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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-18-2014, 01:38 PM
Hey playas,
what do you guys think of this guy's argument?
http://www.boytoystory.com/why-a-player-...irlfriend/
I mean, it definitely sounds solid for a guy who is a stone cold virgin and with no experience. But It could also strike down a potential player with oneitis.
Thoughts?
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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-18-2014, 06:30 PM
He makes a fair point but draws a stupid conclusion.
I must say however, I wasn't bothered enough to read the entire post but as far as I read I see this guy is advocating going for sexual experience. This is reasonable and smart. the error here is: does sexual experience with one girl really qualify as sexual experience at all? would you base your conclusions on research that only had one volunteer? I don't think so.
Sexual experience should be sought after with AS MANY girls as possible when you are young. Quantity is quality. Not only does this give you the sexual experience but social experience as well. Instead of tending to one girl all the time (which will probably lead to a decline in sex anyway), you'll be dealing with and fucking many more women which will grant you REAL experience.
I spent most of my younger years in a steady relationship. After two years I started cheating and I STILL regret having wasted some of my best years on just a handfull of girls. There's so much more out there. Even for a "stone cold virgin" I suggest he sticks to one girl while he fucks others. Depending on a girlfriend for sexual experience is just a trap. It's setting yourself up to become dependent. How is the guy that follows this advice going to get laid after having spent all his time with this one girl? what if she suddenly leaves?
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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-18-2014, 06:34 PM
I think he's saying that you should stay with her for like 3 months, then drop her.
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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-18-2014, 06:43 PM
He says 2 months. I'm still not entirely sure this is a good idea. What's the point of keeping a girl for 2 months? This would be like chasing a lot of girls but with a 2 month pause between every new girl. Seems silly to me. If you can get a new girl every 2 months, Why not every week?
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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-18-2014, 06:58 PM
It's true- once you get the hang of this stuff, you can pretty much make it happen over and over again almost anywhere.
The point is to have the options available.
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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-18-2014, 10:41 PM
I think between a single ONS, a casual fuck buddy like relationship, and a long term relationship there is much to learn from and enjoy.
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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-18-2014, 11:07 PM
This is an awesome idea, it's like the guys who are used to getting ass on the regular, they do not go back to jerking it because getting sex is part of their reality now.
I don't know about the girlfriend thing, but a regular fuck buddy or 2, especially if virgin, could really change the way you think because having sex is part of your operating system now. Plus, he says it's only for 2 months, and in the big scheme of things, two months is not a lot of time, but he will know what to do.
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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-18-2014, 11:50 PM
I can see the point that you don't need to make her your official GF, but i think his idea of establishing a fuck buddy would be good for a player trying to get better at sex.
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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-19-2014, 03:50 AM
I've been in quite a few longer-term relationships. 6 or more that lasted 1 1/2 - 3 years (I'm early 30s), and some shorter. I've also banged more women than most guys will even while tying myself down for so long so many times.
I learned much more about sex due to those more drawn out experiences than I ever did in casual one-night-stands. As well as about how to talk with (and connect with) women and how to maintain the upper hand at all times (or at least regain it when you lose hold).
Your out-of-the-gate game can go a bit stagnant if you stay in relationships too long without playing the field from time to time. I also find 6 months is about how long it takes for the novelty to wear off for me, but I guess it depends on how into the girl you are. Without these relationships, I'm not so sure I'd have the sexual knowledge and vibe with women that I currently do, and I've never really put an honest effort into the game stuff, so you could say those experiences gave me a natural understanding of gender dynamics.
It's hard to say - perhaps I would have picked up those intuitive understandings anyhow - but I think the guy makes a good point.
On the other hand, you could probably say that without all my flings and pickups during my off-times, my game would be a lot different as well. I'm sure both types of experiences have their value.
I've also seen how some guys get addicted to "managomy" and are constantly having girls break up with them and then running around like a broken-hearted chump, only to dive back into another relationship as soon as the opportunity presents. So it's possible to lose yourself out there too.
Apply so-called red pill thinking to your relationship maintenance and you should be alright. And know when it's time to walk away.
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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-19-2014, 05:15 AM
I agree that the sexual experience oozes off of you and makes you a sexy motherfakka. But you dont have to get a gf to do that. Have 2-3 girls on rotation seem better.
The danger with relationship is that, it makes you lazy when it comes to gaming, and one day you break up and you realize that your game has gotten rusty to the point you fumble in front of girls. Happened to me two days ago.
I guess you could make ltr work if you stay active in the field and dont get invested in your gf.
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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-19-2014, 07:53 AM
It seems like he's putting all of his eggs in one basket here. He's only got a single TRUE outlet (I don't care if he does decide to go about meeting and banging other people, he's obviously got it hard for this one chick) for his life. If he pulls back, no problem and he's back to having that abundance mentality. If not, he's looking at a potential relationship while keeping side pieces.
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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-19-2014, 09:29 AM
Of course it is good for a guy to experience a relationship if he has not done so.
You don't want to be some emotionally incapacitated dude who is unable to bond. Even if you like the lifestyle and discover that you want to pursue it via Game at the age of 18. It is still better to have LTR in your life and see the dynamics of it. You may decide to end it someday, but the experience will teach you a multitude of things.
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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-19-2014, 09:58 AM
What is he talking about? Every girl I've been with are my girlfriends.
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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-20-2014, 04:17 AM
Take a guy who thinks he knows game and has never been in a relationship and you get Cardguy.
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Why a player should have a girlfriend
07-21-2014, 11:40 AM
Honestly, it's nice having a unofficial LTR and having sex on the side. I need more focus on myself, yeah it'd be nice to game girls 24/7, but isn't probable for me.
I mean take for example I banged a regular friday, banged another one yesterday (which i'll probably not do again), and then my main girl is bringing new undies, a new set of lingerie, and a flat whip for me to use on her. I can't complain about the LTR she compliments my life, doesn't makes it difficult.