Quote: (08-23-2011 12:40 PM)Tuthmosis Wrote:
Thankfully, I've never been married, but I did run game during a period where I had a live-in girlfriend. It was semi-effective, but requires a lot of groundwork to setup. Frankly, in retrospect, I would have rathered go through the trouble of making myself single.
But here are a few things, off the top of my head, in no particular order that are essential:
1. Get a second, pre-paid cell phone.
This automatically removes the 80 percent of the problem of getting caught. Be good about shutting the ringer (or turning it off) when you're home. Better yet--if you're technically saavy--make the ringer on the second phone the same as your primary. Be ready to say you "found in the street and since it looked new you're thinking about seeing if you can have it cracked."
2. Pick up a "hobby" or join a "group" that requires weekly meetings.
This buys you at least one night a week where you can be out of the house to go work your angle.
3. Have a second go-to location.
This is hard and/or expensive. I've heard of guys renting rooms in a houses or furnished shit-holes toward this purpose. They buy a radio, a few basic appointments, and are good to go. The natural alternative is to always fuck your babes at their places, but the benefits of home-court advantage are hard to over-state.
4. Invent (or sacrifice) at least one friend and a "crisis" he's going through.
This will give you another night to go out on the regular. Depending on the nature of your relationship--and how much you've placed yourself on de facto lock-down over the years--you can "sleep over" at his place because you guys drank a little too much. When the "crisis" gets resolved, you can still hang with him because you "re-bonded" during your long chats. (Credit: Roosh)
5. If you drive, equip your car and find good, discreet parking locations.
I've fucked girls in my car and you can too. This requires having good music in there, a blanket, throw pillows, and knowing where to drive the girl. You should also use your car as your "safety island." Keep a stocked-up toiletry bag to clean yourself up before heading home, a water bottle for brushing your teeth, and a change of clothes to switch into for your "dates." Leave nothing to chance.
6. Have lock-and-loaded lines and excuses that you've rehearsed in the mirror.
I'm not kidding. If you get to this level, it's going to take a fucking PI to catch you. But, since you'll never make your wife suspicious, that won't happen.
7. Have different narratives for your prospects.
Sooner or later, questions are going to get asked of you. Be prepared to be: a guy going through a messy divorce, a recent bachelor, or a regular dude with a high-level job that gives you very little freedom. Pick your story according to your girl.
8. Minimize the number of people who know about your creeping.
You made need to confide in someone for some logistical reason along the way, but avoid this like the plague. The fewer people know about it, the smaller the chances that someone will open their big mouths: (1) in hopes of revenge-banging your wife; or (2) because they're a genuinely "nice" person who feels bad for your poor wife.
There's more, but that's my piece for now.
You can use Google Voice effectively in place of a burner phone, and even load it on your smartphone, but for fuck's sake, make sure you log out religiously. Don't save anything - never save texts for longer than you must, don't save any emails, don't take pictures. Never give out your real phone number. It's a good idea to have a fake name, even.
Minimize your online profile - no Facebook, none of that. Do not use online dating. Single chicks might be open to hooking up with a married guy on a whim, but even if she thinks you're single, she can easily do a bit of sleuthing and find out the truth, and depending on how nuts she is, this can end badly.
If your wife catches up to your side piece, she will not cover your ass and lie for you. Women will NEVER have your back if you get caught.
Remember that in this day & age, all someone needs to know is your license plate & $10 for one of those online public information databases and they can find out everything about you. If your side piece is also married or in a relationship and their guy is vindictive, this can bite your ass.
The best piece of advice I can give is that if you want to do this, you need to live a lifestyle that's conducive to this. It's best to be in situations where "it just happened", which means that if you're in a field where there are lots of social or networking events, that gives you a good place to run subtle game AND plausible deniability AND as a worst case scenario, "it just happened". A long running affair is much worse than a one night stand.