What is your opinion on girls who masturbate frequently, and are open about it (maybe not to everyone, but to you)?

I'll explain what made me bring this up to give you some motive:

I recently stopped masturbating and watching porn; not 100%, but I have probably jerked off a total 4 or 5 times in the past 2 months and watched porn once. I did this for my mental and sexual health - wanted to disconnect from affiliating masturbation and porn with orgasms. Was sick of not getting boners as easily with real women and having to close my eyes and imagine watching porn to cum. Totally unhealthy, not to mention the "easy-out" mental release you get from jerking off is not good for motivation, game, or your libido.

Anyway, I have been seeing a regular girl for a few months now - playing around with the idea of girlfriending her. She masturbates regularly; seemingly as much as a guy does. She watches porn often as well. She is open about it with me, and will bring it up unprovoked or when talking about sexual things. Example:

(Texts from last night)
10:55pm - HER: I want your cock. RIGHT NOW
1:06am - ME: Darling You'll just have to wait like a good girl
8:41am - HER: If that includes masturbating for half an hour this morning than yes, I'm a good girl

In my semi-abstinence from masturbation, I've starting projecting it on her a bit. Wondering if her constant self-pleasure is good or bad for our sexual relationship. I don't particularly care if a girl gets off when we are banging or whatever, but I'm curious if her masturbation makes sex or cumming not as easy for her because she masturbates so much. On the otherside of the spectrum, I wonder if her horniness and urge to get-off a lot is a slut red-flag.

I want to note that I am not as concerned or bothered by this as this example makes it seem - just some thoughts in my head that made me think up this question. Sex with this girl is great and I'm not worried about it, but I also am not 100% sure how I feel about her (or any other girl) who is big into porn and masturbation. Kind of an oddly masculine trait, no?

I get off on women masturbating, but that demanding shit is unfeminine to me. "I want your cock now" sounds like a guy.

I told the story elsewhere here where a girl came over in the afternoon and "let it slip" she had masturbated that morning.

I made her do it in front of me, "punishing" her for being a horny slut.
She came hard while calling me "master!" .

Totally irrational I know but that's fun.

I like to break demanding girls down by eating them until they cum like 5 times .. and refusing to fuck them until their tone of voice is feminine and submissive..

I speculate that masturbation doesn't quite kill female sex urge the same way it does in males. They really seem to need the emotional approval and actual sperm inside them to really feel complete..

Girls who masturbate frequently having a harder time getting off in my experience.

It would give me pause to make her a gf, with that kind of sex drive her ability to be faithful might be on the rocks to start with.
Girls lie all the time about the sexual acts they've done and would be willing to do.
...as we all know porn is a rabbit hole. So what may do it for her now may not be enough for her in 6 months. So the expectation of the types of sex she truly wants may lead to situations that you don't want to deal with.

Nah - it is not related - some good girls masturbate frequently. I have had some girls with notch-counts of under 5 tell me that they masturbated 5x-10x/day when they were 16-18.

Usually they reach their maximum horniness level around that age 16-18 with libido going down from there.

I have also met sluts who did not masturbate at all, but fucked a lot of guys - that is probably less beneficial.

Either way - many girls can also sort of hibernate their sex-drive - as proven by some girls who have no sex between the attractive Alphas who have impressed her or with some married women, who lack any interest to fuck their Beta-husbands. Female sex-drive is a bit more complicated than ours.

The very same woman, who hibernates her sex-drive with her Beta-boyfriend, starts to fuck your brains out, because you really excite her! Suddenly she is insatiable. I have also a friend with Tantric Yoga abilities and his wife basically begs for it every day after 10 years of marriage.

So - basically depends on a multitude of factors. Most men should rather abstain from masturbation due to loss of energy and vigor, but I don't think it is the same with women.

Who knows - maybe it is as put in one Seinfeld episode - The Abstinence:






In it George Constanza becomes super-smart due to abstinence from sex, while Elaine gets dumber and dumber with each passing day without sex. Might be some kernel of truth in it.

I believe I read somewhere that girls who are hypersexual(i.e., having a high "sexual urge") are more likely to have more sexual partners and masturbate frequently. I'll look for the study.

EDIT: http://atlanta.cbslocal.com/2014/07/08/s...-porn-use/

Some slutty girls don't masturbate because it's so easy to keep a steady line of dicks.

One I fucked was like that, I asked why she didn't masturbate because she could come like crazy like 5 times a night and still not be tired ( she was bipolar) .

She said it made her feel like a "loser."

Another one I was with said it was different.. "Guys HAVE TO masturbate" she commented.

If you think about it, the seminal fluid is different than female lube.

Here's a JAMA article reference-- 21 orgasms a month are less likely to get prostate cancer.

http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/g...lth?page=2

I don't think a girl watching porn all time is very healthy for LTR situation. Just like anyone who watches porn frequently you get bored and look for more and more shock value. Shes gonna get tired of watching one guy one girl porn and start fantasizing/masturbating to gangbang porn. An even if shes still seems excited when you fuck her shes gonna be fantasizing about being gangbanged... and for a one on on monogamous relationship I don't feel as if thats healthy. The gangbang is just one example of something that might do it for her, theres lots of more hardcore odd fetishes out there she might start watching and fantasizing about.

For a fuck buddy I could careless how much porn she is watching, shit I may preffer she watched a lot of porn if we are just fucking. However for a serious LTR I wouldn't be to keen on the idea of her watching porn daily.

