i present a radio show on friday nights in the city and catch the train into the city most of the time.
i always notice at least one cute girl on the train and decided to start chatting to this girl that sat in front of me.i started with the "what are you listening to?" as she was ipod'd up.
being a radio/club dj requires a constant hunt for new music so it was easy to keep the conversation going for a few minutes about related groups/bands etc but then her phone rang and she answered it and then got off at the next stop before i had a chance to continue.
it was a brave move for me as a i never do this and the train was quite packed but it felt good to do it.
after the radio show my co-host and i had decided to go check out a pretty famous dj playing at one of bigger clubs.we were doing the rounds of some smaller bars to get our drink on and scope out some babes and music while waiting for the main club to get busy(most international djs dont start till around 2am here).
he opened with a couple girls at this one place and decided to bail on coming to the gig with me so i was rolling solo for the rest of the night.
the big club was super busy with a rammed dancefloor and loads of girls,i was having a good time and drinking quite a lot.
at around 4am i started talking to a girl who had promoted a couple gigs i had played at previously.
she is about a 4 lookswise at best so i wasnt thinking about trying to hook up with her at all but we were getting on really well dancing and laughing etc....
she asked me if i wanted some mdma and took me to a dark corner of the club to have a bump.within minutes she asked if i also wanted to come back to her place after the club closed and immediately i knew she wanted me to give her one....
i was actually a bit repulsed by her naked body but smashed her pussy despite her requests to be gentle.
long story short,its only been a week since discovering this site and ive already found myself being way more chatty with girls everywhere i go and i fluked an easy lay with almost no effort on my behalf aside from being my jovial and playful self but it was a great confidence booster and just what the doctor ordered to get my head back in the game after only having the one pussy for the last few years.

Good job....welcome to the forum...i just finished reading BANG and between that and this forum i can already see my game improving by leaps and bounds everytime i am out...good job slaying the 4....sometimes all it takes is a mud turtle to ignite the fire that consumes numerous hotties....

thanks.i bought and read the whole bang book yesterday while hungover.
very inspiring stuff.

sooo.. in essence, your successful lay boosted your confidence? or was it something else I missed?

I think it was everything as a whole. The talking to the girl on the train, and banging the four. Sounds like he's motivated to keep on trucking, and to do even better in the future.

Quote: (09-27-2011 03:23 AM)adubz Wrote:  

I think it was everything as a whole. The talking to the girl on the train, and banging the four. Sounds like he's motivated to keep on trucking, and to do even better in the future.

exactly...

Something related that I posted last year:

I learned this by accident but something that helped me was DOING THINGS THAT WERE MUCH SCARIER THEN APPROACHING GIRLS.

I went skydiving and nearly shit my pants, when i got back on the ground i couldn't wait to approach girls..i had just experienced a great deal of fear and i was laughing it off...approaching girls didn't seem that scary anymore.

Other things that helped were boxing in the Golden Gloves, talking to my mom about why she left my dad, bungee jumping, etc. The bottom line is the more you face your fears...the less fear you will have stored in your body/mind...when you eliminate all that fear, approaching girls is easy.

Quote: (09-29-2011 04:08 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Something related that I posted last year:

I learned this by accident but something that helped me was DOING THINGS THAT WERE MUCH SCARIER THEN APPROACHING GIRLS.

I went skydiving and nearly shit my pants, when i got back on the ground i couldn't wait to approach girls..i had just experienced a great deal of fear and i was laughing it off...approaching girls didn't seem that scary anymore.

Other things that helped were boxing in the Golden Gloves, talking to my mom about why she left my dad, bungee jumping, etc. The bottom line is the more you face your fears...the less fear you will have stored in your body/mind...when you eliminate all that fear, approaching girls is easy.

That's a trick they do in psychotherapy and hypnotherapy. They'll take a fear you have and force you to deal with an exaggerated version of it.

Works really well.

This one book I read by Milton H. Erickson showed an example where a guy was afraid of going to restaurants and dealing with people and waitresses.

He helped the guy by forcing him to go out to eat with him and some friends and talking with the waitress and manager beforehand and asking them to play along.

The therapist made it out to be the most horrible experience for the guy he could possible imagine and forced him to sit through it all. He was fine after that because he lived through the worst case scenario.

im not afraid to talk to girls at all,its just been a while since i have had to try and seal the deal.but yeah im pickin up what your saying about scaring yourself into stuff,i used to be a amatuer sponsored skateboarder/snowboarder and some of the things i did back then were huge in building confidence.....a sick day on the hill or a good day filming in the streets would always boost me up.

Quote: (09-29-2011 04:08 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Something related that I posted last year:

I learned this by accident but something that helped me was DOING THINGS THAT WERE MUCH SCARIER THEN APPROACHING GIRLS.

I went skydiving and nearly shit my pants, when i got back on the ground i couldn't wait to approach girls..i had just experienced a great deal of fear and i was laughing it off...approaching girls didn't seem that scary anymore.

Other things that helped were boxing in the Golden Gloves, talking to my mom about why she left my dad, bungee jumping, etc. The bottom line is the more you face your fears...the less fear you will have stored in your body/mind...when you eliminate all that fear, approaching girls is easy.

Ever had your beak broken?