Strategies for Inner Game As It Relates To Daygame
08-08-2014, 03:09 PM
1. Stick with the 3 second rule and always follow it. Don't let your mind psych you out of the approach. Examples that we tell ourselves which are self-defeating:
"she is too hot"
"she is walking too fast for an approach"
"I will approach the next one".
" I haven't warmed up enough yet"
" I'm not ready yet"
These are self defeating statements that serve to avoid an approach and in the process, we succumb to approach anxiety.
Start the approach immediately when in your control. Stick to the 3 second rule. This is a useful behavior modification but will take a commitment to yourself. Changing behavior and mitigating approach anxiety are within your control.
2. Perspective taking: We tend to exaggerate the importance of what we are doing and also the possible negative consequences. We are not conducting spinal surgery here. We are simply initiating a conversation with an attractive women. Our lives, our families, the world does not depend on us for the outcome of our approach.
I often remind myself that life is short and I will be dead sooner than I think. What's the big deal in talking to a cute chick. We tend to overemphasize the importance of what we are doing. It is just a conversation with someone who might be interesting. Form rational and realistic evaluations on what you are doing.
Nothing helps building a rational perspective of things like a sense of humor. Don't take yourself too seriously. You are just a gut chasing pussy. Enjoy the ride and laugh at your blow outs.
3. Failure and confidence: We are not perfect and cannot succeed all the time. Accept failure but believe in yourself. Confidence comes from experience but also from pushing yourself just pass the point of your comfort zone. This is where true growth lies and where confidence is gained.
Liken yourself to a closer who just blew a save in the 9th inning. His success for his next save opportunity will be contingent on how well he preserves faith in himself. Learn from your mistakes but at the same time have a short memory like a closer.
"she is too hot"
"she is walking too fast for an approach"
"I will approach the next one".
" I haven't warmed up enough yet"
" I'm not ready yet"
These are self defeating statements that serve to avoid an approach and in the process, we succumb to approach anxiety.
Start the approach immediately when in your control. Stick to the 3 second rule. This is a useful behavior modification but will take a commitment to yourself. Changing behavior and mitigating approach anxiety are within your control.
2. Perspective taking: We tend to exaggerate the importance of what we are doing and also the possible negative consequences. We are not conducting spinal surgery here. We are simply initiating a conversation with an attractive women. Our lives, our families, the world does not depend on us for the outcome of our approach.
I often remind myself that life is short and I will be dead sooner than I think. What's the big deal in talking to a cute chick. We tend to overemphasize the importance of what we are doing. It is just a conversation with someone who might be interesting. Form rational and realistic evaluations on what you are doing.
Nothing helps building a rational perspective of things like a sense of humor. Don't take yourself too seriously. You are just a gut chasing pussy. Enjoy the ride and laugh at your blow outs.
3. Failure and confidence: We are not perfect and cannot succeed all the time. Accept failure but believe in yourself. Confidence comes from experience but also from pushing yourself just pass the point of your comfort zone. This is where true growth lies and where confidence is gained.
Liken yourself to a closer who just blew a save in the 9th inning. His success for his next save opportunity will be contingent on how well he preserves faith in himself. Learn from your mistakes but at the same time have a short memory like a closer.