[reaper23]

Someone asked me to drop a data sheet on Tantric sex. I will do that at some point later in this thread, but here is something I posted at another site a while back. Good starts here:


To learn more about how to handle the spiritual side of sex I suggest learning all you can about Tantra philosophies and Tantric Sex. These books have helped me and you should read them:

http://www.amazon.com/28-Days-Ecstasy-Co...447&sr=8-9

http://www.amazon.com/Introduction-Tantr...447&sr=8-1

http://www.amazon.com/Urban-Tantra-Sacre...543&sr=8-4

For Domination, BDSM and other kink elements like that, here are a few good books to get the idea. This books are considered "canon" in the bdsm community. Don't be alarmed, some of the discussions are definitely male-male or female-female - thats how it is the kink community. lots of "pan sexuality." but that doesn't mean what they have to say don't apply.

http://www.amazon.com/New-Topping-Book-N...727&sr=8-3

http://www.amazon.com/New-Bottoming-Book...727&sr=8-1

http://www.amazon.com/Loving-Dominant-Jo...727&sr=8-4

http://www.amazon.com/Jay-Wisemans-Eroti...812&sr=8-1

If you want to get into ropes, which is where I'm spending most of my time right now check out these:

http://www.amazon.com/Bondage-Sex-Chanta...=1-3-spell

http://www.amazon.com/Knotty-Showing-Rop...894&sr=1-1

http://www.amazon.com/Shibari-You-Can-Us...894&sr=1-3

my favorite:

http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-1...946&sr=1-2

http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-2...946&sr=1-3


That should get you going with the reading and other resources.

I firmly believe that being a master fucker is the key to this whole thing. Once you know in your heart that you can thrash that bitch in no way anyone every has, gaining her unyielding loyalty and straight up dick addiction - it translates backwards into your approach game and mid game.

I think some guys get weary of approaching girls because they are worried what happens if you actually get them into the bedroom.

Or some guys can get the medium game down but can't move past one night stands or cant create a stable of women to fuck...this is because they can't fuck.

Each and every girl I fuck says the same thing: I'm the best they ever had and will ever have again. They are "dickmytized" and this is the goal.

And my number one piece of advice for fucking like a champ is two fold:

1) Fuck her like the wild man you are
2) listen to her body the entire time.

Come on, yes you're fucking her 'just the way you want to' but you also are trying to mush her brain up by giving her orgasms and making her addicted to you. If she moans, do that again. If her breath rate increases, do that again. If her chest is getting red, do that again. Likewise follow the opposite sounds.....find the spots in her pussy that she likes. Some chicks go for clit only so go for deeeeep bottom pussy and others are G spot oriented. figure that out quickly and go for it. and by all means, once you've made her come a couple of times, just rag that bitch out any way you want...call her your fuck toy, fuck hole, tell her you're using her body to jerk off..anything nasty...they'll love it.

[Monte Cristo]

Been reading stuff here for awhile and imo more guys need to hear this message.

Women are naturally submissive and want to be led. Yes, there are shit tests and yes, they will say otherwise but there are certain basic truths a well fucked woman will acknowledge.

Women, in general, are dirtier than men. They think about sex more often than men realize and about far more weird shit than men can imagine. They don't want to take responsibility for what they do and want you to 'make' them do it, much like Game, they want to be able to say 'it just happened'. Because they are sexually submissive they will reflect back to you whatever your vibe is. If you are not getting the results you want the first place to look for answers is your own vibe because women are perfect mirrors.

Guys who focus on their cocks are missing the point. Female sexuality is all mental. The place to start fucking a woman is with your mind. Always lead, never ask. Dirty talk is their life blood. Start with things like "You like when I touch you like this, don't you?" as you stroke her. Always get a 'Yes'. Make it a Yes ladder. "You want to be my dirty girl girl, don't you?" "Yes" "You feel so fucking good, don't you?" etc. When you get compliance and several yeses, start the 'Tell me' game. "Tell me you're my dirty girl" Have her repeat it. Escalate. "Tell me you're my little slut" etc. This is chick crack and they will get addicted to you. Keep your clothes on while you make them get naked.

