Hey Guys,
Thanks for the info. I am beta as fuck at the moment aren't I !! Looking back at the messages I sent her! It goes against everything I have read!
Its harder than I thought!
Time to change. I'm going to tone down the messaging. Try get a fuck on the weekend (why not). If she flakes I will just cut her off.
Quote: (08-22-2014 04:50 AM)JayJuanGee Wrote:
I don't know what is RAF? Royal Air Force?
Also, through this dialogue, you seem to be begging the girl to continue with a long term relationship... and if NOT begging for a long term relationship, you seem to have a kind of begging manner.
Do you want a long term relationship with her? if NOT, what do you want from her?
It seems from your texts that there is some ambiguity because finally you bang her, and then she wants more distance? Usually, girls are the opposite, they won't bang you unless they are comfortable, and then after they bang you, they usually get more clingy... not always, but usually. Also, this girl is saying that she wants to break up with you, but then she is "coming over?"
She may be just putting you through a shit test and attempting to get you to play into her frame.. .. which from the dialogue, you seem to be going along with her frame quite well, rather than setting the frame of the relationship.
Also, the messages are describing that if she goes RAF, then a long distance relationship, is that what you want?
Seems a little contrary from what most RVF guys seek. But, maybe you can explain further what it is that you are seeking with this girl and this relationship?
Also, you do NOT have very many posts in RVF, so maybe describe some things further about yourself... your approximate age and some things about your past experiences in connection with gaming girls (you mentioned that you are kind of new to gaming). Yet, for example, Do you have other girls in your life? and, how easy do you meet girls? and how easy do you escalate the relationships? Do you have many opportunities to meet new girls?
Yeah RAF is Royal Air Force. I did want a long term relationship but that's completely against why I read BANG, Mystery Method and came to these forums. I want to fuck loads of beautiful women.
I think it was the beta inside wanting a long relationship with her. The reason being she was a 9/10. For some reason I get emotionally attached and find it hard to let go / drop the girl. I guess this will disappear with experience and time?
A little about me
I'm 24, 170cm tall 5'5", I have been doing bodyweight training for the last 4 months and got a pretty good body from it. You can see I'm healthy and not a fat fuck.
I work as a Data Centre operations Technician for a well known IT company. Make good money for my age.
I work nights right now 4 on 3 off 9pm to 7am. It's not too bad. As we rotate and get the weekends off for two months then swap back.
My game is near to zero. The only fucks I have got are from relationships. Oh I got one 1night stand when I went to Iceland. Ha!
I live 20 mins train ride to London so I have many opportunities to meet girls. I just need to push past approach anxiety.
I have a lead on POF. Some Canadian girl. Here is the conversation. I have the number. I need to secure a date.
Quote: (08-22-2014 05:25 AM)Cheetah Wrote:
What will she be working as in the RAF?
A military officer. Policing the soldiers I think.
Quote: (08-22-2014 06:19 AM)CrashBangWallop Wrote:
To be brutally honest you text like a girl. Too many smileys, too much "please be my girlfriend".
It's really easy to forget to continue the "game" after you've banged a girl and go beta, for want of a better phrase.
If I were you, if she doesn't flake (which is much more likely now than before the texts) you need to reframe yourself to be a bit colder and less needy.
Yeah I do don't I! Got to change that. The game went straight out the window after the bang. You are right.
Quote: (08-22-2014 06:32 AM)WilliamShatnersEgo Wrote:
You disgust her. If she was on the fence before, you've completely pushed her off onto the other side with your whinging and begging. If RAF is military, she's more dude than girl and she needs an unusually strong man, the type she will be surrounded with all the time, rather than a guy who has oneitis after the first fuck.
On top of that, she raped you for your time the first two months while she was slowly breaking it off from the first dude. Worse yet, you gave it up willingly, waiting in the wings for a piece of ass that she gave up in a moment of weakness....I'm assuming you got drunk while camping? Drunk camping sex is always a lock.
Funny thing is we were not drunk at all! Strange hey?
Quote: (08-22-2014 06:54 AM)Vicious Wrote:
That thing you did at 10:36...
That's where you lost her.
You should have said something about getting her to site up at your place in uniform when she's on leave for "inspection". Or that you intend to give her the orders on where she puts her R&R... But you got possessive, and you lost her.
Thanks Noted! That's a good reply lol.
Thanks for all the feedback. I'm no troll. Just trying to get into game and more fucks in my life. I thought I would turn here for advise.