I've got this issue. I settle when I'm out at the bar, I'm living by the boner test. It basically goes like this. I've been somewhat of a natural, or at least a natural bullshitter. I'm fairly alpha on the onset, I manage a big company, and have a few hundred employees under my watch and did the military thing so I come across quite dominate. I just tend to have a fear of approaching 7s and up. Maybe it comes from my fat phase in high school.
Anyway, I'm a good looking guy who meets all the prerequisites of the city I live in, I have a beard, I'm tattooed, I know the local scene, and go to the right venues. While my notch count is going up almost every time I go out it's not adding any to the stable. These girls I'm landing are typically opening me and I take it from there. Honestly, now that I look back at it, most of my lays have come that way. Either a glance or a comment about something happening has opened a conversation that has lead to my dick going inside them.
Last night was my fourth night in a row to go out and finally I had all I could handle, I had a 5er open me and even dance in front of me while I watched. I couldn't take it and got up and left the bar. What's the deal, how do you overcome an approach anxiety? I mean shit, it's ridiculous, that I can bang just about any girl I get talking to, and know it; but, still cannot muster the balls to go and start a conversation. It doesn't help either knowing that if I just wait around something will fall into my lap.
Anyone else have a similar issue that they've gotten over? I'm sure I'm going to hear that practice is key. But honestly, how do you not settle and turn down what is boner-test passing but not stable-worthy?
Anyway, I'm a good looking guy who meets all the prerequisites of the city I live in, I have a beard, I'm tattooed, I know the local scene, and go to the right venues. While my notch count is going up almost every time I go out it's not adding any to the stable. These girls I'm landing are typically opening me and I take it from there. Honestly, now that I look back at it, most of my lays have come that way. Either a glance or a comment about something happening has opened a conversation that has lead to my dick going inside them.
Last night was my fourth night in a row to go out and finally I had all I could handle, I had a 5er open me and even dance in front of me while I watched. I couldn't take it and got up and left the bar. What's the deal, how do you overcome an approach anxiety? I mean shit, it's ridiculous, that I can bang just about any girl I get talking to, and know it; but, still cannot muster the balls to go and start a conversation. It doesn't help either knowing that if I just wait around something will fall into my lap.
Anyone else have a similar issue that they've gotten over? I'm sure I'm going to hear that practice is key. But honestly, how do you not settle and turn down what is boner-test passing but not stable-worthy?