Quote: (07-25-2012 10:36 AM)XXL Wrote:It's certainly a different take on how to build attraction. It might be that I'm explaining things wrong, and not noticing stages, or it may be that my style mixes up all the stages into a jumble. Or it may be that intimacy itself is a hook that can be used at any stage.
it's super risky thread you made xsplat cause the only guys who can read it and can see it working pretty well, even if it's not a big part of their style, are true fucking hardcore players with dope game.
you know why? cause real players don't give a fuck about specific personal styles of game and we also know that in our case, being nice is actually good/beneficial cause it makes us more relatable and humanistic. we're like.. "yeah, maybe, you know, girls get so happy when i talk about my feelings and shit, they want me more, it's all good.."
the rest dudes will object like fucking crazy cause your ideas mess with their black and white point of view (you're asshole or you're nice guy, there's no grey area in between, never ever ever blablablabla..)
I just re-read your post that you link to in your signature. Sounds like you've found your own style too. For you an emotional connection doesn't lead to the friend zone, but is erotic. You blend together comfort building with assuming the sale. You just know what works, and only later try to explain it.
I made a post recently about my years in sales. My vendor buddies all had very different styles. My sales style for selling to college girls was so oblique as to be similar to elderly game. I never talked up the products, or even mentioned them. I was all about building an emotional connection to the girls - getting them to tell me her stories. And make them laugh. That's what I did, day after day, year after year. That made me money. My buddy had a totally different style - he was about making the sale. He was even better at his job than me, but that never made me want to switch styles. I don't think it would have worked to try.
I don't see myself as a hardcore dope player, but there are times when I really feel in my groove, and I simply know that everything is working. My mojo fills up the room, and me and the girl find our funk together right away. You get your flow moments, and only after the fact can you try to explain them. So this is my attempt to explain how those moments work for me.