Great post at Heartiste:
"Perhaps one way to conceptualise why women don’t like emotional/sensitive guys would be to consider this.
Men value women for their sexual intimacy, while women value men for the emotional intimacy.
Now men don’t want a relationship with a woman who is promiscuous with her sexual intimacy as it either indicates she has low value, or potential for cuckoldry.
Perhaps women don’t want relationships with emotional/sensitive guys as these men are promiscuous with their emotional intimacy. And their emotional promiscuity indicates they are either low value or have a potential for abandonment.
So a niceguy is to women, what a slut is to a man.
Now, when you here feminist therapists telling men they they should be more sensitive and get in touch with their feminine side and what not, those therapists are no different from some old sleazy lecher trying to convince women that it’s in their best interest to sleep around and experiment with their sexuality in the hopes that the woman will sleep with them.
Basically, telling men to be more sensitive is a ploy to make it easier for women to use men, just as telling women to be more sexually open would be a ploy to make it easier for men to use women."
It got me thinking that the game/war between men and women might just be one big miscommunication. By understanding it a as semantic dissonance, maybe we can remove a lot of resentment from the game. This might help guys to not take rejection personally, or harbor anger towards girls who reject their bad game.
This is important if we actually do want to get to a place where we are in more in control of our emotional intimacy. So, it could be helpful to build on this and seek out other equivalences:
Here's one:
Girls usually smile when they are nervous, not when they are happy. But when they experience pleasure there is a look of pain- like when that look they get when you are fucking them really hard.
It's kind of like the girl speak/action translation:
Girl talking about other men in front of you = "I don't see you as a potential lover"
"Perhaps one way to conceptualise why women don’t like emotional/sensitive guys would be to consider this.
Men value women for their sexual intimacy, while women value men for the emotional intimacy.
Now men don’t want a relationship with a woman who is promiscuous with her sexual intimacy as it either indicates she has low value, or potential for cuckoldry.
Perhaps women don’t want relationships with emotional/sensitive guys as these men are promiscuous with their emotional intimacy. And their emotional promiscuity indicates they are either low value or have a potential for abandonment.
So a niceguy is to women, what a slut is to a man.
Now, when you here feminist therapists telling men they they should be more sensitive and get in touch with their feminine side and what not, those therapists are no different from some old sleazy lecher trying to convince women that it’s in their best interest to sleep around and experiment with their sexuality in the hopes that the woman will sleep with them.
Basically, telling men to be more sensitive is a ploy to make it easier for women to use men, just as telling women to be more sexually open would be a ploy to make it easier for men to use women."
It got me thinking that the game/war between men and women might just be one big miscommunication. By understanding it a as semantic dissonance, maybe we can remove a lot of resentment from the game. This might help guys to not take rejection personally, or harbor anger towards girls who reject their bad game.
This is important if we actually do want to get to a place where we are in more in control of our emotional intimacy. So, it could be helpful to build on this and seek out other equivalences:
Here's one:
Girls usually smile when they are nervous, not when they are happy. But when they experience pleasure there is a look of pain- like when that look they get when you are fucking them really hard.
It's kind of like the girl speak/action translation:
Girl talking about other men in front of you = "I don't see you as a potential lover"