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07-15-2012, 11:09 AM
This is maybe a weird question but I just got a really long email from my sister about all the stuff shes doing, and its nice keeping in touch and everything, but at the moment Im more or less 100% focussed on game, so I can either write back a senseless balls email about nothing or just actually tell her what Ive been up to.
The thing is with the non-initiated/women, talking about game doesnt feel right, I know she wont understand and will take it as me having some kind of a melt down, but on the other hand I think Im pretty much done with pretending Im not chasing poon, and I think Id feel a lot more alpha about myself if I just said straight up "I dont have a girlfriend because Im boning three girls". What do you guys do, are you close enough with your family to be more or less honest or do you just not mention the women? I guess my question is how do you talk about your lifestyle with your family?
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07-15-2012, 11:29 AM
I don't.
It's been covered on the forum. Family and friends won't understand. That's why it's called the red pill. Or put another way:
"To those who have had the experience, no explanation is necessary. To those who have not, no explanation is possible."
If anyone asks, I just say, "Things are going well." and change the subject.
"...so I gave her an STD, and she STILL wanted to bang me."
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07-15-2012, 11:37 AM
This same topic has come up 2 or 3 times, and I can't understand why you would need to talk about this with your family? "I dont have a girlfriend because Im boning three girls" is not a sentence you really need to speak to your sister. Does your sister tell you how many guys dicks she sucked this month?
Just tell your sister what you have been up to. Working, going to the gym, going to the bar, whatever. If she specifically asked you about girls, you could say "No, I don't have a girlfriend. I'm seeing a couple girls, but nothing serious." and leave it at that.
It might just be me, but I really don't think you need to discuss game with your family. Maybe it's because I come from an old school biker family so my mom/sister know exactly how I am and see my lifestyle as a "mans" lifestyle. Drinking, fighting and chasing girls is what men do in my family. If I didn't do these things, they would think I was weird.
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07-15-2012, 01:22 PM
Just saw your post XXL, its like the Roosh post on most people want you to fail. Well fuck it then, what can you do, Ill just chat to you guys
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07-15-2012, 02:09 PM
I guess I'm an idiot.
My family knows.
Yep you read that right. Everyone knows, they know every girl they see is just going to leave soon. They know it is EXTREMELY unlikely that they'll ever see grand kids from me.
The best part? They encourage it.
Why? Because that's "GAME" convince anyone and everyone of your beliefs. That's "game".
The only people you need to lie to are people who have iron clad beliefs against it. IE: super pussies, for my profession... clearly work is the only place where i lie.
But what do i know i am just a 20's something "kid".
As always, if people SEE success over and over and over and over they can't help but give up... Now you've won.
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07-15-2012, 02:55 PM
Not you specifically, he was talking about how most people will resent other people they see as more successful than them, that think originally or are genuinely pursuing their goals, which in my experience is about right.
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07-15-2012, 03:05 PM
48 Laws of Power: Law 4 - Always Say Less than Necessary
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07-15-2012, 06:49 PM
I agree with West on this one.
I remember texting my mom that I had sex on the beach with my FB for this summer. She texted me back,
"Don't get caught playing hide the salami"
It annoyed me that my mom said that at first. But she didn't even snap at me. The only time my mom or stepop use my gaming success and failures against me is when they are really pissed at me.
Just speak of game in a positive way to your family and I'm sure they will respect your decision to live life in that way.
Teach your little cousin how to get a number. Go to the club with your little bro and tell him to dance with those girls next to them.
Doing things like that just makes talking game to your family a little less odd. And if they don't accept it, then just sell the lie and live the truth.
Nope.
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07-15-2012, 06:57 PM
The first thing you want to understand when discussing topics with your family is that appearing fearful or vulnerable is the best way to get into a weeks-long argument or schism. Just say something like "I cannot marry because the dating market and marriage laws are so horrible for men", and generally leave it at that.
