Gradually build up attraction with girls over time
03-11-2015, 01:31 PM
Yeah, many of this replies are wrong.
It's been written about enough, but there's much more to female attraction to males than simply physical appearance and initial vibe. You can most certainly "convert" chicks who maybe weren't initially into you. Maybe they were always into you deep down, but you must tap into whatever latent desire they have for you. Sure, there's plenty of girls where it's just not gonna happen, but sometimes you can provoke attraction over time.
In social circles, classes, etc., you don't need to act like you just got out of a relationship and read Bang for the first time, hitting on every girl like a giddy schoolboy. You're not meeting these chicks at a bar. You don't need to go all gung-ho and pull out all the stops for a SNL. However, this doesn't mean immediately set a beta or un-intimidating frame.
The main thing you must be concerned with is momentum - Never Regress. By this I mean that you must be continually adding to the attraction. Always have the upper hand and slowly burn the attraction until it is a roaring boil. Then, you strike while it's hot.
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These may sound like empty words so here's a story. There's a smoking hot girl that I see occasionally, probably one of the hottest girls on my campus. In the fall, she wasn't feeling me. I talked to her at the bar, wasn't bringing her home. Got her number, she didn't want to get drinks. She was very short with me and never sought me out to say hi before I did. She flat out wasn't interested. I was just some dude in the social circle.
Months progress, and I'll see her at a bar. We'll passingly say "hi". Maybe next time a see her, I give her a big strong hug. Nothing serious. She progressively learns more about me. I'm in college on a full ride and I'm premed. That's cool but it's not gonna get me pussy. Next time, she'll see me with some sexy girl. Life still goes on. I start bartending and nonchalantly tell her and her friends to stop in some night, I serve them, throw her a free drink, act like the man. She's friendlier to me, slightly flirty, and my personality is truly shining. Still wasn't happening, but attraction was increasing. Progression.
Then, towards the end of the semester, I finally thought I had it. It was my buddy's 21st, so I say, "hey, go dance with birthday boy", because I was trying to get my friend laid on his birthday. She replies, "but him and I are friends". I look her strongly in the eye and say, "but we're not friends". Perfect line. Soon, we were making out and dancing at a bar. Later in the night, she bolted (think she was coked out). I try to continue this the next time at the bar, she shuts me down again. I think she regretted it. Real cocky girl.
Spring semester, by now she knows I'm "popular". She knows I have an extensive social circle. She knows I've got a great future. She knows I bartend. She knows I pull. I see her at a bar, she somewhat comes onto me, pretty intoxicated. I dismiss her and she sees that I've already got a girl for the night.
Then, I invite her and her friend to go day drinking two Saturdays ago with me and my boys. We have a blast, we go to my bar where I'm served like a king. Free drinks. Dressed like a boss suited up. The whole nine yards. She's impressed. In conversation, my friends tell her this story about me hitting a girl during sex recently (who asked for it), because they thought it was hilarious. She probably got wet right there. Around 7, we decide to go back to our respective dorms/apartments/houses to recoup for a bit. As soon as she gets home, we text, she comes over. Bang. In the rotation now.
Moral of the story, the chick wasn't into me at first. I got to progressively know her, building attraction as the months went by. I wasn't an overzealous child. I played it cool, demonstrated my value, and got the bang. Just keep momentum going and never fall into a friend zone frame.
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Damn that was long. Too much adderall today. Back to studying biochem.