015-2016 - Kaotic's self analysis review & guide on RVF
01-04-2016, 08:03 PM
What a great day for a write up, just got a new notch last night with a recently turned 20 year old !
Last year I wrote my first review and guide of myself, this year will be more focused on changed, it will be a lot shorter also.
A lot has changed this year, especially in December.
The Highs:
-Another 3some, albeit a bit lower quality
-Fucked a lot of younger girls this year
-Had the main HB 8 LTR
-Dumped the main HB 8 LTR (more on that later)
-No outbreak of std, I have a feeling it’s gone, I take care of my body also
-Stronger and looking better than ever, I weigh more also, it surprised me
-BDSM is standard in the bedroom, girls love it.
-Had a solid consistent rotation this entire, no harem collapse:
-18 year old 6.5 from mexico for a few months
-21 year old 7 from Chicago who moved local (white girl booty)
-19 year old 8 black girl who got Alpha Widow Syndrome
-19 year old 6.5 white girl, who let’s me do anything, loves lingerie and BDSM
-19 year old white girl 6.5, big tits, really weird, but fun
-23 year old milf sports trainer 7 with the nicest athletic ass I’ve seen yet
-22 year old Indian 7.5 student
The Lows:
-Nexted 2 of my harem because of mini LTR feelings: Chicago Girl and 18 Year old Alpha Widow
-Still have herpes, obviously it’s not going away but dormant
-Dumped my LTR of almost 2 years. (More on that below)
-At the early-mid stage of the post break up, handling it well
-Didn’t get any solid 9’s this year
Major Lessons Learned:
-Don’t waste your time or other people’s time
-Don’t waste your time on women you aren’t going to be with
-Filter more finely, it’s okay to be picky
-Don’t compromise your views because a woman has different goals in life
The Notch Count:
-22 new bangs this year (5 short of last year)
The Break Down:
-6 were straight come over bangs, no dates
-12 first date bangs
-3 second date bangs
-1 third date bang
-15 were One Night Stands (never saw them again)
-9 were multiple bangs
-7 were in the rotation (excluding my LTR)
This year I’m going to try and keep track of numbers closed to bang ratio.
Only 1 of these bangs wasn’t from online gaming. I haven’t really had time to approach many girls, I work 7 days a week, gym, then go on a date, fuck a plate, or go to bed.
Date logistics haven’t changed:
-Venues in close proximity to your pad
-Don’t do dinner
-Know the bartenders, have the venue on lock
-Venue change
-Paying – I don’t mind paying, but I’m stoked if a girl pays also.
Read more here about logistics.
Bang Logistics haven’t changed:
-I live with a relative
-Room is dark as possible
-I have fun things in my room, I show stuff off
-Comfy furnishings
Read more here about date/bang logistics.
Personality wise:
Once again a lot more improvement in my confidence, my game, interactions with women, how I drop bait, how I talk, how I close, etc.
Once again, read my 2015 review here
Text game has been on point, I find myself texting less, sending pictures more.
Social Media:
I didn’t add a single girl I banged on ANY social media I have. Only my ex LTR was added on my social media (after a year).
Tinder/OKC/POF/Coffee Meets Bagel – all were used for my bangs, as I mentioned before, only 1 bang this year was from in person via social circle.
You can read all about my text/online app guide here
Dumping the LTR:
By far the BIGGEST change that's happened to me this year.
I’ve been with this girl a few months short of our 2 year anniversary.
A quick summary about the situation:
-We see each other only twice a week, she wanted more time with me
-She wants kids and marriage in the next few years, I’m not ready to commit to that
-She smokes weed, and ciggs consistently
-Bartender
-Daddy’s girl, but mommy cheated, parents separated a few years, got back together.
-She’s having quarterlife crisis issues
-Family is lower income than me, she makes decent money, father will possibly die in a few years.
Read more here about my LTR and the advice given.
The Decision:
I decided to move on the initial advice and dumped her the same day I requested advice from this forum. It was in our mutual best interest.
Why?
Because life is too fucking short to waste on people you won’t be going anywhere with. I’m not looking to get married or have kids soon, and she wants that. The softer landing I give her and less stringing her along the better for her mental health and her chances of finding a partner willing to give her that increases.
I wish nothing but the best for her, we just have different goals in life. She even told me if I ever change her mind to let her know. She did a bit of guilt tripping about the std thing, I’m extremely positive she never got it from me.
