Hello all, this is my first post here, and I can't be sincere enough about how very very glad i am that I've stumbled upon this site. (I was actually researching about traveling Europe.) and I've spent the last 6 months absorbing everything I can to undo my herd mentality. (while doing my best to avoiding the negativity/frustration that often comes up in these websites)
Anyways about me, I'm 20, 6ft white guy at a very large public university, living 20 min off-campus apt with small social circle.
Ive done seven approaches now and ive got 1 number. 2 in class, 2 at oncampus food establishments, 1 in a university building, and 2 stops while walking.
the most comfortable thing to me in my mind is to do an indirect approach about some prop, and then build off that. If a girl has a Prop i can work off of, and is sitting down, I practically have no approach anxiety. These opportunities are not very common as compared to the number of girls generally around though.
I have some questions that hopefully I can get some good advice on so that i can increase the number of approaches i can accomplish.
1. I often see girls on iphones, earphones in, or on a computer, or reading a bood. i really dont know how to open this. any ideas?
2. im focusing on girls who are alone. has approaching pairs yield any good results for yall?
3. There are an astronomical number of girls just walking around, from dorm, to class, to meeting someone. I only had one idea which to approach a girl who is walking which is " where did you that bag? ive been meaning to get a present for my sister" ( lame i know) and on top of that, i had no way to transition it to a personal conversation and the interaction quickly died out.
4. how can you break into social circles on campus? it seems like very few people actually genuinely know (as in face to face on a friendship basis) alot of people. There are alot of people with 500-1000 fb "friends" which not as socially connected as you think theyd ought to be
Anyways about me, I'm 20, 6ft white guy at a very large public university, living 20 min off-campus apt with small social circle.
Ive done seven approaches now and ive got 1 number. 2 in class, 2 at oncampus food establishments, 1 in a university building, and 2 stops while walking.
the most comfortable thing to me in my mind is to do an indirect approach about some prop, and then build off that. If a girl has a Prop i can work off of, and is sitting down, I practically have no approach anxiety. These opportunities are not very common as compared to the number of girls generally around though.
I have some questions that hopefully I can get some good advice on so that i can increase the number of approaches i can accomplish.
1. I often see girls on iphones, earphones in, or on a computer, or reading a bood. i really dont know how to open this. any ideas?
2. im focusing on girls who are alone. has approaching pairs yield any good results for yall?
3. There are an astronomical number of girls just walking around, from dorm, to class, to meeting someone. I only had one idea which to approach a girl who is walking which is " where did you that bag? ive been meaning to get a present for my sister" ( lame i know) and on top of that, i had no way to transition it to a personal conversation and the interaction quickly died out.
4. how can you break into social circles on campus? it seems like very few people actually genuinely know (as in face to face on a friendship basis) alot of people. There are alot of people with 500-1000 fb "friends" which not as socially connected as you think theyd ought to be