Meh, I've been watching porn regularly for +10 years. I have no weird fetishes. Just a hot girl fucked up the ass is good for me.

in my experience.

most of the girls ive had sex with that cummed during sex was due to the "strong emotional connection" she had towards me.

a girl will cum easier if she feels more safe and connected with you.

evolutionary psych

what are some tell tale signs that a girl masturbates frequently? i don't think i can tell.

Quote: (07-09-2014 12:49 PM)the chef Wrote:  

what are some tell tale signs that a girl masturbates frequently? i don't think i can tell.

I don't really know if there are "tell-tale signs" per se... maybe if she fingers herself constantly while you are fucking? Shows that she is used to getting off using her fingers.

I also agree about the emotional connection bit with women getting off on the romance aspect.

*EDIT: The girl I mention in OP gets of to "romance porn" usually. Showing exclusive couple having intimate sex etc.

3rd party here but, I remember it was mentioned several times back on Loveline (with Adam) by Drew that girls who masturbate constantly it's a red flag for sexual abuse and bipolar nutters.

Personally, I think you should reply to those texts and generate her sexual energy, tell her filthy things you will do to her. etc.

You have an opportunity here, if you see it.

As girls become more and more masculine it is natural they would adopt more and more masculine pastimes and traits. Pretty soon they will be growing dicks and banging guys.

Quote: (07-09-2014 02:52 PM)Nomad77 Wrote:  

As girls become more and more masculine it is natural they would adopt more and more masculine pastimes and traits. Pretty soon they will be growing dicks and banging guys.

As if they already haven't.

Quote: (07-09-2014 02:52 PM)Nomad77 Wrote:  

As girls become more and more masculine it is natural they would adopt more and more masculine pastimes and traits. Pretty soon they will be growing dicks and banging guys.

Girls are also (many of them) fully immersed in the smart phone matrix.

They use their device as a substitute for actual interaction.

I believe this can be used to a player's advantage, to tap in to the routine of her sexual habits(ignoring any masculine aspects of the behaviour, why shouldn't they be forward about sex), and become the source of her sexual satisfaction, her 'go to' for sexual thrills.

There's a word for that: iBoy Toy and there is even an app to control you

This is actually one of my favorite topics with girls. It lets me know her other traits such as ease of bang and sex drive. Having talked to hundreds of girls about this, I definitely start to see a trend. Keep in mind, there are always exceptions to these rules, but in general.
1. Girls who masturbate a lot have higher notch count
2. They are more open sexually, easier to bang
3. They orgasm easier when they have sex
4. They are more likely to see sex as a pastime rather than as something tied to love.
5. They are better at sex

These all make sense because masturbation is like practice for the real game. It doesn't substitute the real game but the more they practice the better they are at the real game. There are actually girls who don't masturbate, I would say 1/3 don't do it, 1/3 do it seldomly, and 1/3 do it frequently. Those who get upset over this topic ALWAYS do it.

Quote: (07-09-2014 11:23 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  

Some slutty girls don't masturbate because it's so easy to keep a steady line of dicks.

True. I remember my first long-term girlfriend told me, "After I broke up with my ex, I didn't need to masturbate for five months because I had boys."

^Looking back on that, kind of an idiot for not ending it right then and there.

You're way too zoomed in to this. Forget the fact that she is telling you that she masturbates and spending mental RAM think pondering whether it that's slutty or not.

Accept the fact that every woman is horny and read her message in that you make her feel comfortable to say shit like that and be honest.

Who's the man? You the man.

We have a saying in Greek, every woman is a slut except your mother and your sisters.

She masturbates? Good, she is comfortable with her sexuality and knows how to turn herself on.

She tells me? Good, I know where in the comfort and sexual totem pole we're at. Sweet. She is even using it in her arsenal to get you to fuck her, her hand is showing

I find women who've never masturbated aren't comfortable with their sexuality and don't orgasm in bed.

That said, when a girl reaches down and tries to pleasure herself during sex I get pissed. If you wanna do that do it on your own time. Those girls often only get off from the 9000V Hitachi Clit Pounder they keep in plain sight on their dresser.

Quote: (07-10-2014 04:56 PM)runsonmagic Wrote:  

I find women who've never masturbated aren't comfortable with their sexuality and don't orgasm in bed.

That said, when a girl reaches down and tries to pleasure herself during sex I get pissed. If you wanna do that do it on your own time. Those girls often only get off from the 9000V Hitachi Clit Pounder they keep in plain sight on their dresser.

One of my buddies (magician funny enough) has a Hitachi Magic Wand at his disposal.

He says its one of the best buys he's ever gotten, for his sexual life.

I wonder who else here has experience with using this on girls?

Quote: (07-10-2014 04:56 PM)runsonmagic Wrote:  

I find women who've never masturbated aren't comfortable with their sexuality and don't orgasm in bed.

True.

Quote: (07-10-2014 04:56 PM)runsonmagic Wrote:  

That said, when a girl reaches down and tries to pleasure herself during sex I get pissed. If you wanna do that do it on your own time. Those girls often only get off from the 9000V Hitachi Clit Pounder they keep in plain sight on their dresser.

Really? I make girls do it. Most girls have difficulty orgasming from vag pounding alone and having her flick the bean during sex is a lot easier than multitasking.

agreed^^^^
And when she is done you will still be someone who made her orgasm in her mind. Because your dick was in her.