She cried, I got seriously bummed, she deleted me of all social media, not contact rule is enforced.
Sure I think about her from time to time but every day it gets better for me.
Think twice about the women you’re with, make sure you’re investing your time in something worthwhile that is actually going to somewhere.
Shout out to these gents who helped ME push pass the initial dumping:
Jariel, Onto, Travesty, Lizard of Oz, Thomas the Rhymer, WIA, Traveler Kai, Black Knight, redbeard, Off The Reservation, and others not mentioned
ACT ON THE ADVICE GIVEN TO YOU
REACH OUT FOR ADVICE FOR YOURSELF SO OTHERS CAN LOOK AT IT OBJECTIVELY AND RATIONALLY
Things I needed to work on in 2015:
-I NEED TO DAY APPROACH MORE. It’s that simple. FAILED, RETRY FOR 2016
-I need to rely on dating sites less. FAILED, RETRY FOR 2016
-I need to gain more mass/strength in the gym. PASSED
-I need to push against LMR just a little bit more. PASSED
2015 Fuck Bucket List:
-Another threesome with hotter girls. (Mine were 2 7's at best) PASSED (BUT LOWER QUALITY) RETRY FOR 2016
-Fuck more 18-20 year old girls. (I'm getting better at it). PASSED
-Get a foreign flag in the states. (I've never had one). FAILED, RETRY FOR 2016
-Travel to get foreign flags. (I just want to travel in general). FAILED, RETRY FOR 2016
-Fuck more Asian girls. (Had my first 2 this year) FAILED, RETRY FOR 2016
Of the 9 goals I created, I reached about 44% of those goals.
Of these 9 goals, I’d like to travel, travel for a bang, get a foreign bang in the states, and approach more
Summary:
-This year has seen a better quality of girls and plates
-I enjoyed the mini LTR’s and the main LTR, but it had to come to an end
-I’m more interested than ever in traveling this year, I’m renewing my passport soon
-I’ll be avoid any LTR’s I don’t see myself being in one for awhile, maybe some mini LTR’s
-I need to put my diet more on point, but I’m glad to see the gains I’ve had.
-As suggested, I think it's time to focus more on my life, rather than gaming and banging girls.
I’m looking forward to 2016.
Please ask any questions you want on this thread, or PM me.
I'd appreciate any feedback, advice, constructive criticism as well.
Last year I wrote my first review and guide of myself, this year will be more focused on changed, it will be a lot shorter also.
A lot has changed this year, especially in December.
The Highs:
-Another 3some, albeit a bit lower quality
-Fucked a lot of younger girls this year
-Had the main HB 8 LTR
-Dumped the main HB 8 LTR (more on that later)
-No outbreak of std, I have a feeling it’s gone, I take care of my body also
-Stronger and looking better than ever, I weigh more also, it surprised me
-BDSM is standard in the bedroom, girls love it.
-Had a solid consistent rotation this entire, no harem collapse:
-18 year old 6.5 from mexico for a few months
-21 year old 7 from Chicago who moved local (white girl booty)
-19 year old 8 black girl who got Alpha Widow Syndrome
-19 year old 6.5 white girl, who let’s me do anything, loves lingerie and BDSM
-19 year old white girl 6.5, big tits, really weird, but fun
-23 year old milf sports trainer 7 with the nicest athletic ass I’ve seen yet
-22 year old Indian 7.5 student
The Lows:
-Nexted 2 of my harem because of mini LTR feelings: Chicago Girl and 18 Year old Alpha Widow
-Still have herpes, obviously it’s not going away but dormant
-Dumped my LTR of almost 2 years. (More on that below)
-At the early-mid stage of the post break up, handling it well
-Didn’t get any solid 9’s this year
Major Lessons Learned:
-Don’t waste your time or other people’s time
-Don’t waste your time on women you aren’t going to be with
-Filter more finely, it’s okay to be picky
-Don’t compromise your views because a woman has different goals in life
The Notch Count:
-22 new bangs this year (5 short of last year)
The Break Down:
-6 were straight come over bangs, no dates
-12 first date bangs
-3 second date bangs
-1 third date bang
-15 were One Night Stands (never saw them again)
-9 were multiple bangs
-7 were in the rotation (excluding my LTR)
This year I’m going to try and keep track of numbers closed to bang ratio.
Only 1 of these bangs wasn’t from online gaming. I haven’t really had time to approach many girls, I work 7 days a week, gym, then go on a date, fuck a plate, or go to bed.
