[Marco]

I met this girl in a dance bar, she is 19 years old, solid 9 with a bit of conservative background.
At the start she did not give a shit about me in the bar but outside I have talked to her a bit and later took her home with my expensive car so it changed the picture a bit and she agreed to give me her Facebook, but not phone number.

In FB I was able to attract her more so she agreed to meet me later for a date, still without giving me her phone.

So we scheduled tentatively for today but now she said she is too tired and will tell me in the evening if she can meet or not, this is obviously a shit test.

I would be happy to know from a solid player what is the good response for this and how should I act in order to secure a date with her.
If any more details required I would be happy to provide.

[ABDada]

Becoming Facebook "friends" with her was failing a shit test.

I can't imagine how Facebook can ever help a guy score a gal, especially a hot one who is already getting her validation from her hundreds of beta orbiters.

If you can't get the digits, it's bounce-time. I don't care how hot she is, you freeze her out until the digits are scored.

More likely you should have freezed her out until SNL or just evicted her from your apartment completely.

Too much work for one broad.

[Marco]

I beg to differ.
With this one it was either FB or nothing. And I had few cases in the past which FB later contributed to a date and a bang.
She is also LTR material, so I dont mind about quick sex, I want this girl for more.

[ABDada]

How is she LTR material? What are her Facebook photos like? What activities does she like to do that show that she's docile and demure enough for an LTR?

The "few cases" that ended up in a bang are too time consuming for me to consider, when there are so many better, faster, easier options.

Just my 2 cents -- I don't like wasting my time chasing women when it is the women who are far better at chasing me.

[Marco]

Shes LTR cause she have great combination of looks, good character which I like (from first impressions) and she also conservative and will bang only when LTR- good assumption.
I understand this is not for you, this is for me, I am willing to do the efforts to get this girl.

I would appreciate other real inputs.

[HiFlo]

(09-05-2012 10:04 AM)Marco Wrote:  

She is also LTR material, so I dont mind about quick sex, I want this girl for more.

sheeeeet, the only way i've ever been able to get in a relationship girl is to fuck her first by the 2nd or 3rd (at most) 'date', then from hang-out/fuck-buddy status get into a relationship.

sounds like you're thinkin a lot about her and you barely know her. I doubt you've even crossed her mind for more than a fleeting instant over the last couple weeks.

[Greek kamaki]

She has boyfriend.

[XXL]

classic yellow light. you had rather weak first interaction hence she's on the fence hardcore.

this is not a shittest. she's just not interested in you enough to reorganise her plans to meet up with you so she's leading you on. keep your cool. give her space. forget about her for a while, meet other girls. respond to her text after few hours. stuff like that. whatever you do give less of a fuck than her.

pushy texts will not get you anything

[JohnKreese]

If I'm talking to a girl and she offers to get my number, I say no.
If I'm talking to a girl and she offers to "Facebook" me, I walk away.
Girls like this aren't worth your time and they certainly aren't "relationship material"
You'll thank me later

[Greek kamaki]

She has boyfriend that is why she gave you facebook so the boyfriend does not see messages or calls.She will use you to increase her value to boyfriend or play hard to get to increase her value to you.

[Samseau]

She doesn't give a damn about you but gave you her facebook so she could have a rich beta orbiter chasing her ass around.


If she's ever in need of help, now she knows who to go to.

[WestCoast]

You have posted a thread about a single girl. You lost already. Next!!!!

For every "9" there are 900 dude's trying to get in there.

[Marco]

Thanks for the feedback.
I will sit on the fence for now, keeping low profile, and see how it goes. I assume XXL description is the logical explanation.
She does not have a permanent boyfriend, this is something that you can know from FB of girls with loads of pictures and status updates, she might see someone, this can also make sense.
I disagree with the attitude that a girl do not worth my time if she does not shows high interest from the start,
Girls with high caliber requires efforts, especially the LTR potential ones, if you are not willing to make that effort and go for the easier options you will get less high caliber girls.

And if I posted about single girl it does not mean I do not chase other in parallel

[XXL]

maybe i was to vague

what i mean is focus on other girls as you do and in between shoot her a quick funny texts from time to time ("today is international day of chocolate. bon appetit"). maybe invite her out to some party or venue you already heading to with your crew. or send her email with some useful stuff relevant to her interest etc. basically all of these things add something cool to her life. not everyday, not every 2 days, just from time to time. if she rejects your invitation and "can't" go out with you just say "ok" and try in next 1-2 week

no clingy shit

you actually could be pushy if she knew how cool you are. but now she only knows what she saw about you earlier which is not enough. any kind of clinging will be probably repulsing.

[Marco]

So I waited about a week and as you recommended sent her a funny message but in FB, I do not have her phone yet.
After few replies I suggested to meet up at Saturday night, she responded that she is spontaneous and we should talk in Saturday evening cause she might be tired and she prefer not to set a date and later cancel.
It might be the hard to get move she is doing but also possible that she has few options and I am not the 1st priority.

So she actually put me on standby, and not only that, I can only contact her in Saturday evening.
The question is if to be her puppy and message her again that evening or to play hard to get myself.

I would appreciate your thoughts and advise (please refrain of replies recommending going after other girls)

[rationalize_this]

(09-12-2012 02:55 PM)Marco Wrote:  

So I waited about a week and as you recommended sent her a funny message but in FB, I do not have her phone yet.
After few replies I suggested to meet up at Saturday night, she responded that she is spontaneous and we should talk in Saturday evening cause she might be tired and she prefer not to set a date and later cancel.
It might be the hard to get move she is doing but also possible that she has few options and I am not the 1st priority.

So she actually put me on standby, and not only that, I can only contact her in Saturday evening.
The question is if to be her puppy and message her again that evening or to play hard to get myself.

I would appreciate your thoughts and advise (please refrain of replies recommending going after other girls)

Delete your FB.

[BigAlexBoss]

Bitch is playing you like a validation carp on the line, and you are chomping on that tasty bait.

[Marco]

(09-12-2012 04:33 PM)rationalize_this Wrote:  

(09-12-2012 02:55 PM)Marco Wrote:  

So I waited about a week and as you recommended sent her a funny message but in FB, I do not have her phone yet.
After few replies I suggested to meet up at Saturday night, she responded that she is spontaneous and we should talk in Saturday evening cause she might be tired and she prefer not to set a date and later cancel.
It might be the hard to get move she is doing but also possible that she has few options and I am not the 1st priority.

So she actually put me on standby, and not only that, I can only contact her in Saturday evening.
The question is if to be her puppy and message her again that evening or to play hard to get myself.

I would appreciate your thoughts and advise (please refrain of replies recommending going after other girls)

Delete your FB.

Why?

(09-13-2012 03:07 AM)BigAlexBoss Wrote:  

Bitch is playing you like a validation carp on the line, and you are chomping on that tasty bait.

So please advise what you suggest to do in order to progress with her.

[mental]

Dude, you have a case of oneitis. There's almost nothing you can do. As said above, forget about her and move on. Or make out with a girl in front of her. Everything else you do has a high probability of failing. You are already more invested in her than she's in you, and the one who's more invested loses.

[Marco]

Any other advise? XXL?