Quote: (11-19-2018 05:18 PM)lifecrisis Wrote:
I have been wondering about if too much game is actually detrimental for your purpose of finding "the one" and settle down with. To find real human connection, when you have all these routines and rules in your head that you execute to perfection, instead of just letting go for a moment and let it flow. If the highs are high, the lows are low, but is it worth the experience to feel that deep connection with someone where you really think you found someone you could potentially marry?
Your first mistake is thinking there is "the one" your "soul mate" your "other half".
Men have been sold this love story for 100's of years.
Only YOU can complete yourself, a woman COMPLEMENTS your life.
You want real human connection? Look at around at your friends and family, those are real connections aren't they?
You had those before of even thinking about women in a romantic way.
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It's a safety net for not getting your heart broken, but it's also a barrier for how far up the feeling/connection scale you can reach in my opinion. Think about it, the first time you were in love, did you even have any set of rules or plans or did you just follow your stupid in love heart?
No it's not a safety net at all, players get their hearts broken or they get burned by a girl.
Player's aren't immune to this at all, however they ARE more wise and smart when it comes to dealing with women.
You cannot compare a boys first love to love in a relationship that leads to marriage.
That's apples to oranges, that's not a fair comparison at all.
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It scares me to think about this because a friend of mine in psychology major did a study where he interviewed men in the age of 25-40 and the majority of them said they’ve only been in love once in their life. Some said never. It’s a small statistic so shouldn’t be counted on, but it does give a perspective on things.
If something scares you then you better start understanding it and what causes that fear.
That "study" probably wasn't a real study at all - it wasn't probably clinical - if it is, I want to see stats and numbers.
Otherwise this is just fluff.
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I might be new in the game and don’t know much, but what’s your opinion on this? I mean we all strive for that one great girl to have by our side, and some have been through 100s of girls, why have you not found her and settled down with her yet? Most of you put the pussy on a pedestal and fuck your way through happiness. It gets tiring and superficial really quick - a lot of guys on here talk about player fatigue or game taking too much of their time.
For a newbie to make statements like this make sense.
My opinion is to start reading, start adapting the lessons and strategies you learn here in your own way.
I'm not looking for "the one", I'm looking for women who complement my life and I'm more into quality, doesn't mean I'm still not playing the field.
Why should men heed societal norms of dating, marriage, and family when most women do not heed these standards?
Player's aren't putting pussy on a pedestal - they're putting it underneath the pedestal that they're sitting on.
Why and how? Because they aren't playing the same games as some beta dweeb, they're learning the "game" and playing outside of the rules.
Just because a man is chasing pussy doesn't mean he isn't improving his life in other ways.
Dudes get player fatigue yes, but they take breaks, throttle down, diversify their time, BUT THEY DO NOT STOP.
You think game stops when you find "the one"? You've just opened a whole new world of game in marriage/family/kids.
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More and more PUA's are settling down and even people like Roosh would want to find something genuine to start a family with now seeing as he's getting older and older, and the player mindset is put behind. If you don’t open yourself up and show emotions/show vulnerability that is the key to making a connection with another person, then how is it done? Is game something we use as a weapon to filter out girls in this fucked up feminized society we live in, that is only getting worse and worse?
Most guys just want a girl that's decent to have a family with, but this forum goes a few steps further than that.
The player mindset NEVER goes away, once you're "unplugged", you're always weary and always try to keep your skills/tools sharp.
See? Now you're onto something.
YES, we use it, not as a weapon, but as a SKILL, to filter for women we WANT to be with, and of course by default that filters out women we aren't interested in.
GAME IS NOT A LIFESTYLE BUT A VAST AMOUNT OF TOOLS TO USE IN YOUR LIFE. GAME IS JUST NOT FOR DEALING WITH WOMEN.
Keep in mind this forum is a highly concentrated form of the red pill, so if you go outside the world isn't all doom and gloom and there are good humans out there.
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Now answer me one thing, how many times in your life have you been in love? A genuine and strong connection with another human being.
A few times with women, and I love alot of my friends and even tell them I do.
This goes back to my last statement, you knew about love and genuine/strong connections long before you wanted to have sex with girls.
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I have absolutely no doubt that game works, and im not a game denialist, but this was something me and a friend discussed the other night and would love to hear your inputs on this. Gaming too much, can it take away from your purpose of finding "true love" (not the Hollywood fantasy kind of love, but you get the point). You meet someone and she ticks all the boxes while you don't get bored of fucking her after a few months, and also you stop looking and thinking about other girls when you're with her. A girl that changes you.
I don't think you're a game denialist, I think you're inexperienced and are still holding onto the notions of finding a true love to fulfill. You're still slightly plugged in.
I'm here to rattle you off the plug and to tell you that you won't find that in real life.
Yes, you can find love, but you damn well better be prepared to handle that in all the right ways when you do find a woman you enjoy being around, whose passed all your filters, checked all your boxes, and you want to have children with after carefully vetting her.
But here's why you need game and experience, women are unpredictable at times.
Your only way of handling this is the skills you learned with game and experiences with women.
You should never change for a woman, and she shouldn't want to change you.
If she does in the slightest it's supporting your goals, dreams, endeavors, a woman who makes you want to be a better man and focus on your life goals.