[Juan Antonio]

Recap from Friday night:

Wingman and I approach a 2-set early on in the night in a quiet area of dive bar. We exchange introductions. I chat up a petite blonde, he chats up her friend, a half-Asian/half-white mixed girl. About 20 minutes in mixed girl wants to leave and drags the blonde along. We both number close before they leave. I tell blonde I'll text her later that night, she seems down. We let them go and chat up other girls.

About an hour later we see them both on the dance floor. Petite blonde is on front-to-front grinding up on some dude, looking drunk. Mixed girl plays the mother hen and acts like a tease; she dances with random dudes who try to get up on her for a song or two, then walks off and pulls her friend away. I see this going down repeatedly over the course of the night.

Sometime later my wingman sees mixed girl and blonde come back from the washroom. He attempts to reengage mixed girl, but she barely acknowedges him and walks straight back towards the dance floor, friend in tow.

They both leave the club alone.

I text petite blonde two nights later and she gives me the "I have a bf" line.

What was the mistake here?

[thegmanifesto]

(07-03-2012 10:19 AM)Juan Antonio Wrote:  

What was the mistake here?

The mistake was you only focused on these two girls.

[Juan Antonio]

No g we chatted up several other girls and grinded with a couple but these two were the hottest and most promising. I thought we had built enough attraction/comfort/rapport in the initial 20 minute interaction.

Was the mistake in not leading them to the dance floor while we had the initial momentum? Because it seemed as if all the attraction and comfort we had built initially had fizzled an hour later.

[Nudge]

Not sure you can call it a missed lay opportunity if you didnt even kiss them. They just wanted some attention from random dudes in the club. Chicks do shit like this all the time, no point worrying about what you did wrong. Eventually youll learn how to screen out these attention whores so it wont be an issue.

[Juan Antonio]

I don't think they were attention whores, the mixed girl showed a lot of interest in my wing during the initial interaction (asking him personal questions, handing out her number). As did the blonde with me. She turned out to be a huge cockblock later on in the night, and maybe it got to the point towards last call that she lumped us together with all the other sleazy guys in the dance floor.

I'd like to hear what the seasoned players would've done in this situation.

[pitt]

Dude there is nothing you could have done. You know how many girls i have kissed/feeled up in the club and after the club i didnt take them home? LOTS

That shit happens to everybody. You didnt do anything wrong. Girls will either be interested in you or not interested in you. Even if you had don Juan game, i dont think you would have closed that night.

[hypesession]

Welcome to the missed lay opportunity club.

[XXL]

yeah yeah seems like that half-Asian/half-white mixed bitch was nasty so you had really limited chances to pull something off. i hate shit like that. once i was pissed so much when similar nasty girl tried to it that i started shouting telling her to GTFO cause we're having romantic moment with her friend, that we needed some fucking privacy and that we would get back to her in 2 minutes etc. surprisingly she was taken aback probably only becaue my girl was laughing. but i did it only once so i can't say it's really effective

next time go talk to other people especially when you see that there's a bitchy hen in a group you like

[Samseau]

Listen dude:

If a girl walks away from you before you kiss her, chances are high you will never bang her.

I am so confident in the above statement I would bet money on any man not banging a girl he met in the club who leaves him before the kiss.

It doesn't matter if the excuse is "I have to go to the bathroom," or "I need to get back to my friends," or "My cell phone has poor reception," the bottom line is that she left you.

Judge by her actions and not her words.


And if the girl does leave you, for any reason at all, your next move is to forget her and hit on other chicks or talk to your buddy. If the girl likes you it's up to her to go back to you at this point.

If you do kiss her and she still leaves for some reason, then you do the same thing: mack on other girls and forget about her. If she likes you she'll come back to you.

HOWEVER, the way she comes back might not be very forward... instead she'll dance next to you, or sit on a couch across from you and keep making eye contact with you.

This is girl code for "I've checked out all the guys in the club, and I like you the most so please bang me".