Quote: (02-23-2015 09:01 PM)mikado Wrote:French Girls...are amazing. They have that C'est La Vie Vibe and are incredibly flirty.
Quote: (02-16-2015 10:07 PM)Apollo21 Wrote:
It's pretty funny: when you can speak intelligently...people are shocked:-) Sometimes even other black people are shocked(unfortunately)...anyway when you destroy those stereotypes from the moment you say hello, some interesting things can happen...especially with girls.
Man, "you ain't none spittin' da truth".
More seriously:
This is something I 100% agree on.
I usually wear glasses. I never even once noticed in France a single ghetto boy (like with jogging pants, drunk, thug, swearing in every sentence and impolite with even elders) with glasses. I guess that's not "living the life" enough.
Even if some people in the street, malls etc still never acknowledge me (I don't think it's necessarily because I am black, probably just because they are too absorbed by their life) , I have never been checked for my papers (even tough I often leave them at home), security guards do never follow me in malls and supermarkets, and on the contrary, those who are black often give me a nod/smile when I enter there.
The glasses, and my non-threatening engineer face completely change the situation. I always feel a different atmosphere when I don't wear them. However with the girls it's not really working. Most of the cats I know who get laid and are not in the upper spheres of the Paris life have a little tuggish vibe, or give the impression of really tough motherfuckers and quite dangerous guys. I suppose what you gain from one side is lost from the other.
To the podcasters:
Really good work, you know your shit. I am happy for all the material you leave here.
What category of girls one black cat should aim for in Europe if he is more of an "engineer" type than an American footballer/basketball player one, if you know what I mean?
I don't want to become a hipster, and I do not really want to become a total douchebag (maybe a bit, but that's it). Possibly a niche where having some culture générale is welcomed.
I used to be in your shoes though. I studied engineering and years ago
when I originally came to Europe from college I was still wearing glasses in the club!
I also wore these ridiculous timberland hiking shoes everywhere
and had no idea...until one weekend I couldn't get into a club because of them...
the next day I got some decent mens shoes.
Eventually I lost the glasses and started wearing contacts.
I found it much easier to connect with girls without the glasses.
It's not impossible...I just wanted a sleeker look.
Besides that, you have to see yourself as more than
an engineer...Renaissance lady charmer is what you're aiming for:-)
Here's what I recommend:
1. Wear Contacts It allows you to establish direct eye contact...it is also where attraction begins. Even if you wear glasses around the house, wear contacts when you go out.
2. Learn how to dance. This gives your game a lot of natural style and rhythm that gives you more confidence.
3. Learn French and make friends with lots of French girls. You must understand girls
on a "gut" level so you can really interact with them.
4. Embrace French fashion France has always had some incredible cool men's fashions. Use this opportunity to learn from the best.
5. Work. Hard. Talk to lots of girls. Ask for numbers/FB addresses, go to parties, ask girls out, learn how to escalate from conversation to kino to makeout etc...There is no magic elixir...you just have to get the experience and develop a style that's totally separate from the typical engineer look.
Like changing from Clark Kent into Superman....