Earlier today I was listening to the podcast of a rather famous ‘PUA,’ (I guess you can call him that) as he took a call from some guy who needed his advice. The caller’s problem is that he feels the girl he is currently dating is too good to be true. Apparently she’s nice looking, respectful, doing well in school, actually comes over and cooks for him, etc. During the call the guy says, “I think she might be too good to be true.” The host of the show chastises him a bit by saying that he should never feel a girl is too good to be true, which suggests he doesn’t deserve the treatment. He goes on to say that the qualities his girlfriend possess and the things she is doing for him is “normal” stuff for a girl to do, and that he’s just so used to dealing with “ratchet ass girls”, he can’t believe it’s true! What sad commentary that a guy is so dismayed by his girl's good behavior that he feels compelled to call into a dating advice show! Granted, this guy could simply be a weirdo and perhaps most men wouldn't have given it another thought, but I don't think so. Perhaps most wouldn't be weirded out by a woman being what is essentially basically cooperative, but I do feel most men would find it very different from what their used to, and even worthy of mentioning to friends!
I thought about the statement of the host. “Those things are normal stuff for a girl to do.” Then I thought, “Is it normal?” I mean, is it today’s normal? I too feel that a decent looking guy with decent game and decent income should be able to find a decent girl. But is that now a normal situation? In fact, if it was normal, shouldn’t a girl be willing to come over and cook, make herself look pretty for you, act happy when you call, not respond to your calls with a text message, stay in school or work a good job, be supportive and suck a mean dick, be the rule and not the exception. However, even under my best dating circumstances, I had to deal with either the threat of being cheated on, (roving eye) or the treat of being broken up with if I didn't fit my attitude to match their ideal. As I continued to listen to the podcast, I thought, “Maybe my (and the announcers) version of normal was 1950’s normal. Maybe there really are more bad women than there are good."
Are we honestly living at a time where finding a basic (normal) good woman is no longer a normal happening, or is it truly just a case of dealing with bottom of barrel women, whom we had no business dealing with in the first place, and then unfairly judging the rest of American womankind based of the experiences with the few “ratchet ass” girls we’ve had the displeasure of knowing?
To be fair, I see couples all over who appear to be happy. Little, beta looking white boys in North Face jackets, holding hands with the cutest blonde girls, slim with perfectly white teeth, drinking coffee at Peet’s. Soy milk, of course. They certainly seem happy, and she seems as pure as Snow White! Perhaps their normal is just different from mine? Or maybe their situation is abnormal?