Quote: (08-12-2014 02:56 AM)Joeno Wrote:
whats the best way to weed out girls (esp doubles) that just want cheap accomodation?
Easy. Don't host strangers. I am not kidding...
I have hosted some 175 couchsurfers, and I have showed around some 100+ CS people, as well. None of my CS bangs were obtained via hosting strangers. All of them happened via offering to show CS girls around.
I like going for long walks. When I am tired of sitting in front of the computer and want to go for a long walk, I take a look at my city's CS page, to see if there are any interesting CS chicks visiting. Girls traveling alone are usually afraid of being hosted by male CS'ers. There are female CS'ers hosting girls, but they are rare, and they can't absorb all the demand, especially during the Summer. Hence, girls traveling alone will generally stay at a hostel or a (cheap) hotel. They want someone to show them around, however, as walking around in an unfamiliar city in a foreign land is quite suboptimal. I can show them around. After all, I regularly take long walks around the historical parts of the city, and why not go for a 4 hour walk with a cool and pretty Czech / Latvian / Lithuanian / Polish / Russian girl, instead of going alone?
So, I offer to show a girl around for a couple of hours or so. If she's boring or ugly (profile photos can be deceiving), I eject from the situation after a couple of hours. If she's cool and pretty, I stay with her a bit longer. At some point, it will be lunch / dinner time. I can invite her for lunch or dinner at some restaurant I propose. If she accepts my invitation enthusiastically, then she's at least a bit interested. If she makes excuses, says that she must return to the hostel / hotel and does not offer any counter-proposal, then she has already gotten what she wanted from me and it's time to say goodbye. Trying to spend time with a girl who's giving IOD's is a huge DLV, of course.
If she wants to have lunch, and if I have time, then I can spend a few more hours with her. If she wants to have dinner, too, that is a good sign. If she wants to go out after dinner, it's an even better sign. If she wants to meet on the next day, then she's throwing strong IOI's at me. If things go well and she's clearly DTF, I can invite her to stay at my place, and I will be hosting a prospective fuckbuddy with whom sexual tension has already been built, rather than gamble my time on a complete female stranger with a good profile photo and lots of references from thirsty beta CS hosts.
Contrast this to hosting. I stopped hosting because hitting on a guest goes against my nature, and also because hosting puts me in an uncomfortable position of power. If I am in this position of power, a female guest's replies to my questions will be designed to please me and to appease me. Mostly, she will answer whatever gets her a good reference and minimizes the chances that I will kick her out for bad behavior. In other words, female guests often manufacture fake IOI's, and the whole thing disgusts me, just like the manufactured IOI's of a prostitute trying to convince a prospective John to buy her "services" do disgust me. I like this analogy. Hosting CS chicks (when they are complete strangers) is to hosting a genuine girlfriend like fucking a whore is to good sex with a girl who is attracted to me and wants to fuck me.
"The great secret of happiness in love is to be glad that the other fellow married her." – H.L. Mencken