Quote: (12-22-2013 03:05 PM)runsonmagic Wrote:
This is slowly happening for me. I think when first learning game it wasn't congruent, and it was unrefined. I kept my game separate for the same reason I don't show people the first drafts I my writing - I knew it was still shit. As I improve it, I find it easier to combine the two - it's not a new hobby or something I'm learning now, it's who I am.
Exactly.
And it's not like you have to hide information about yourself anymore. Rather, be vague about it.
I have a social circle at work with guys and girls my age or a couple years younger, so mostly late teens. Some of the guys know what I'm like having been on nights out with me, and the girls have an idea but they aren't completely sure. They always ask me questions about hooking up with girls and what I do on my nights out, if I'm seeing anyone, if I have a girlfriend etc.
My answer's are always vague. "It's complicated"
I usually turn around the question on them.
I act aloof, and say that on my nights out I just stand against the wall, working up the courage to talk to girls, but I never do. I ask them for tips. They know I'm just playing around and they playfully hit me.
Instead of 'hiding' that lifestyle, I end up internalizing it. Those traits such as being aloof, cocky and funny, vague/intriguing end up becoming part of me instead of things I just do on nights out.