don't know.. I'll radio silence and see if she initiates and then try to get a real answer out of her whether she wants to get together or not. Any other advice is appreciated too.

She's using you for narcissist supply- she just wants your attention. Take what she wants and give it to her friends/other girls. If that doesn't make her pussy drip I don't know what will.

Make it look natural though- a try-hard will make her pussy lips curl inward.

[Eddie Winslow]

(11-18-2012 10:47 PM)IQVX Wrote:  

The whole "I have this and this to do" in college is bullshit.

I don't know why, but this just made me laugh. This is a fact. For both sexes, half the day in college is dedicated to leisure activities, catching up with friends, and having sex/masturbating, even during finals week.

Call her, tell her you want to meet up tonight. This should help you find out where you stand really quick. If you guys hit it off as well as you claim, you should have a chance to move this relationship along before she goes home.

[Alpha Hunter Zero]

She seems to be screwing with you somewhat. She initiates contact repeatedly, arranges date &time, then flakes. Other times she initiates contact but no meetup. If she really liked you she would make time to be around you regardless of how long, no excuses. Move on to other girls who are less of a headache.

[AlbertoDelMuerto]

Get over this chick..there are plenty more out there.

[Giovonny]

You already care too much about this one. You should have pushed for the same night lay. Now, she is toying with you.

But, don't give up, hopefully she will meet you this weekend..

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She agreed to meet up this weekend
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[tjf78]

Personally, I think that you should ignore this chick and move to the next one. If she was seriously into you, she would have texted you after her school function. There are plenty of other chicks out there. Once a girl decides that you are lower value (for whatever reason) you are done. It sounds like this chick made this determination of you.

Currently, I am a visiting student at a community college. During the semester, I approach girls whenever I have the opportunity. In the halls, library, gym. I make sure to approach at least one girl per day. I accumulated three numbers from three different girls. The first two girls I asked if they wanted to hang out. Both times I waited about 3 days to text each of them. I asked them both if they wanted to grab a drink with me at a bar near the college. They both did not respond. I moved on but I concluded that these girls were probably 18 or 19. I am 22. So I decided that I would ask the next girl who gave me her number to meet up for food.

About 2 weeks ago, I was walking down a hallway at my college. A cute girl exited the bathroom in front of me. I opened her by asking her if this was her first day back to school (The college was closed for a week and a half due to Hurricane Sandy). We started talking about school. I asked her if she wanted to grab some food. She responded quickly with a smile, and offered me her number. 3 days later I texted her to set it up. She agreed and we meet up at Chipolte on a Wednesday. The date went fine. I asked what she was doing this weekend. She said she would be studying all weekend for this big Bio exam on Monday. I told her that I was going to a University of Maryland football game on Saturday.

Thursday- she texted me. Friday- she texted me. Saturday-she texted me. All bs, how is your day going type texts. My mistake was that I told her I would talk to her later. On Saturday night, when I got home around 9:50 pm I sent her a text telling her that. She did not respond. The next night (Sunday) I wished her good luck on her exam. She said Thanks. The next night (Monday) I asked her if she wanted to go to a bar crawl with me. She texted back saying that she has to work both Saturday and Sunday. I need that was bs and I have decided to drop her. I will move on from her. Sometimes girls enjoy stringing a guy along. The decent thing to do would be to ignore my texts but the majority of women are irrational.

Your best bet in a residental college with dorm rooms is to go out to bars. Approach as many chicks as possible. If you do not like the bar scene, walk around the town or a campus and approach girls. Chat them up and then number close them. I am going through the same flakey behavior with girls. Every guy who wishes to bang numerous cute girls must take their lumps. In the future, it would help you if you researched the area. It could have been possible for you to change venues with your new chick. If you pulled that off, it would have made it easier for you to get the ONS that night back at her place. Enjoy your thanksgiving and there will be more girls to bang in the future.

[Piffington]

(11-20-2012 12:57 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

You already care too much about this one. You should have pushed for the same night lay. Now, she is toying with you.

But, don't give up, hopefully she will meet you this weekend..

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She agreed to meet up this weekend
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yup definitely shoulda went for the SNL, anyways I called her the night I made my last post ITT and she said she would text me sometime after thanksgiving break. I'm really not counting on it, so whatever. Fucking dry spells man. And Great post from the tjf78, good to know I'm not the only one dealing with this BS. Hopefully by the time I graduate I'll be experienced enough to write up a little guide to getting laid as a commuter