Before you can have a conversation, you first have to say "hi". Then you can say "how are you today?".
It sounds like this is not a problem for you..
Quote: (08-01-2012 12:02 AM)JamesLouie Wrote:
If im in a public place (especially with friends) i can go up to a girl and start speaking to her, however the problem is when i do my mind goes blank and i have no clue what to say
So, approaching is not a problem for you. You are just an inexperienced conversationalist. You need to talk to more people. You need to start talking to everybody and anybody. Practice your conversation with whoever you can.
Talk about what is on your mind...
You are out in public with friends, what are you guys doing?,
just be honest...
"hi how are you"
"whats up girls"
They will say..."
good", "
fine and you", or "
hey whats up"
Ask a basic question..
"
This place is pretty cool isn't it"
"what do you think of this place?"
"is this place always so crowded/empty"
They will say..."
ya, its cool" or "i
don't know yet, we've never been here"
You say what you guys are doing..
"i
m here with my friends, we are just hanging out, i gotta go back to school next month"
"me and my boys are hanging out, enjoying the last month of summer"
"this place is cool, i come here alot with my friends"
Just say what the fuck you are doing. You don't need any special tricks or routines..
"
we were thinking of going to the concert"
"we don't know what the fuck we are doing"
"i'm gonna ditch my friends and go get a slice of pizza, im starving"
Say whatever is on your mind. You can't really pre-plan your conversation because you are just a beginner. Keep it simple. Speak honestly about what you are doing..
I know what you are gonna say..
But Gio, my mind goes blank right after my opener...
Thats because you haven't had enough practice.
Your mind goes blank because you care too much about the interaction. You are not relaxed and free and not giving a fuck. You get nervous. Thats ok, we all went through that in the beginning stages. What you need to do now is practice more, approach more, get into more of these situations.
You got the opener part down. Now, you need to be able to express yourself naturally, don't worry about impressing her, just fucking talk for your own sake. Talk because you are practicing your game. It doesn't matter what she thinks. You are talking for you and your game development. Just use her for practice. Be honest, say whats on your mind.
Maybe, what comes out is.."
hey i thought you were cute and i wanted to come say hi".
Thats great. We all did that in the beginning. Its ok because it is your honest feeling. It will be sincere and she will no that you are not playing. Fuck it, put yourself out there like that, Thats the only way to grow and learn and improve.
Keep it simple, just talk from the heart. Don't seek her approval. Fuck what she thinks! Its not about her, its about you!
Do 1000 approaches and your problem will be fixed!