Escalated properly girls will be repeating the filthiest stuff back to you. Done properly you can get a woman orgasming with minimal physical stimulation and she will be your slave.

Fair warning, this kind of sex can be incredibly powerful for a woman and if you don't want to keep her it's better not to take her to these places.

[boycottamericanwomen]

Out of those 3 books you posted about tantra, if you had time to read only one, which would you suggest? From a brief glance, it seems that 2 of those books are mostly like pictorial types of books, the typical "here are 30 different karma sutra positions" books I've seen before. The other one looks a lot more philosophical, this one http://www.amazon.com/Introduction-Tantr...447&sr=8-1

[Monte Cristo]

(05-27-2014 05:48 AM)boycottamericanwomen Wrote:  

Out of those 3 books you posted about tantra, if you had time to read only one, which would you suggest? From a brief glance, it seems that 2 of those books are mostly like pictorial types of books, the typical "here are 30 different karma sutra positions" books I've seen before. The other one looks a lot more philosophical, this one http://www.amazon.com/Introduction-Tantr...447&sr=8-1

Bear in mind that Tantra is a philosophy, it is basically Buddhism for the material world. If this interests you generally, the book you identified is a good one.

I don't think it's necessary to go that deep if you are looking for sexual energy play. I suggest starting with something like David Shade's "Secrets of Female Sexuality" to connect with a sexually dominant mindset. As you develop a more dominant set of beliefs you will find the polarity between your dominance and her submissiveness will create amazing opportunities for energy play.

Again, the key is dirty talk. As you dominate her sexually, tell her "you love when I fuck you like my little fucktoy, don't you?" and you will feel her physically surrender to your masculinity. From there you can take it anywhere you like. The key is to always lead and never wait for direction from her. Listen to her body but don't ask how she likes it or other similar such pussy moves. Totally breaks the spell. If you lead steady I guarantee she will look at you like a God and tell you her mind is blown.

[ColSpanker]

"Tantra" traditionally was the teachings outside of the accepted Hindu Vedas. Some were sexual, some not. The sexual ones are the ones which captured the Western imagination in the early part of the 20th century. With much of Europe and the USA controlled by religions who viewed sexuality as something to be kept under lock and key, Hindu tantra's were seen as an affront to traditional Western sex. I.e., you mean I can fuck my way to enlightenment? Most Hindus I have talked with in the USA get offended if you bring up Tantra. It's a little bit like a Shia Muslim asking a Southern Baptist about snake handling.
As far as BDSM: been there, done that. Met Jay Wiseman 12 years ago and he seemed like a decent man. Did like to hear himself talk.
My experience with "the scene": lots of fat girls looking for daddy. Lots of Casper Milktoasts looking for a bitch goddess. But your experience may be different.

[Monte Cristo]

(05-27-2014 10:07 PM)ColSpanker Wrote:  

As far as BDSM: been there, done that. Met Jay Wiseman 12 years ago and he seemed like a decent man. Did like to hear himself talk.
My experience with "the scene": lots of fat girls looking for daddy. Lots of Casper Milktoasts looking for a bitch goddess. But your experience may be different.

Agreed about 'the scene'. Mostly posers. And heavy conversations about 'protocols'.

My comments are directed to turning out 'regular' women. I have yet to meet a woman who did not love to be dominated in the bedroom. I even amused myself in the past with experiments on how far I could go under the rationale of 'you never know how far is far enough until you know what is too far'. Didn't find it. Eventually, I started being much more selective about who I tied up simply because of the attachments they would form and my desire to avoid the drama in letting them go.