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07-15-2012, 08:09 PM
Quote: (07-15-2012 03:05 PM)Nineteen84 Wrote:
48 Laws of Power: Law 4 - Always Say Less than Necessary
There's often very little to gain from saying more than the minimum. I would sometimes entertain people with stories of my escapades, but came to realise that sharing them was mostly about needing validation.
I'll tell friends who understand, but to everyone else I just keep it simple.
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07-15-2012, 11:02 PM
It's pointless. My mom asked me yesterday why I want to travel so much. She said you should get married, have kids and then go traveling. I can't think of a worse thing.
My dad tells me to get married asap.
My sister thinks I'm a whore and disgusting, but she doesn't hold it against me. I'm honest with her since I want her to know what some guys are like. I cringe at some of the things the guys she dates do for her (flowers, multiple high priced dates, etc.) Ironically she is still willing to set me up with her friends, but they are all prudes and given the "image" they all care about I'd never get a bang.
My brother gets it a bit. But he doesn't fully embrace it.
My uncle gets it. He was a natural when younger. Different girls every night, living it up, girls paying for him, etc. Gave into the pressure, I remember his mom and family yelling at him to get married and give it up. He finally caved, and is outrageously unhappy, almost got divorced and just tells me all about his banging stories. I feel for him.
One of my clients gets it. Knows I love to bang and travel. His niece is smoking hot, I'd love to do something about it but not sure how to go about it. Met her a few times at social events, everyone there said they noticed she was into me. Still, dangerous territory because of the relationship to my client. Last I heard she was dating some guy with a Bentley. Even if I did go after her and got her, I couldn't just pump and dump for the reasons stated. Not that I'd want to, given her hotness.
My friends, some get it some don't. I've noticed the ones that do best with girls are either 1) very bold, or 2) smooth talkers. Commonality is high sense of style. Those that get it never are happy when they LTR it up. They always come back. Except one, who married way up with a very stand out blonde girl. He still games girls then stops short of any physical contact. I actually strategize my dates/bangs/plans with him almost with every girl.
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07-16-2012, 12:35 AM
They don't ask about my life, I don't tell. I know that they have a fairly strong traditional view on relationships, though they're pretty accepting about anything I do. That being said, my family doesn't know shit about my life. At most it's something like:
"How was your night?"
"Yeah, pretty good."
It's difficult/constricting living back with my parents again, but soon I'll be moving out again, and shit will be going down with full force.
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07-16-2012, 01:32 AM
Like Rio has been saying, you don't go into fucking details. You don't want to hear about your mom's sex life or whatever else either. But if you remove the psychopathy and venom from describing your game, and just put in a common sense tone, you'll be surprised how much people will agree with you about red pill principles. I've gone into MRA-style rants about how I don't want to get a marriage licence, how guys get raped in custody battles, how most kidnappings in the developed world are from custody battles and so on with my mother and first dates and a they agree with me. One date said "Yeah, I wouldn't really want to do that either if I was in that position" and that date went pretty well. You got to remember women are human beings too.
I think a lot game principles add some psychopathic shock value so it feels more truthy, or it's coming from beta rage, but if you just spin it the right way, most will agree with you.
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07-16-2012, 06:29 PM
When you know how to frame things to your advantage, you can tell anyone anything.
I always talk to both my family and girls about social dynamics and they all enjoy it. The key is to just talk about social dynamics,lol not just pumping and dumping chick's.
I teach my parents how to get ahead at work and with their friends and even pointers for their own marriage. My little brother is a Mack with the knowledge and my sister can spot a lame dude from miles away. If you have red pill knowledge and understand it enough to help your family, why not? The key though is how you frame it or they will think your nuts. slowly hit them with the truth
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07-17-2012, 04:40 PM
Just give it a positive spin, everybody likes the charming seducer, e.g.
- I'm just dating around, I met a lot of different girls, but none of them was "the one"
- all these girls like me so much, it's hard to pick just one...
Usually male members of the family are very understanding, I had my uncle high-fiving me when I told him about all the different girls I've been seining, he said he was just like that before he got married. Parents may be less understanding, especially as you get older, since they want grandkids.