Interesting questions...
I think alot of people do "wear a mask". They are afraid to be themselves.
Most people live to please others.
We want people to like us, we want girls to like us, we want to be accepted.
Fuck that!
I live for myself. I don't care if people like me. I don't care if girls like me.
Strangely, the more I have this attitude, the more girls (and guys) like me.
We must be our authentic selves. We must not live fake lives. That is a recipe to be misery.
Be true to yourself, fuck what people think.
Being fake is a slow death.
Being real is the greatest gift you can give yourself.
Not anymore. I stopped trying to please others and now I only want to please myself.
I am not stifled anymore.
Fuck being stifled and suffocated. Life is too short.
You can respress yourself to get what you want or you can express yourself to get what you want.
Repressing is soul destroying and energy sucking.
Expressing is fulfilling and inspiring.
Expressing yourself authentically is much healthier and fulfilling.
Repressing yourself is killing yourself.
Expressing yourself is allowing yourself to live.
This can be true.
So, don't try to be "on". Instead, just be your natural self with slight adjustments for work, etc.
If you are exhausted and stifled, you are not being true to yourself, you are living a lie.
Don't live a lie. Live the truth. YOUR TRUTH!
It's not that we should.
WE MUST
Not expressing ourselves leads to anxiety, depression, stress, sickness, etc.
You must express yourself freely and openly.
I only talk about things that are fascinating to myself.
If a man or a woman is not interested, then we are not compatible.
I don't want a relationship based on faked interest. I want a connection based on real interest.
Yes, of course, especially at work.
We must be professional in our careers. I am careful at work.
I would rather not talk then talk in a fake way.
I don't speak much to my co workers. I would rather browse this forum.
WHEN YOUR THOUGHTS, WORDS, AND ACTIONS ARE ALL CONSISTENT. YOU WILL BE AN AUTHENTIC MAN. THEN, PEOPLE WILL INSTINCTIVELY RESPECT YOU. THEY MAY NOT ALWAYS LIKE YOU, BUT THEY WILL HAVE TO RESPECT YOU. YOU ARE A RARITY IN THIS WORLD. A MAN TRUE TO HIMSELF.
I know, I know, its all a tricky balance and we don't want to upset coworkers, lose our job, lose friends, lose girls, etc.
Fuck it.
I have decided that I will error on the side of expression. I would rather make mistakes of expression then mistakes of repression.
I think alot of people do "wear a mask". They are afraid to be themselves.
Most people live to please others.
We want people to like us, we want girls to like us, we want to be accepted.
Fuck that!
I live for myself. I don't care if people like me. I don't care if girls like me.
Strangely, the more I have this attitude, the more girls (and guys) like me.
We must be our authentic selves. We must not live fake lives. That is a recipe to be misery.
Be true to yourself, fuck what people think.
Being fake is a slow death.
Being real is the greatest gift you can give yourself.
Quote: (08-07-2013 02:43 AM)Sonsowey Wrote:
Do others out there get the feeling that all of it is stifling?
Not anymore. I stopped trying to please others and now I only want to please myself.
I am not stifled anymore.
Fuck being stifled and suffocated. Life is too short.
Quote: (08-07-2013 02:43 AM)Sonsowey Wrote:
That you're repressing yourself to get what you want?
You can respress yourself to get what you want or you can express yourself to get what you want.
Repressing is soul destroying and energy sucking.
Expressing is fulfilling and inspiring.
Expressing yourself authentically is much healthier and fulfilling.
Repressing yourself is killing yourself.
Expressing yourself is allowing yourself to live.
Quote: (08-07-2013 02:43 AM)Sonsowey Wrote:
At the end of the day, after being "on" all the time, this is exhausting and stifling.
This can be true.
So, don't try to be "on". Instead, just be your natural self with slight adjustments for work, etc.
If you are exhausted and stifled, you are not being true to yourself, you are living a lie.
Don't live a lie. Live the truth. YOUR TRUTH!
Quote: (08-07-2013 02:43 AM)Sonsowey Wrote:
one should (?) be able to express themselves freely and openly
It's not that we should.
WE MUST
Not expressing ourselves leads to anxiety, depression, stress, sickness, etc.
You must express yourself freely and openly.
Quote: (08-07-2013 02:43 AM)Sonsowey Wrote:
you are not talking about topics that are fascinating to yourself, because for her it may be boring.
I only talk about things that are fascinating to myself.
If a man or a woman is not interested, then we are not compatible.
I don't want a relationship based on faked interest. I want a connection based on real interest.
Quote: (08-07-2013 02:43 AM)Sonsowey Wrote:
You must be PC, polite, respectful, and boring.
Yes, of course, especially at work.
We must be professional in our careers. I am careful at work.
I would rather not talk then talk in a fake way.
I don't speak much to my co workers. I would rather browse this forum.
WHEN YOUR THOUGHTS, WORDS, AND ACTIONS ARE ALL CONSISTENT. YOU WILL BE AN AUTHENTIC MAN. THEN, PEOPLE WILL INSTINCTIVELY RESPECT YOU. THEY MAY NOT ALWAYS LIKE YOU, BUT THEY WILL HAVE TO RESPECT YOU. YOU ARE A RARITY IN THIS WORLD. A MAN TRUE TO HIMSELF.
I know, I know, its all a tricky balance and we don't want to upset coworkers, lose our job, lose friends, lose girls, etc.
Fuck it.
I have decided that I will error on the side of expression. I would rather make mistakes of expression then mistakes of repression.