[HiFlo]

So last night Im out and get the urgent need to grind up on the sloots at the club.

On the dance floor I see a blonde hottie and an ugly frat guy getting freaky. They look like they are literally humping on the dance floor with deep thrusts and hardcore hip gyrations. I watch for a few moments because I am terrible at grinding and am very turned on by this. I thought for sure they were bf/gf.

Later I see the frat guy alone and approach him asking, "man, I thought you were gonna pull that girl back to your car's backseat and fuck her brains out." He replies, "man, I don't know who that was but she looked great."

Long story short, I go, "How you do that, just start grinding on any sloot on the dance floor?" He goes, "yeah, watch this" and then he walks on the dance floor, spots a honey who's back is turned to him, goes up to her butt and starts rotating his pelvis in time with the music.

She automatically starts doing the reciprocal and they start to get freaky. After maybe 30 seconds she turns around and looks at him, he waves to her, she waves back and they give each other a hug as if they had known each other awhile but they had just met then & there.

I'm automatically hit by a wave of jealousy. I think to myself, "man, I been spending a shitload of time doing indirect dance floor approaching and never get anywhere, and this ugly frat boy practically gets laid on the dance floor without hardly even trying and without even looking at the girl, but just thrusting his pelvis against her backside and she digs it."

So I try to do the same, but every girl I approach gives me the evil eye after a few moments of me attempting to grind and then takes a few steps away from me on the dance floor while I'm left alone dancing like a chump by myself. Did this 5-6 times with poor results.

So my questions is...how the fuck do you do this?

[tiggaling]

You need to have the right documents from the right authorities and jurisdictions to just go up on girls and grind. And girls have eyes in the back of their heads and can read the papers. Guys with the right documents feel confident doing this for a good reason. No docs = no grind! Go and ask your friend where he got his papers and you should be fine... maybe.

[Kitsune]

"How you do that, just start grinding on any sloot on the dance floor?" He goes, "yeah, watch this" and then he walks on the dance floor, spots a honey who's back is turned to him, goes up to her butt and starts rotating his pelvis in time with the music.


Well, the guy kind of told you how to do it.

I'd stick a salami down your trousers for added effect, if you know what I mean.

I think realistically your approach rate will have to be higher doing this because your blow out rate will be high and most girls who grind up are looking for attention and won't put out at the end of the night.

[rationalize_this]

I almost never come up from behind a girl and just start grinding on her. Unless you're very good looking, whats going to happen is shes going to look at her friend, and her friend will give her some sort of signal if you're "creepy" or don't measure up to her looks expectations. Then she'll stop dancing with you after a few minutes, turn around do exactly what you just described.

The key is this, somehow position yourself around the bar so she has the opportunity to make eye contact with you while dancing. Once you get that eye contact, throw a little smirk back and be like a heat seeking missile. Go straight up to her, no hesitation, and say something indirect while going super direct with your body. Say "Nice moves, i bet i could give you a run for your money though." Then start dancing with her. This will reduce blow outs by 10x. I rarely ever get blown out when I go this route. Cockblocked though? That's a different story.

[HiFlo]

(09-28-2012 12:45 PM)rationalize_this Wrote:  

I almost never come up from behind a girl and just start grinding on her. Unless you're very good looking, whats going to happen is shes going to look at her friend, and her friend will give her some sort of signal if you're "creepy" or don't measure up to her looks expectations. Then she'll stop dancing with you after a few minutes, turn around do exactly what you just described.

Say "Nice moves, i bet i could give you a run for your money though." Then start dancing with her. This will reduce blow outs by 10x. I rarely ever get blown out when I go this route. Cockblocked though? That's a different story.

Yeah, I used to think this too, but over the last couple weeks I've seen time & time again that this untrue. Most - if not all - cold approach grinding on the dance floor where I'm at in the dirty south that is direct from behind. It seriously blows my mind, man.

Also, in the dirty south, there is NO dancing between girls and guys that is like normal people dancing. If a guy and girl dance down here, it's gonna be grinding and nothing else. If you DON'T grind within a minute or so you get blown out for sure. It's fucked up.

That, and recently - as long as I'm not too fucked up - I've consistently been getting girl-code approval among friends whenever I approach a group of girls.

[HiFlo]

(09-28-2012 10:56 AM)Kitsune Wrote:  

I think realistically your approach rate will have to be higher doing this because your blow out rate will be high and most girls who grind up are looking for attention and won't put out at the end of the night.

You're right, but I'm working on a strategy that involves approaching on the dance floor, then isolating to the bar to talk & flirt.

[chyamor]

the key is to only grind up on them for a few seconds , the rest of the time you should play hard to grind type game, she'll keep trying to back that ass up but the harder you make it the more horny she gets

[HiFlo]

Tried again tonight. Grinded up on 8 girls. They all gave me the 'go away' look and then they moved away. Tried the reverse grind (where guy grinds butt on girl) a couple times, that did not work either. I did have one success, I grinded up on a fattie for shits & giggles and she loved it. She was so glad someone in the club would grind on her that she went nuts, haha

[R Smoov]

You and I have the same grinding dilemnas man. haha.
Last night, I went to this party and it felt annoying as fuck. It was way too crowded and the girls on the dance floor were attention whoring. I grinded on a fattie as well last night, but as soon as I tried to make out she was not for it. (hey desperate times)

Grinding on girls at parties is relatively easy. And really easy for beginners because it requires little talking. But you want to know the problem? So many girls want to do that shit for attention.

