[Hegemon1984]

(02-01-2019 11:40 AM)KeepMovingForward Wrote:  

Good job man. Daygame at times feels like a superpower, knowing you can approach any girl and potentially be fucking her later. It's also a nice ego boost when you have solid interactions, even if they lead to nowhere.

My constructive criticism of each approach, based on your depictions:

Approach 1: Solid ballsy opener, if you deliver it with confidence and your body language is on point, many girls will automatically defer to you for at least a little bit, as they are pleasantly surprised by your masculine gravitas.
Unfortunately, this one just wasn't into you, a girl saying she doesn't have a phone is the lowest of the low "i'm not interested in you at all, so little that i will give you the laziest, transparent excuse i can think of." I once approached a porn star looking girl in a gym, clear as day type of girl to have instagram/snapchat, etc. and she hit me with the "i don't have a phone."
You also correctly identified that asking a bunch of questions and going into "interview" mode is an attraction killer. This is because it reeks of approval seeking, you're worried about her liking you so you pussyfoot around with questions instead of being more assertive. It's a normal reaction in the presence of a very attractive girl, I catch myself doing it as well.

Approach 2: Good one, approaching when there's an audience, such as the library or on a bus, is my weakpoint. I think you can approach her as soon as you walk in, that would actually come off as more spontaneous and authentic, as opposed to doubling back to think up your "strategy." Something like "Hey, I'm going to do XYZ, but you distracted me!" Follow up with whatever you noticed about her, frame it as her trying to keep you from doing your task, make it fun, etc. etc.
Your cons here are an accurate critique, nothing to be done about a boyfriend.

Approach 3: Pros: You used situational humor, which is a great display of social savvy and "performing under pressure." Shame she had a boyfriend.

Approach 4: I recommend making yourself visible before calling out to her. Approaching from behind shouting "hey", or anything really, gives off the vibe of a street salesman or hustler. Run out in front of her, far enough away where you're not in her personal space, and then deliver your opener, smiling to not appear threatening. In my opinion you DO want to startle her a little bit. She's wearing headphones, so she's in her own little world at the moment, you want to jolt her out of it, so getting in front of her and then speaking will accomplish that.
Getting just the snapchat and not the number is somewhat of a weak lead, because she likely gives dudes her snapchat like giving out air, but it's something to work with.
Inviting her out after just getting her snapchat is very uncalibrated. You're still a total stranger to her who cold approached her on the street, you need to establish some comfort before seeding the meetup. Only the extreme YES girls will do a quick meetup, otherwise, even yes girls need some comfort and rapport.

Approach 5: Playing with fire approaching at your job, but all good.
"Be sure to save my number" is weak and needy, it's like saying "please don't forget me!" Substitute it with a reference to your conversation at work.
It's good you want to get to a date fast, every girl has a window of opportunity (as referenced by another poster in one of my threads), and they can close very quickly. However, if you haven't established enough comfort upfront, any invitation to go out will be met with a no, a vague, unclear answer, or a flake. Also trying to set a date 8 days in advance appears a bit too eager on your end.
I'd aim for a date around 2 days in the future, it's not too far away that your momentum can fizzle out, and also gives her the option to make a counteroffer if she's busy.
As far as changing the date, any face saving excuse will suffice (i forgot i have a work engagement, i have an important meeting the next morning, etc.) From there proceed like I mentioned above.
Overall great job, seems like you're on the right path. Over time your approaches will become a lot sharper, and your situational wit and charm will develop. Keep it up!

Thank you so much for the tips and suggestions. I will undoubtedly implement your comments tonight. So far, it hasn't been going so good, but I ain't going to pussy out approaching groups of women.