Quote: (08-26-2012 08:29 AM)CtrlAltElite Wrote:
Pool party last night, or this morning. Girl was a 6, maybe a 7.
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Me: "Hey."
Her: "Hey."
She looks at me for a moment.
Her: "I really like your shorts."
Me: Smirk and say "I wish I could say the same about your outfit."
Her: "That's rude!", but smiling
Me: "Just being honest." I put my arms up, like "what are you gonna do?"
Her: Still smiling, "That's so rude!", backturns and walks away.
Laugh at me if you want. I got shit from my roommates for that. I'm 0 for 3 now, 2 major fuckups. This one, and calling the other girl fat. They told me to compliment her in return, but they're getting more action than I am, so I don't know anymore.
I'm really having a hard time adapting. When I go out, I always feel like I am not fitting in, I'm very self-conscious. Furthermore, reading "Conquer Your Campus" and this is giving me conflicting advice. The book stresses being a confident, cool guy while not approaching, only running social circle game. It reasons that approaching girls in college gives you a "creepy pickup guy" stigma. Yet, the posts here are telling me to approach all day everyday.
Like other guys have said, you should be more playful when talking shit to a girl. Say it with a smile on your face, try to keep it humorous.
This is a good example of how to keep some sense of humor while teasing a girl:
Quote: (08-26-2012 11:23 PM)RioNomad Wrote:
"I wish I could say the same about your shorts. Is that a stain?! What is that? Why are you wearing dirty shorts to the pool? Here, let me loan you a quarter to do your laundry."
You see how Rio is making a joke out of it? That's what you want to do. Don't try to be a dick, its better to try and be funny!
Quote: (08-26-2012 08:29 AM)CtrlAltElite Wrote:
Furthermore, reading "Conquer Your Campus" and this is giving me conflicting advice. The book stresses being a confident, cool guy while not approaching, only running social circle game. It reasons that approaching girls in college gives you a "creepy pickup guy" stigma. Yet, the posts here are telling me to approach all day everyday.
Okay, let me address this
"conflicting advice" issue. "Conquer Your Campus" is telling you not to approach, we are telling you to approach alot. So, what should you do?
The answer is BOTH. Let me explain...
"Conquer Your Campus" is correct, you don't want to approach to much at your school because you might get labeled a creeper. Better to just be social, have fun, make friends, party, and get some social circle game going.
But, you can still approach like crazy, just do that
off campus. When you go downtown, when you are on public transportation, when you are out of town, when you are at the mall, walking down the street, etc. YOU CAN APPROACH LIKE CRAZY!!! These girls will never see you again!
When you get back on campus, chill out, don't approach so hard. You can still approach on campus but on campus approaches have to be less aggressive.
Let me breakdown the 2 different types of approaches..
Off-Campus -
These are for girls that you will most likely never see again - You can go all out, go direct, go ballsy, go bold, touch her, go for insta-date, go for makeout, go for number, etc. Have fun. Use these as training tools, get over your approach anxiety, get over your fears, make mistakes, have fun, learn.
On-Campus -
These are for girls that you will probably see around school - Be more indirect, just make friendly conversation, go "elderly" style. Don't try to get numbers unless its really going well and she is asking you about yourself. Just ask where the library is and stuff like that. These are more friendly openers. This is more just conversational practice and not actual pick up. Just practice starting and holding conversations, don't be too sexually aggressive with these.
Don't try to number close or anything like that (unless she is giving you iois)
Talk as much as you can to everyone, girls, teachers, staff, food court workers, coffee shop workers, everyone, just get talking and socializing!
Now, you don't have to be conflicted. You can approach like crazy the way we tell you to here on the forum AND you can be social and build your social circle game on campus, all at the same time. Hope that makes sense.
Check out the "back to school" thread for ideas on how to expand your social circle and expose yourself to more girls:
Back to School Ideas