[reaper23]

holy two year old bump

in some ways putting all this into practice is counter productive to what i want these days. the attachment it creates in them also creates headaches for me in terms of their neediness and expectations. just once i'd like a woman to accept FB status without wanting to escalate it or fall in love with me.

i've simplified the tantra stuff to gazing, shared breathing exercises, and a slow pace.

the bdsm stuff - yeah i'm not into the scene at all. i prefer to turn out vanilla girls or ones that always had some sort of desire but never got into the scene. i've never been to a sex party or a dungeon or any of that shit. not for me. the girls that go deep into that stuff definitely have more issues than others, but at the same time they are aware of them and going with it, so thats a plus.

i still like tying women up and have a nice set of hemp ropes. got a couple of new riding crops and a flogger too but thats only for a particular energy. usually some choking, hair pulling, couple of smacks in the face, some spit in the mouth and maybe a pillow over the head as i fuck them is enough. its more the mind set of them being yours to do with as you will. i always introduce this notion as early as possible. i call it the 'job description' and joke that i'm taking applications to be my favorite. and whenever there is something that i want a lot of (unlimited sexual access, back scratches, cleaning up the kitchen, whatever) i just say 'you know this is in the job description and they get the point. chicks love to feel like they are auditioning for something.

i find time and time again that chicks who are into yoga make the best lovers. their connection of their mind to their bodies allows for some intense, sensual, and prolonged experiences.

being able not to orgasm until you want to is a big help as well.

as far as which book to read, i mean come on, i only posted three. the 28 days to ecstasy one is good because it gives you ideas of things to implement. urban tantra is good because its less spiritual and more practical for today.

monte cristo nails it in terms of the dirty talk. its sort of like NLP'ing them into being what you want. i usually end up with most of the young ones calling me daddy, which suits me just fine and reinforces the dynamic.

[MikeinMKE]

This thread makes me sad b/c exactly one year ago I was dating two chicks who were both wildly into BDSM. My first squirter and my first girl with a daddy fixation - both liked some crazy shit and I had my way with them repeatedly. Now I'm in the longest drought of my life due to work and am having a hell of a time breaking back in.

[boycottamericanwomen]

(05-28-2014 08:54 AM)reaper23 Wrote:  

i find time and time again that chicks who are into yoga make the best lovers. their connection of their mind to their bodies allows for some intense, sensual, and prolonged experiences.

as far as which book to read, i mean come on, i only posted three. the 28 days to ecstasy one is good because it gives you ideas of things to implement. urban tantra is good because its less spiritual and more practical for today.

I was just wondering which one gives the deepest understanding of tantra. Here's what one guy who was practicing yoga for a few years wrote about tantra/kundalini:

I was in the Bahamas, where I was living and working in an Ashram, having just completed my ATTC. One afternoon, I began to experience what can only be described as ‘rushes’ of energy going up my spine – exactly the same feeling as an intense rising orgasm, causing a kind of ‘ripple effect’ through my body.

At first it was very pleasurable, and pretty amusing! Apart from the obvious physical pleasure, I was also very satisfied because I felt that this experience symbolized progress in my spiritual practice.

That is really the main difference between western and eastern religion. Western religion requires faith and dogma, whereas eastern religions are based on direct experience. You don't have to wait until you die to experience heaven. Heaven is here right now.

[jamaicabound]

(06-22-2012 09:39 AM)reaper23 Wrote:  

Someone asked me to drop a data sheet on Tantric sex. I will do that at some point later in this thread, but here is something I posted at another site a while back. Good starts here:


To learn more about how to handle the spiritual side of sex I suggest learning all you can about Tantra philosophies and Tantric Sex. These books have helped me and you should read them:

http://www.amazon.com/28-Days-Ecstasy-Co...447&sr=8-9

http://www.amazon.com/Introduction-Tantr...447&sr=8-1

http://www.amazon.com/Urban-Tantra-Sacre...543&sr=8-4

For Domination, BDSM and other kink elements like that, here are a few good books to get the idea. This books are considered "canon" in the bdsm community. Don't be alarmed, some of the discussions are definitely male-male or female-female - thats how it is the kink community. lots of "pan sexuality." but that doesn't mean what they have to say don't apply.

http://www.amazon.com/New-Topping-Book-N...727&sr=8-3

http://www.amazon.com/New-Bottoming-Book...727&sr=8-1

http://www.amazon.com/Loving-Dominant-Jo...727&sr=8-4

http://www.amazon.com/Jay-Wisemans-Eroti...812&sr=8-1

If you want to get into ropes, which is where I'm spending most of my time right now check out these:

http://www.amazon.com/Bondage-Sex-Chanta...=1-3-spell

http://www.amazon.com/Knotty-Showing-Rop...894&sr=1-1

http://www.amazon.com/Shibari-You-Can-Us...894&sr=1-3

my favorite:

http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-1...946&sr=1-2

http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-2...946&sr=1-3


That should get you going with the reading and other resources.

