With approaching, I do not wait for a signal. I just talk to girls that I am attracted to.
What I wait for is an "approach opportunity", a moment when she is alone, a moment when she is available, a moment were we can both be in the same place at the same time with something in common to talk about about.
If I waited for a signal to approach, I would be waiting for a very long time.
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In terms of escalating, I do wait for a "signal".
This is something I used to struggle with.
I started getting numbers, then, I started getting dates, then, I started getting girls back to my place... They would sit on my couch but I wasn't sure when or how to get physical...
I made many mistakes. I tried to kiss girls and they turned away, etc.
Now, I have a methodology that I like..
First, I look for comfort. Is she relaxed around me? Is she talking openly with me? Is she giving me good eye contact and asking me personal questions?
If I get these types of "signals", I know the girl is at least comfortable in my presence.
My next step is light, non sexual touching. I casually touch her arm, shoulder, back, or thigh. This happens during laughter, during a moment of excitement or passion, or to playfully get her attention.
Hopefully, she touches me back.
If she does, I will likely make the first move by rubbing her hand and wrists, if this goes well, I rub her shoulders/back and the kiss is only moments away.
If she does not touch me back, I "invite" her to touch me by placing my body near hers. I might "accidentally" touch my foot against hers. I open up my body language, take up a lot of space and look for her to touch me in any way. Often times, they will touch their leg against mine or they touch my arm or shoulder.
Once this happens, I go into "Soft Stroking". This is when I rub her hand or wrist in a seductive way. If she lets me do this, the kiss is only moments away.
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Here is a post I wrote last month that is relavant to this discussion.
What I wait for is an "approach opportunity", a moment when she is alone, a moment when she is available, a moment were we can both be in the same place at the same time with something in common to talk about about.
If I waited for a signal to approach, I would be waiting for a very long time.
*****
In terms of escalating, I do wait for a "signal".
This is something I used to struggle with.
I started getting numbers, then, I started getting dates, then, I started getting girls back to my place... They would sit on my couch but I wasn't sure when or how to get physical...
I made many mistakes. I tried to kiss girls and they turned away, etc.
Now, I have a methodology that I like..
First, I look for comfort. Is she relaxed around me? Is she talking openly with me? Is she giving me good eye contact and asking me personal questions?
If I get these types of "signals", I know the girl is at least comfortable in my presence.
My next step is light, non sexual touching. I casually touch her arm, shoulder, back, or thigh. This happens during laughter, during a moment of excitement or passion, or to playfully get her attention.
Hopefully, she touches me back.
If she does, I will likely make the first move by rubbing her hand and wrists, if this goes well, I rub her shoulders/back and the kiss is only moments away.
If she does not touch me back, I "invite" her to touch me by placing my body near hers. I might "accidentally" touch my foot against hers. I open up my body language, take up a lot of space and look for her to touch me in any way. Often times, they will touch their leg against mine or they touch my arm or shoulder.
Once this happens, I go into "Soft Stroking". This is when I rub her hand or wrist in a seductive way. If she lets me do this, the kiss is only moments away.
*****
Here is a post I wrote last month that is relavant to this discussion.
Quote: (09-15-2014 12:53 PM)Giovonny Wrote:
First, get her drunk. This lowers her inhibitions and opens up her up for pleasure and fun.
Then, touch her playfully in a non sexual way. Grab her arm to get her attention. Touch your leg against hers and pretend its an accident. Better yet, put your leg close to her's so it will seem like she touched you first. Gently, touch her shoulder or forearm when you guys are laughing together. Playfully, tap or "slap" her on the leg when she disagrees with you. Grab her arm and give it a gentle squeeze when you agree on something.. These are just basic examples of playful non sexual touching.
The next step for me is "Soft stroking". (Gently and lightly running my fingers over her skin)
I often start with her hands, rubbing them and caressing them.
I "soft stoke" her wrists, forearms, upper arms and shoulders, taking my time before moving higher. I caress her collarbone and neckline, rub her back and run my hand across the back of her neck...
Finally, I put my nose on her ear and my face next to hers.. I run my lips over her neck and hair line..
I go for the make out, I rub her ass.
This is what has worked for me over the years.