All of your conclusions are ones I and many others here have also arrived at. Acting like a clown to impress trashy whores you don't like as people, in hopes that they'll let you put your dick in them, is a poor use of your energy, and not a path to fulfillment.
You want a good relationship with an attractive, loyal girl... so does everyone else. It's hard. You won't find anyone here who will tell you it isn't. Such girls are exceedingly rare to come by, and when you do find one, she has plenty of options besides you. You're correct that it's essentially a second full-time job to give yourself any shot at success. There's no shortcut. Those are the times we live in. For all the comforts and upsides or modern western life, the culture has made inter-gender relations an apocalyptic nightmare. Welcome to the struggle; you aren't alone.
You want a good relationship with an attractive, loyal girl... so does everyone else. It's hard. You won't find anyone here who will tell you it isn't. Such girls are exceedingly rare to come by, and when you do find one, she has plenty of options besides you. You're correct that it's essentially a second full-time job to give yourself any shot at success. There's no shortcut. Those are the times we live in. For all the comforts and upsides or modern western life, the culture has made inter-gender relations an apocalyptic nightmare. Welcome to the struggle; you aren't alone.