I firmly believe that being a master fucker is the key to this whole thing. Once you know in your heart that you can thrash that bitch in no way anyone every has, gaining her unyielding loyalty and straight up dick addiction - it translates backwards into your approach game and mid game.

I think some guys get weary of approaching girls because they are worried what happens if you actually get them into the bedroom.

Or some guys can get the medium game down but can't move past one night stands or cant create a stable of women to fuck...this is because they can't fuck.

Each and every girl I fuck says the same thing: I'm the best they ever had and will ever have again. They are "dickmytized" and this is the goal.

And my number one piece of advice for fucking like a champ is two fold:

1) Fuck her like the wild man you are
2) listen to her body the entire time.

Come on, yes you're fucking her 'just the way you want to' but you also are trying to mush her brain up by giving her orgasms and making her addicted to you. If she moans, do that again. If her breath rate increases, do that again. If her chest is getting red, do that again. Likewise follow the opposite sounds.....find the spots in her pussy that she likes. Some chicks go for clit only so go for deeeeep bottom pussy and others are G spot oriented. figure that out quickly and go for it. and by all means, once you've made her come a couple of times, just rag that bitch out any way you want...call her your fuck toy, fuck hole, tell her you're using her body to jerk off..anything nasty...they'll love it.

Question for you. We've all heard of Tantra however I always question how real it really is. Is it really true you as a guy can have multiple orgasms? Is it really true you orgasm but don't come and can then keep going? Is that healthy as I've heard mixed things on that if it is even possible?

I see a lot of these tantra goddesses advertising online. I'm sure some are legit where others its just a more legit form of prostitution they are basically just escorts who advertise as tantra to maybe have a stronger case against the long arm of the law. I see them talking about these bath rituals or some shit and releasing something. sounds like a prostate massage basically but they talk bout how its this emotional experience and kinda changes you and your outlook on things. Have you ever done anything like this and any truth to it?

I know people say this is very complicated shit that probably takes months if not years to master but wanted your take on if all the stuff we hear about Tantra is true. Also, I know you mentioned a bunch of resources and I imagine this is hard to sum up in one post but whats it all about. Tantra that is? Is it mediation or breating or just a mindset? How long did it take to master? And what did you get out of it, can you fuck as long as you want and have total control of your orgasms? Can you have multiple orgamsms? Etc

[reaper23]

i have had multiple orgasms a handful of times but i wouldnt directly attribute it to tantra. and by multiple i mean came, stayed her and inside her and then fucked again to orgasm some many minutes later.

for me at least, tantra is a way to synchronize the bodies and consciously exchange energy. syncing the breathing and sharing breath even is a great way to get the bodies to attach to each other.

as an experiment i went a month with daily sex and no ejaculation. the post sex feeling was similar feeling endorphins and relaxation but not the massive energy dump coming gives. and i never felt an overall sense of greater well being after 30 days of not doing it.

this will sound crazy but after particularly intense sex using tantric techniques i felt things like merging with time and universe into a single unit, telepathic communication, visions of the future and past, and a feeling of leaving the body. then again, these could have just been post sex dreams. i jotted a bunch of this stuff down in a journal somewhere will have to find it.

just with anything, when you put focus and intention on it it becomes more intense and superior to not.

the main thing now that i think about it is not focusing on orgasm but rather on the process by which you may or may not get there.

try putting your dick in her and not thrusting for 30 minutes. see what happens. its remarkable. your dick enlarges, her pussy becomes more pliable and the connection between the two of you intensifies.

there are all kinds of techniques like that explained in the books.

