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01-31-2012, 11:29 PM
Forgive me if this is a newbie question. I've spent 90% of my posts in the Lifestyle and Everything else.
Is there any particularly useful resource for talking to girls in bars. I feel like there is a lot of different information out there without a crystallized resource of what works. I have read Bang.
I get laid via social circle game and girls approaching me. I've been complacent too long.
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02-01-2012, 12:25 AM
I am not sure what your doubt is. Is it the approach logistics on bars? You should elaborate more on the kind of bar environment you are talking, because they vary.
If the bar is full, people moving around, no fixed tables, it is easy, as you'll be running into people while you stand up to get a drink (assuming no waiter) or just moving around.
If you mean the kind of bar people are more or less settled into their own small table groups, it can be "harder". It would take a more direct/balsy move.
I'll just share a small sample of advice, something I learned from observing a friend. We went out a couple of times in a bar recently (in Lahaina, Maui). It had an informal vibe, good music, but not many people. A group of guys playing pool on one side, a group of three girls isolated on a table. No one made a move. My friend and I arrived, and we were there letting the approach anexiety build up. As the girls were isolated into their own little group without much opportunity for opening them, a more direct approach was needed. I wasn't in a good mood, and there he went.
There is basic principle I've been adopting: keep it simple.
My friend basically opened the ladies by saying that he saw that there was a vacant chair and he wondered if he might join their company to join the conversation. He was very formal, polite and warm while doing it, yet decisive and energetic. Soon enough, I joined in, with the same vibe. We practiced opening like this on the following nights as well.
Sometimes, when logistics are bad, it is hard to come from an angle. In bars, where people are seated in their closed groups, without much movement on the venue, you might need such direct approach, which can be quite simple. Let the energy and vibe set the tone for the interaction.
Just some thoughts.
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02-01-2012, 02:50 AM
I recently turned 21 so I am far from being a pro on bar game. But I have used Roosh's line "You guys look like you're having the most fun out of anyone here". I have also just used small talk while standing around the bar. If it is a club like atmosphere, I usually find an open girl and go from there. Like Armour said, keep it simple.
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07-06-2017, 09:50 AM
Have any of you guys used a tried and true way of catching the attention of a bar tender at a packed bar? As a guy which gender should you go for in terms of getting your order taken faster and what are some of the body language of the tenders to look out for?
I think this step establishes status with the other girls in the bar, because there is nothing worse than standing at a bar but not getting your order heard.
Thanks for the tips and tricks.
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07-06-2017, 01:34 PM
Im not fond of "formulas" per se as they come off fake. Banter needs to be natural.
But here are a few guidelines that might be helpful to newer guys at the bar
1. Maintain eye contact when speaking to a girl. The more attractive she is the more important and effective this is. The hotter she is the less she's likely to encounter this and this will be a test passed
2. When listening to a girl speak (or at least pretending to) alternate between looking her in the eyes and looking at her mouth/lips. This is very subliminally sexually suggestive and she will get the message.
3. Dont answer questions directly. Ignore. Pivot. Take the conversation to where you want to go. For example:
Her- "What do you do?"
Human nature is such that we want to answer. Ignore it
You- "What would you say are your 3 best qualities?...other than anything about your looks?" (Borrowed from Neil Strauss) Get her answering your questions and qualifying herself to yio
Again I hate formulas but another good rule of thumb is to follow the 2 / 1 rule
Question
Question
Statement/story
Question
Question
Statement/story
Question
Question
Statement/story
Etc. All of the above designed to:
1 Have her invest / qualify herself to you
2 Indirectly demonstrate your value to her
Remember: No chick will remember what you say...They will however remember how you make them feel
Hope that helps
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07-05-2018, 09:25 PM
I'm glad I found this thread. I turned 21 a few months ago and I've been going to bars on weekends with not much success.
I always try to go for girls in groups of 2 or 3, but I don't know how to isolate one of them. Also I'm frequently seeing groups of two or three girls go out with at least one guy, probably either freindzoned or one of their bfs. Advice?