Ericka Ettin Blog
Ericka is a local M.B.A. dating coach who had 120 dates and got married through JDate. She brags about the 60% response rate to her messages. But she was pretty, 29, and 100 pounds. I give her props for being hot and working hard to find a husband in her prime.
Her post is instructively honest, but aggravating.
I’m a huge advocate for women e-mailing men on online dating sites, and I’ll even dare to say that a woman should suggest meeting for a drink ... . When the bill comes, ... I’d actually opt for [just saying “Thank you so much!” or saying “May I contribute?”]. Just hope he doesn’t take you up on it! ...
When I got there, ... he was drinking a nearly-finished coffee. I certainly didn’t care about that, but when the check came for my latte (a whopping $3 and change), he never even looked at it. Apparently he had already paid for his drink, so he took no responsibility for mine.
She messages guys to meet, orders for herself, and expects the guy to pay. The asymmetry is striking.
I agree with her advice. Men have the burden of picking up the first check, and women have the burden of looking hot.
Ericka is a local M.B.A. dating coach who had 120 dates and got married through JDate. She brags about the 60% response rate to her messages. But she was pretty, 29, and 100 pounds. I give her props for being hot and working hard to find a husband in her prime.
Her post is instructively honest, but aggravating.
I’m a huge advocate for women e-mailing men on online dating sites, and I’ll even dare to say that a woman should suggest meeting for a drink ... . When the bill comes, ... I’d actually opt for [just saying “Thank you so much!” or saying “May I contribute?”]. Just hope he doesn’t take you up on it! ...
When I got there, ... he was drinking a nearly-finished coffee. I certainly didn’t care about that, but when the check came for my latte (a whopping $3 and change), he never even looked at it. Apparently he had already paid for his drink, so he took no responsibility for mine.
She messages guys to meet, orders for herself, and expects the guy to pay. The asymmetry is striking.
I agree with her advice. Men have the burden of picking up the first check, and women have the burden of looking hot.