Quote: (10-21-2018 07:13 PM)Newguy101 Wrote:
Its hit or miss. You really need to know the family and the girl. Hell you need to think can you trust your parents judgement as well.
Yes chances of divorce is lower but whats the quality of your marriage. What does she and you bring to the table.
Beware if girl is north of 24 school and career minded, chances are she partyed quite a bit and looking for her safety net.
Trust your gut in those meetings if its too good to be true. Its your life and hapiness overall.
One thing I have seen some older Indian guys I know doing is bringing in a sort of mediating third party - like a male cousin that they trust. They discuss general stuff with their parents and then tell the cousin what their real dealbreakers are (ex: look for slut tells, bad attitude, etc.). The cousin/uncle/etc. sits in with the parents when they are doing whatever kind of preliminary negotiation that they do with the girl's family.
I think it worked or would have worked a lot better a few years ago. But now? You have guys in their mid-twenties with parents who are in their fifties. The parents were arranged to marry in Northern India when they were 15 and 21. Fast forward to now, and they are attempting to negotiate a marriage between their son and a 26-year-old, university graduate, sales and marketing director who lives alone in Mumbai. The parents are thinking "Well, of course she is a virgin good girl. She is a proper Indian woman and she has never been married. We're not Americans." Any younger Indian guy knows that's a load of shit. The parents lack the context or experience to screen properly.
Currently out of office.