[reaper23]

oh and yes, the number one tangible benefit has been that i can fuck as long as i want and orgasm on my command (well, 30 seconds after i decide to)

[Monte Cristo]

(05-28-2014 09:10 AM)MikeinMKE Wrote:  

This thread makes me sad b/c exactly one year ago I was dating two chicks who were both wildly into BDSM. My first squirter and my first girl with a daddy fixation - both liked some crazy shit and I had my way with them repeatedly. Now I'm in the longest drought of my life due to work and am having a hell of a time breaking back in.

This is a bit of a chicken and egg situation. The reason I bumped this thread is the awesome feedback loop you can create dominating and rocking a woman's world. Once you start to do it the masculine vibe you put out makes it easier and easier to attract women. It's like they smell it on you.

It is important to flip the script on women. Those women who think they are gifting you with their pussy after running you through their tests have never been properly fucked. Once they have been they will chase you and even those women you haven't yet will 'sense' that you can.

I'm guessing you know what I'm talking about Mike.

[eradicator]

this deserves a sticky.

(05-28-2014 03:57 PM)reaper23 Wrote:  

oh and yes, the number one tangible benefit has been that i can fuck as long as i want and orgasm on my command (well, 30 seconds after i decide to)

elaborate?

[horn]

The best move I have learned in the past 18 months is to tell the chick to get naked while I keep my clothes on. 100% compliance to date. Strong frame is key, obviously.

[Cr33pin]

(05-28-2014 03:57 PM)reaper23 Wrote:  

oh and yes, the number one tangible benefit has been that i can fuck as long as i want and orgasm on my command (well, 30 seconds after i decide to)

Can you delve more into how a man can achieve this? I'm very interested in doing this because in the last year or so the time in which I can last during sex is hit or miss. Sometimes 5 minutes, sometimes as long as I want, and sometimes I have to stop myself from busting a nut after 5 seconds of sex. I started reading The Multi Orgasmic man trying to crack the code on being in total control of my orgasm/ejaculation. The only things I have got from the book so far is I should be doing kegles and deep breathing.

[reaper23]

ok so the first thing in lasting a long time is to have frequent sex, there is no way around it. practice and being comfortable knowing that you're getting sex now, you'll get it later and the next day help tremendously. if it is the most exciting thing you've done in a month and you dont when you'll get laid next, the energy will be too great.

now in terms of while you're having sex...i liken it to hearing a train coming from far away. you have to listen closely to hear the sounds of the train coming and when the train is still miles away, slow down and let yourself relax. fuck slower, take a short break by not thrusting and just kissing or fondling her. she wont care, she'll be happy you are taking the time to acknowledge her.

deep breathing is important as you mention, but kegels i dont know.

i've found for me, that i have to have those muscles relaxed in order to last a long time. the same muscles you contract to do the kegels, you have to relax all the way. the sensations on my dick are more intense when those muscles are flexed. if you can keep those relaxed, you can last much much longer.

being in control is key, this way you control the pace of the sex, when you take pauses and when you can speed up again.

sometimes i'll be close to the point of coming ten times before i let it go all the way. but you have to be aware of the sensations and take that pause well before the point of no return. myself, i know where that point is so precisely that i can go up to t-minus one stroke and stop, which enhances everything for me.

there is no magic bullet that i've found, just practice, self awareness, control of the sex, control of yourself, not being afraid to pause (use that time to reconnect with her), and keeping the muscles relaxed.

try having sex with the idea that you're not going to come, you're not even going to try and make your dick feel good, you're just using it to thrust inside of her. make your dick dead. i know it sounds like its taking the pleasure away, but it doesn't. it enhances it for me. really try to make a disconnection between your body/brain and your dick itself.

[boycottamericanwomen]

i just applied some of the techniques in that Introduction to Tantra book you linked, reaper. specifically the part where you visualize yourself as the Male deity and your partner as the Female deity. For example like Shiva and Parvati. it also helps if you are aware of some of the philosophical meaning behind these deities, too.

all i can say is, it was like 2 to 3 times more intense than normal and this was only my first attempt at meditating on a Male/Female deity while fucking.

