[evesy]

I met my gf roommate at college about 2 months ago, my gf hasn’t told her roommate that were seeing dating because she thinks that her roommate has a crush on me and thinks its funny watching her try to get with me. I may have also given my gf the impression that I have zero interest in her roommate which is probably why she is ok with the situation.

I wasn’t and still am not convinced that her roommate does have a crush on me, but I am starting to wonder. She found out that when were not living on campus we actually live really close to each other and shes always asking to meet up for drinks; she gave me her home and cell numbers; also were always play fighting on her bed in a very physical way, she goes out of her way to help me, when were chilling she uses any excuse to sit on my lap, comments on how good I smell and this weekend she called me up to go play strip poker with her and …. her boy friend, I say her boy friend although she denies it’s a serious relationship. Anyway she lost at poker and striped lol

These are reason I think she might like me, but there are confusing factors like she can sometime be a bitch to me also, and when ever I go around their room, she assumes im there to see her roommate and if she isn’t there, she will basically tell me she isn’t in, implying I should leave. And sometime when were play fighting she will randomly tell me to stop with an attitude in her voice that make me think I pushed her too far like she did that today, but it was right after her “boyfriend” had just messaged her on msn, so I don’t know if it was a guilt thing.

I’ve really started to like the roommate, but my girlfriend is such a nice person; I don’t want to hurt her and I took her virginity so i worried it might really hurt her; based on past experience if you cheat with someone who knows your gf they will always find out. But I can’t help how I feel i don’t know what to do, I feel like such a bad person even though all my guy friend are saying that I should just fuck them both.

I need some advise to sort my head out lol

[thegmanifesto]

Play fighting?

Strip poker?

Jeez. I would have swooped her before that stuff even went down.

"based on past experience if you cheat with someone who knows your gf they will always find out."

Yeah. Its about a 100% chance.

Keep that in mind before you make a move.

[doriangray]

Yeah, your gf's roommate sounds like a real nutcase (like all women!) based on your text. If she is giving you big IOIs and really flirting and then next day just ignores you, she sounds like a really unstable or a player bitch, so you should be carefull! Especially since you are now in a relationship and dont want to hurt your gf.

That kind of flirting and then being really cold can be quite exciting and make you into her, but as I said, i'd be careful. If you have to cheat on your gf, find an easier girl (= one that's not psycho and even if she is will not ruin your relationship)

Tell us how it goes!

[charmer]

she is not interested !

[evesy]

People have started making joking comments about me and the room mate fucking but she responds with negative comments like “he wishes” or “never happening” what is a good things for me to say in these cases? I have tried “you mean you wish?” but she just follows that with “ ewwww” or something similar which honestly makes me feel like shit!

Im still confused as to if she likes me or not, she asked me to take her out for drinks last week end just me and her no other friends, we had a fun night but nothing happened, also she posed in a bikini for me to do a school assignment (didn’t actually need her to I could have used any images) but she was more than willing. I mean I was actually joking when I asked her but what ever right. Charmer seems pretty sure she isnt interested but i just wondered if you could explain why you think this when there are so many IOI's ?

[thegmanifesto]

"People have started making joking comments about me and the room mate fucking but she responds with negative comments like “he wishes” or “never happening”"

Don't be confused "as to if she likes me or not"

She likes you.

[I_Affe]

I think there was a Seinfeld episode similar to this. Suggest a threesome.

[Bon]

(12-08-2009 09:02 PM)I_Affe Wrote:  

I think there was a Seinfeld episode similar to this. Suggest a threesome.

I've run much game and many a threesome, and have never successfully converted the friend/roomate into a new gf.

Best case scenario go for the threeway.

[mulhollanddriven]

She likes toying with you. If you were to make a move, she might actually flip out. She likes the power trip of you "wanting what you can't have." It is a rush and it makes her feel desirable. If you were to actually act on it, it would almost certainly blow up in your face.

Best thing to do is just keep laying it down with your gf, go swoop other girls that don't know your gf or your roommate, and use the roommate to socially proof you at the bar. So next time she asks to get a drink with you, accept and go to the bar and let her flirt with you and let all the other girls see you flirting. That should help ignite the feeding frenzy and will keep it from going sour on you.

Put this roommate to work!

[evesy]

hey so here is a copy past from an msn conversation i just had with the roomate, bases on this i am favouring the idea she is NOT interested lol but if anyone want to give some insite im open to it

jamie says:
haha yeah...no offence but i totaly couldnt date you
M-I-K-E-Y says:
oh shit no , i could never date u
Your far too much work
jamie says:

M-I-K-E-Y says:
wait.. what why am i undatable ?
I mean you’re updateable too but probably for different reasons
jamie says:
your not my type i dont fall for tall, british guys like alot of chicks
and yeah you couldnt handle me
M-I-K-E-Y says:
lol oh i could handle u , i just dont want the hassle
jamie says:
plus we really dont get along THAT great
M-I-K-E-Y says:
but trust me i could
jamie says:
haha still not my type
M-I-K-E-Y says:
well im glad thats clear
jamie says:

M-I-K-E-Y says:
brb im goin to brave the cold
jamie says:
smoke? eww
i also could never kiss a boy who smokes
M-I-K-E-Y says:
thats ok boyz who smoke wouldnt wanna kiss you jamie
jamie says:
good....smokings gross
john did at one point apparently but not for more then a month and he hasnt since
M-I-K-E-Y says:
gd little boy
jamie says:
yep
M-I-K-E-Y says:
anyway bk in a bit... maybe ,but anyway you have a great time in florida and dont forget my post card
jamie says:

k

[mulhollanddriven]

Jesus that gave me a headache to read. No offense or anything but what a waste of time.

edited to add: Shes stringing you along because she likes you but she wants you to change just a few things about yourself to be "up to her standards." It is a way that women think they are reducing risk by "negotiating the deal" before she "buys in."

[UgSlayer]

It seems like you are reacting to her way too much. You are trying to prove to her that she is undatable. Saying that a woman is too much to handle is actually a compliment in a way. It is saying in certain terms that she is too high value for you, because a better man could tame her easy.