[Ice]

(02-27-2016 01:55 PM)Chowder Head Wrote:  

I think the Situation and Pauly D used the PJ move on the Jersey Shore show.

Well I don't watch the Jersey Shore show

[Turnus]

Instead of playing a movie, what I've been doing lately with good success is YouTube videos. I have a Roku so it's easy to stream from my phone to the Roku device. Specifically what I've been playing for them is the rapper Lil Dicky. His videos are funny and sexual and the set the tone. Typically within the first 2-3 videos I'll put my moves on. Much more relaxed and less formal than the whole movie thing.

Try it

[XPQ22]

I live in the suburbs (for the moment, this will change soon) in an area with piss poor public transit. The girls I meet are often in the city.

My "netflix and chill" project: pulling them to their own place to do it. Driving 35 miles out to mine is a vibe-destructor.

It is a difficult research project, complex, with many confounding variables. A number of lays have been lost due to not playing things exactly right, or what they call "unknown unknowns."

Examples:

"Yeah, I've been living in an apartment with my dad because he's been ill (2 hours into the date.)" Shit!

Wind up at a girl's place on the second date and all seems like it's going well, but, oh hey did I mention? I don't own a fucking couch in front of a television. Just a bed and that's where I sit. Sounds great, right? Wrong. Forces the move to the bed too early, no way to push pull or seem like "it just happened." We start off in bed, and she's cold as ice. Eventually asks me to leave. Shit!

It feels like an uphill struggle sometimes, but like a slot machine that's set right, it's paid out just often enough to keep me throwing quarters in. So I will continue my research.

A few things I have learned: women in "polyamorous" relationships with a "primary partner" like to bang on the couch. The bed is only for the "A" guy. Fine with me. I don't want to be the "A" guy, anyway.

[WestIndianArchie]

(02-27-2016 01:43 PM)ElJefe Wrote:  

If you invite a girl over for a movie, you're essentially suggesting you guys bang. ASD goes on. Is the trick to simply not suggest it unless it's obvious?

To WIA: are you saying Netflix & Chill is usually your 2nd date procedure?

It depends on how I met the chick and what kind of connection.

I never used to screen, now I screen heavily.

If it's a night game/bar/club situation, bounce from the club, to a diner/coffee spot. I don't want her drunk. I want to see what she's about.

If I'm really feeling the chick, then try to bring her home. I wouldn't use necessarily movie as bait, but throw it on if I need more comfort. The danger with the post club movie is broads fall asleep. So you can't really use it as bait in that situation.

If it's a day game/social circle type situation, typically grub to see how she interacts with me and with general population.

The movies/lemme make dinner type situation happens when
a) she screened well
b) I couldn't make the bang happen for logistics (dinner tuesday, but I got shit to do Wednesday)
c) She's on the fence, or I can't assume she's DTF

Then the move is to get her at your spot and slow cook. Tease her to death, you want her begging to be fucked. As opposed to slam her up against the wall, and hope that triggers something other than a flight response.

............

I sort of use a 40 scale - body (10), face (10) personality (10) behavior (10);

Her personality you can get in a "thin slice", but her behavior you can't.

I've been fucked over too many times by chicks that tick the first three set of criteria. But turns out they had some obvious behavioral red flags, had I just gotten them out of their element.

And behavior, you can't really throw hypotheticals and watch her react, because she'll try to just give you what she thinks you want to hear. So you take her out to see how she reacts to everyday situations, things she can't anticipate.

In the classic netflix and chill situation, you meet a chick online and she wants to come through.

Most of the time she's DTF. But you're both strangers and the picture doesn't always convey body language, smell, and all the animal shit that you can see when you're live.

So in the case when she's timid, you warm her up by thinking through the process. At least that's how I do it.

The thread is about how other people handle the timid cases.

WIA