[Monte Cristo]

(05-30-2014 11:08 AM)boycottamericanwomen Wrote:  

i just applied some of the techniques in that Introduction to Tantra book you linked, reaper. specifically the part where you visualize yourself as the Male deity and your partner as the Female deity. For example like Shiva and Parvati. it also helps if you are aware of some of the philosophical meaning behind these deities, too.

all i can say is, it was like 2 to 3 times more intense than normal and this was only my first attempt at meditating on a Male/Female deity while fucking.

I suggest you now try narrating it to her. Just stream of consciousness tell her what you are feeling, what you want her to feel and images that come into your head.

Pay attention to her and if you are sharing intense emotions, silence can be great but don't underestimate the capacity of the female mind to wander to thoughts of 'I wonder if my ass looks fat in this position?', "I shouldn't have eaten that bagel at lunch', "Do I smell right now?" no matter what else is going on. Use your voice to capture her mind. Simple narration will do. It can be repetitive. As long as you keep her focussed in the moment, she will feel whatever you tell her to feel and if you are feeling two or three times the pleasure, she will too.

[boycottamericanwomen]

(05-30-2014 12:35 PM)Monte Cristo Wrote:  

(05-30-2014 11:08 AM)boycottamericanwomen Wrote:  

i just applied some of the techniques in that Introduction to Tantra book you linked, reaper. specifically the part where you visualize yourself as the Male deity and your partner as the Female deity. For example like Shiva and Parvati. it also helps if you are aware of some of the philosophical meaning behind these deities, too.

all i can say is, it was like 2 to 3 times more intense than normal and this was only my first attempt at meditating on a Male/Female deity while fucking.

I suggest you now try narrating it to her. Just stream of consciousness tell her what you are feeling, what you want her to feel and images that come into your head.

Pay attention to her and if you are sharing intense emotions, silence can be great but don't underestimate the capacity of the female mind to wander to thoughts of 'I wonder if my ass looks fat in this position?', "I shouldn't have eaten that bagel at lunch', "Do I smell right now?" no matter what else is going on. Use your voice to capture her mind. Simple narration will do. It can be repetitive. As long as you keep her focussed in the moment, she will feel whatever you tell her to feel and if you are feeling two or three times the pleasure, she will too.

Yea I was thinking the same thing, to vocalize it, tell her that she is the female deity and that I am male deity. even still, intent is a very powerful thing and i can tell that she is having a much more pleasurable experience than before. i'll vocalize it and see what happens.

"images that come into your head"

my assumption is that the intensity of the experience will increase at the same ratio as the visual meditation increases.

[reaper23]

(05-30-2014 11:08 AM)boycottamericanwomen Wrote:  

i just applied some of the techniques in that Introduction to Tantra book you linked, reaper. specifically the part where you visualize yourself as the Male deity and your partner as the Female deity. For example like Shiva and Parvati. it also helps if you are aware of some of the philosophical meaning behind these deities, too.

all i can say is, it was like 2 to 3 times more intense than normal and this was only my first attempt at meditating on a Male/Female deity while fucking.

sweet!

one visualization technique that i've used is as follows. imagine a circle between your dick, her pussy, her heart, your heart, and your dick. and then imagine an energy flow that starts inside you, radiates from your dick inside her, up into her heart, into you, and so on. tell her about it. think about it. actually make the visual image occur in your mind. see the energy move out of you into her and energy move from her into you. tell her she has to radiate it herself as well. you push from your dick she from her heart.

i know it can sound really cheesy but i'm telling you works. it brings everything into heightened awareness and intensity. it also slows you from focusing on the orgasm and makes you focus on the process.

i may have mentioned this before but i'll say it again if so: focus on the act of thrusting, or connecting or touching rather than even thinking about an orgasm. rule the orgasm out. act like you dont even know an orgasm is going to happen. its not the goal. the goal is move your dick in and out of her. the goal is to feel her. the goal is to send your energy into her. its the process that is important and what enhances the actual experience.

be in the moment

danger and play has a lot of good info on active mediation and being aware of your intention in order to stay in the moment:

http://www.dangerandplay.com/2014/05/28/...e-anxiety/

he talks about it there as a way to over come anxiety but i bring it up as way to stay in the moment to avoid thinking about busting that nut!