Since you're new to grinding, I have one dance advice for you.Take them bitches to the wall. With your back on the wall and her backing it up, it makes it easier for you to get turned on.

Also, look out for girls with phones. If you spot one of them you usually have an attention whore 9/10. She will have her hands glued to that phone and not your pipe.

Flo, are you strong? What you can do if you have the proper strength (and if shes not fat/heavy) you can pick her up and start dancing that way.

Dance game is like a huge part of my game. Its annoying as shit due to attention whores and such, but a great way to release my sexual frustration.

[Snowflake]

Rosca do you mean pick her up while she keeps gyrating her hips in some way ? Wouldn't you leave picking her up for later when she's making out with you? I've always found that move really sexy

[RandalGraves]

One time I was grinding on a girl... seemed thin, body checked out... after grinding on her for a while, we stopped dancing and I discovered she had one of the worst cases of butterface I've ever seen.

That experience plus Samseau's dance game post has made me never really use the blind-grind. I usually approach from the front, pull them in to see if it takes, and then quickly get into a grind.

[chyamor]

where's that damn star trek pic when you need it.

[R Smoov]

(09-30-2012 11:55 AM)Snowflake Wrote:  

Rosca do you mean pick her up while she keeps gyrating her hips in some way ? Wouldn't you leave picking her up for later when she's making out with you? I've always found that move really sexy

You right i meant to say while dancing.

[Sourcecode]

Chymor mentioned it a little.
I'm surprised no one else said anything.

Grinding is like a push pull battle.
The same theory with kissing..you don't just go full blast. you gotta peck and the move out.

Of course you're gonna have a bunch of girls that will straight up decline, but the best strategy is to grind for a couple seconds and back off.
Let your touch be known..you want her to know you're there..but not outright invade her space.

After a couple seconds off..get back on the grind for a little longer.
just enough so she knows that youre trying to grind on her.
You don't want her confused thinking you bumped into her. At the same time..you need to be making deliberate movements.
Girls know when you're serious and when you're pussy footing around.
No chick wants a shy guy coming to grind on her.

@OP thats probably why your "ugly" friend does so well.
He goes right for what he wants with confidence and rubs is cock juice on the chick to mark his territory.
Thats what you gotta do.

The girl might look at you to check your looks.
Don't have some weird look on your face like you just got caught with your hand in the cookie jar.
Your face needs to have the expression of " Yea..thats my boner." But with a slight smile.
Again..you don't want a serious rapist face..or a pervert smile.

Then you can move forward to grabbing her hips or putting your hand around her stomach, ect.
Get closer and closer, however close you wanna get.

If all is going good at this point. Just improvise.
I like to wait till the girl has looked at me enough giving the right signals.. then go for the kiss.
Or if her back is still towards me, but she's in that "trance" that some girls seem to fall into...go for that awkward angle kiss where your head is down and hers is leaned back.(if youre the right height difference.


The dance floor...isnt made for talking. Don't try spit game while youre dancing.
You should say a couple words at max.
I never ask for a name or tell mine..cause I could care less.
My comment are usually "negs" like telling her that her rhythm is off in a joking way.

Is you get far enough to the kiss, I use the same line and tell her she's a horrible kisser and we should try that again.

The session ends when the chick goes off to the bathroom or whatever.
In a college,house party setting
It might be in your interest to gauge her will to dance..and try to grab her hand and walk off the dance area to a quieter area to talk to her.

Thats all I can think of off the top of my head.
Good luck

[HiFlo]

good stuff sourcecode. do you have a pic of the 'show me your boner' face?

[Sourcecode]

(09-30-2012 03:22 PM)HiFlo Wrote:  

good stuff sourcecode. do you have a pic of the 'show me your boner' face?

I've never given anyone a "show me your boner "face youll have to ask some chicks for that haha.

And I honestly cant find a good example of a "yea, thats my boner" face
Its all on the person.
The best I can think of..is the look of being smug..but not and asshole.
Its confidence. Inner game.

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[HiFlo]

you've never given anyone a 'show me your boner' face? hahahahahaha

I would thought a "here's my boner face" is more like the billy idol sexy sneer?


you're probably right, a smug wry smile is probably better.

[Sebastian]

Did you just start going to the club? I had days of just enjoying grinding girls. 'hey man, I danced with a hot chick over there' ROFL

Now I know if this girl is just a dance floor whore who will say 'nice grinding with you see ya' and leave.

If your goal is just grinding, fine but if you are looking for 1st date or bang that night, you shouldn't waste your time on those girls (you can use them as social proof to show to other girls though)

[HiFlo]

Man, kinda hittin em hard. Just started doing the "life of the party" thing which includes hittin up the bar and the dance floor.