Date logistics haven’t changed:
-Venues in close proximity to your pad
-Don’t do dinner
-Know the bartenders, have the venue on lock
-Venue change
-Paying – I don’t mind paying, but I’m stoked if a girl pays also.
Read more here about logistics.
Bang Logistics haven’t changed:
-I live with a relative
-Room is dark as possible
-I have fun things in my room, I show stuff off
-Comfy furnishings
Read more here about date/bang logistics.
Personality wise:
Once again a lot more improvement in my confidence, my game, interactions with women, how I drop bait, how I talk, how I close, etc.
Once again, read my 2015 review here
Text game has been on point, I find myself texting less, sending pictures more.
Social Media:
I didn’t add a single girl I banged on ANY social media I have. Only my ex LTR was added on my social media (after a year).
Tinder/OKC/POF/Coffee Meets Bagel – all were used for my bangs, as I mentioned before, only 1 bang this year was from in person via social circle.
You can read all about my text/online app guide here
Dumping the LTR:
By far the BIGGEST change that's happened to me this year.
I’ve been with this girl a few months short of our 2 year anniversary.
A quick summary about the situation:
-We see each other only twice a week, she wanted more time with me
-She wants kids and marriage in the next few years, I’m not ready to commit to that
-She smokes weed, and ciggs consistently
-Bartender
-Daddy’s girl, but mommy cheated, parents separated a few years, got back together.
-She’s having quarterlife crisis issues
-Family is lower income than me, she makes decent money, father will possibly die in a few years.
Read more here about my LTR and the advice given.
The Decision:
I decided to move on the initial advice and dumped her the same day I requested advice from this forum. It was in our mutual best interest.
Why?
Because life is too fucking short to waste on people you won’t be going anywhere with. I’m not looking to get married or have kids soon, and she wants that. The softer landing I give her and less stringing her along the better for her mental health and her chances of finding a partner willing to give her that increases.
I wish nothing but the best for her, we just have different goals in life. She even told me if I ever change her mind to let her know. She did a bit of guilt tripping about the std thing, I’m extremely positive she never got it from me.
She cried, I got seriously bummed, she deleted me of all social media, not contact rule is enforced.
Sure I think about her from time to time but every day it gets better for me.
Think twice about the women you’re with, make sure you’re investing your time in something worthwhile that is actually going to somewhere.
Shout out to these gents who helped ME push pass the initial dumping:
Jariel, Onto, Travesty, Lizard of Oz, Thomas the Rhymer, WIA, Traveler Kai, Black Knight, redbeard, Off The Reservation, and others not mentioned
ACT ON THE ADVICE GIVEN TO YOU
REACH OUT FOR ADVICE FOR YOURSELF SO OTHERS CAN LOOK AT IT OBJECTIVELY AND RATIONALLY
Things I needed to work on in 2015:
-I NEED TO DAY APPROACH MORE. It’s that simple. FAILED, RETRY FOR 2016
-I need to rely on dating sites less. FAILED, RETRY FOR 2016
-I need to gain more mass/strength in the gym. PASSED
-I need to push against LMR just a little bit more. PASSED
2015 Fuck Bucket List:
-Another threesome with hotter girls. (Mine were 2 7's at best) PASSED (BUT LOWER QUALITY) RETRY FOR 2016
-Fuck more 18-20 year old girls. (I'm getting better at it). PASSED
-Get a foreign flag in the states. (I've never had one). FAILED, RETRY FOR 2016
-Travel to get foreign flags. (I just want to travel in general). FAILED, RETRY FOR 2016
-Fuck more Asian girls. (Had my first 2 this year) FAILED, RETRY FOR 2016
Of the 9 goals I created, I reached about 44% of those goals.
Of these 9 goals, I’d like to travel, travel for a bang, get a foreign bang in the states, and approach more
Summary:
-This year has seen a better quality of girls and plates
-I enjoyed the mini LTR’s and the main LTR, but it had to come to an end
-I’m more interested than ever in traveling this year, I’m renewing my passport soon
-I’ll be avoid any LTR’s I don’t see myself being in one for awhile, maybe some mini LTR’s
-I need to put my diet more on point, but I’m glad to see the gains I’ve had.
-As suggested, I think it's time to focus more on my life, rather than gaming and banging girls.
I’m looking forward to 2016.
Please ask any questions you want on this thread, or PM me.
I'd appreciate any feedback, advice, constructive criticism as well.