[boycottamericanwomen]

I've got my own specific meditation, I have been studying one particular Male/Female deity combination during the past 8 years. Reading that Tantra book you suggested, as well as some other writings about this, finally gave me a breakthrough realization. It's like the inner mysteries of this particular school of spirituality have finally opened up for me.

Frankly, I am just amazed by this and am very, very interested to see how far I can take this.

[Lizard King]

I was just a lurker until reading this thread. It deals with things that can give you a great deal of power and satisfaction. I was compelled to register so I could re-iterate the usefulness of this type of knowledge.

Using Tantric methods, you will have girls saying things like 'I've never felt that comfortable', 'Best orgasm', 'I never thought I could do things like that before' and 'No one has ever made me feel like that'.

The thing to remember is that although female orgasm is an objective in Eastern sexual methods, it is a low grade objective, and almost a guarantee to happen anyway. The focus(afaik) is on the approach and continuation of build up to female orgasm, and the male focuses on not orgasming, since it allows him greater capacity to induce female O as a result.

This: http://www.whitelotuseast.com/YoniMassage.htm

is a great way to prepare for a marathon fuck session and build intimacy(if that's what you want).

[Monte Cristo]

Indeed. Once you change the script from ' I will grant you access to my vagina so you can masturbate inside me if you treat me right' to ' You made me feel things I never thought were possible, how can I please you to keep that coming?' the nature of your challenges with women change.

[eradicator]

(05-31-2014 09:22 AM)reaper23 Wrote:  

(05-30-2014 11:08 AM)boycottamericanwomen Wrote:  

i just applied some of the techniques in that Introduction to Tantra book you linked, reaper. specifically the part where you visualize yourself as the Male deity and your partner as the Female deity. For example like Shiva and Parvati. it also helps if you are aware of some of the philosophical meaning behind these deities, too.

all i can say is, it was like 2 to 3 times more intense than normal and this was only my first attempt at meditating on a Male/Female deity while fucking.

sweet!

one visualization technique that i've used is as follows. imagine a circle between your dick, her pussy, her heart, your heart, and your dick. and then imagine an energy flow that starts inside you, radiates from your dick inside her, up into her heart, into you, and so on. tell her about it. think about it. actually make the visual image occur in your mind. see the energy move out of you into her and energy move from her into you. tell her she has to radiate it herself as well. you push from your dick she from her heart.

i know it can sound really cheesy but i'm telling you works.

It doesn't sound cheesy, I know this sort of thing can work good. You can put one hand on her forehead, one on her heart and match her breathing. move one of her hands to her heart, then to her cock. Or your heart. Describe the sensations to her, etc.

I will try what you suggest here as well. I am surprised more people don't want to have superhuman sex.

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it brings everything into heightened awareness and intensity. it also slows you from focusing on the orgasm and makes you focus on the process.

i may have mentioned this before but i'll say it again if so: focus on the act of thrusting, or connecting or touching rather than even thinking about an orgasm. rule the orgasm out. act like you dont even know an orgasm is going to happen. its not the goal. the goal is move your dick in and out of her. the goal is to feel her. the goal is to send your energy into her. its the process that is important and what enhances the actual experience.

be in the moment

danger and play has a lot of good info on active mediation and being aware of your intention in order to stay in the moment:

http://www.dangerandplay.com/2014/05/28/...e-anxiety/

he talks about it there as a way to over come anxiety but i bring it up as way to stay in the moment to avoid thinking about busting that nut!

I like this, so much of the time we forget ourselves and fail to really be present, and in the moment. What you are suggesting almost sounds like you are trying to hypnotize the chick, and I am convinced that shit works, though honestly, I usually do it by accident.

Great thread.