The three second rule isn't for you, it is for her.
If you don't act on it, she feels rejected and leaves.
No big deal though, it takes a few of these to figure it out.
Sitting near you, hovering around, walking into your path, pretending to bump into you, sometimes even making eye contact from across the street.
Pretty lame as far as initiating a relationship, you might think.
Nothing, right?
In her mind she has gone way out on a limb, taken all the risks, really put it all on the line, and if you don't immediately take over the interaction, she gets humiliated and leaves.
Even worse, once you have figured it out, she could just sit there blankly, showing no interest, not contributing, and then you think you are messing it up, but when you leave she gets a panicked expression like: "Where are you going???"
So in her mind, not really approaching you directly, sitting like a yard gnome during the conversation, offering no encouragement whatsoever, in her mind, things are going fine.
And sometimes, you can get all that right, and if you don't sexualize things fast enough, she gets demoralized and thinks you don't like her, so she starts insulting you to hide how inadequate she feels.
And if you ask them, it is men who have no social skills.
If you don't act on it, she feels rejected and leaves.
No big deal though, it takes a few of these to figure it out.
Sitting near you, hovering around, walking into your path, pretending to bump into you, sometimes even making eye contact from across the street.
Pretty lame as far as initiating a relationship, you might think.
Nothing, right?
In her mind she has gone way out on a limb, taken all the risks, really put it all on the line, and if you don't immediately take over the interaction, she gets humiliated and leaves.
Even worse, once you have figured it out, she could just sit there blankly, showing no interest, not contributing, and then you think you are messing it up, but when you leave she gets a panicked expression like: "Where are you going???"
So in her mind, not really approaching you directly, sitting like a yard gnome during the conversation, offering no encouragement whatsoever, in her mind, things are going fine.
And sometimes, you can get all that right, and if you don't sexualize things fast enough, she gets demoralized and thinks you don't like her, so she starts insulting you to hide how inadequate she feels.
And if you ask them, it is men who have no social skills.
“The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.”
Carl Jung