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08-25-2014, 10:03 AM
unfortunately I'm not getting a vibe that's good for you on this one. might be preparing to eject and wants to put it on you as why she left. it all depends if you've been an alpha boss with her. If you were, no worries you'll get her back
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08-25-2014, 10:11 AM
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I considered that to be a possibility, but how can I be sure?
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08-25-2014, 10:17 AM
when you come back from your trip try to set up a meet with extremely low effort. just a txt asking her to drop by with some food that's cooked for you or one of your favorite.
if she gives you a hard time fir the meet, you might want to let her go for good but if she's really worth it to you, you'll have to re establish your dominance over her.
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08-25-2014, 10:24 AM
We are going to meet at the airport. It appears to me she is putting in a lot of effort to keep this relationship alive. For example she contacts me regularely through intl. calls paying with her own money. She regularly visits internet cafes to skype with me (again, paying herself). She is from a poor 3rd world village!
She also cooks for me regularely without hesiation. I once told her that I don't have a lot of cash, her response was that it's okay, we can live in a cheap place, she just wants to be with me...
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08-25-2014, 10:34 AM
Sounds like she's in love. What is it that you want to do?
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08-25-2014, 10:41 AM
I might be railing against everyone for this, but I just cant understand: why punish the girl and seek to bail while she has been extremely good to you, from what I have read?
From your own words, she is attractive, tries to please you, never upset you, is submissive etc. What else to hate? Of course she is clingy because thats women s nature when she found somebody she truly likes. What else does she has to do in order to please you?
If you dont want to be in a LTR or has an unsatiable thirst for new pussies then I understand, but still it looks like you found wife/relationship material. Why dont you reward her with one? You can always bail later when she start acting bitchy/unfeminine. Just dont let yourself be duped thats all
We often bitch about how women are bitches and decadent, but Im starting to question if it isnt us the players who find the good girls and turn them bad by eventually leaving them and scar them forever.
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08-25-2014, 10:49 AM
It sounds to me like she's being mad needy and desperate for affection but I've heard similar things from buddies who were stationed overseas (especially the Philippines) who got long, emotional letters from girls proclaiming to love you longtime.
It was often a plea for a green card marriage.
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08-25-2014, 10:56 AM
I don't think rhr said he wants to bail. Sounds like he's in question about the whole thing, which is normal.
1) Is she bieng genuine?
2) If yes, is she also hedging her bets with other guys too?
3) How do I feel about her? Do I want an LTR with her? How would it work? etc.
4) What will she require of me? What will I require of her?
Of course, you have to know for sure what the answer to the first question is. We can only analyze at a distance, which can be valuable since we are objective, but also very limiting since we aren't in the relationship.
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08-25-2014, 11:05 AM
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I'm aware of that. The question is is it a good or bad thing?
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08-25-2014, 11:07 AM
Run far away.
This is passive aggressive girl BS. She wants you to "correct" her impression of you.
These reason why she's saying this to you is because it works...
At 25 and being an "8" she's had experience with guys leaving her. Maybe she wants you to stick around and marry her or whatever.
At the end of the day you should just move on and find a saner girl to be with.
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08-25-2014, 11:08 AM
Quote: (08-25-2014 11:00 AM)rhr Wrote:
Quote: (08-25-2014 10:34 AM)Onto Wrote:
What is it that you want to do?
Quote: (08-25-2014 10:41 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:
... why punish the girl and seek to bail while she has been extremely good to you, from what I have read?
I want to continue banging new girls for another five years or so and then settling with a girl who truely loves me and cares about me and start a small family.
This girl is a prime canidate for that and staying with her is certainly on the table.
The thing is (as "unmanly" as it may sound) that I'm a very empathetic and caring person, I'd hate to hurt (or punish as you said) this girl. Yet the idea of never seeing another girl again is equally difficult for me to accept. I'm torn.
Keeping her as my "main" while banging others, possibly in other countries, would be my preferred option, the question is can I handle that emotionally? This would force me into some kind of "double-life", with me secretly banging chicks on the side. Another problem with that could be that I end up with another clingy thing. That would be desasterous...
As for the of your post:
I absolutely agree!
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We often bitch about how women are bitches and decadent, but Im starting to question if it isnt us the players who find the good girls and turn them bad by eventually leaving them and scar them forever.
I think you hit nail on the head here!
There s nothing unmanly about having empathy for people. Its called being a fucking human being.
K I see your dilemna. You seem to be a genuine guy. Why not break it to her? I do the same for my main girl who acts similar to yours. I tell her I will stay with her as long as she is still good and feminine like this, on the condition that I still go out and hit on other women if and when I want to. But I agree to spend most of my time with her and havent regretted it. Makes her even more eager to keep me around. Shit she even pays my meals and buy me gifts.
Stay with her for a while but keep eyes open. You aint a dumbass. If she tries to manipulate you it WILL show over time, come up here and ask a question and we ll break it up to you. If over time she is still acting nice without asking for anything BUT your time, no need to ditch her. Girls like that aint easy to find.
I disagree with ditchign girls as soon as they want you to commit. If thats the case girls should ditch guys as soon as they want sex. As long as girls are worthy of commitment, consider giving it to her.
Dont do things like go seeing her family or shit like that that will tie you down.
DONT FUCKING GET HER PREGNANT
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08-26-2014, 07:31 AM
Ok, thanks for all the advice, highly appreciated! I will keep you guys updated on this.
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08-26-2014, 08:53 AM
@Cheetah, I do not push this.
We get along very well but I make sure she knows that I have to go out dancing and training MA and that I flirt with girls by nature. I said if she s ok with it then we can stay together. She never complains though she does the usual girly stuff like marking/scratching me during sex etc.
I never forbid her to see anyone else but she kinda knows that if she does that its over. She just told me how this French guy at the airport was hitting on her and I just smirked over how lame his game was. She stopped.
Any time she tries to throw a fit (in the cute ways, not attention whoring way) I just laugh, pick her up, throw her on the bed and fuck her brains out. Thanks Christian McQueen for this tip. I think its sorta basic deep conversion game.
Whenever she goes on a trip I tell her to bring me some gifts. She always does. To reward her I take her to dinner and again fuck her brains out until she walks silly. The positive reinforcement is pretty solid and keep the hamster spinning in MY favor.
Showing a bit of hamster rage is good too. Sometimes I get furious for no reason and it really scares her, but it keeps the pussy wet. For morning exercise I use her as my squatting weight (seriously) and push up weight, along with morning sex. She also regularly does my martial art laundry which frequently has blood on. I think what this implies to her is that I will crush her into a bloody mist if she does something stupid, even though all I do around her is laugh and making fun of things and hugging puppies.
Its very pleasant being with this girl and it teaches me that despite the stupid shitstorm of feminism and post-modernism if you have a glint of danger and savagery girls will be hooked on you like on drugs. For the record, she is a lawyer. And as things are going I see no reasons to bail on her. She knows that as long as she is my good girl I take care of her.
TL;DR: Fuck her well and fuck her often, and show some inner rage and physical strength. Show, not tell. Reward her when she earns it.
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