Quote: (12-07-2013 03:36 PM)RexImperator Wrote:
So I was reflecting on that situation above where the girl in effect opened me while she was leaving, which was odd. Instead of my rote reply, should I have said something like, "Hey, come back here" and then tried to start a conversation? I'm thinking so, even if it has a slim chance of working.
Obviously I should have tried to open the two of them. I forgot Roosh's line about "having the most fun..." Would have been appropriate in this case.
Yes, that sounds a lot better.
Tell her to "come here" and ask her what her name is, where she's from as you start getting physical (ex.squeeze her upper arms or forearms briefly) and and then just tease her based off of those responses you get. Lazer eye contact here with a smirk, unwavering. Let it flow from there, just do/say whatever you feel like doing/saying as long as it's coming from a place of self-amusement, having fun and you totally own it, she will love it. Focus on engaging her emotionally and feel free to be non-sensical, don't worry about having the perfect ramble.
Don't beat yourself up too much, just use this as leverage. Try to always improve at taking advantage of opportunities that throw themselves at you as well as creating your own.
I would recommend you don't get too into the whole "aloof" thing roissy has everyone going on about.
Reflecting on my personal experience I have lost out on many opportunities especially "split second" type ones such as you just described due to playing it "too cool" or "aloof" and being too "james bond" in general. Don't be afraid to take a look to see what they look like, as long as you do it intentionally, slowly and make eye contact while smirking and don't quickly dart your eyes when they look back it's ok to do so and then you know what they look like. Be natural about it.
The best thing would have been to just approach the girl as you initially walked in, that way there was no time for you to hesitate, get into your head or become too "aloof" to follow through with the correct action. I'm assuming you wanted to get to know the girl and have some fun with her, clearly being "aloof" isn't going to help you out. At best by employing a passive game strategy you will get the odd indirect approach from a girl. Plus a shitload of what ifs.
Don't be aloof in your actions (go for what you want and escalate physically), rather be aloof in your attitude towards her, ex. you don't care whether she goes or stays, because you know women are abundant and that you have options, with a better one always around the corner. So you are free to do whatever you want with her and she can take it or leave it, you are indifferent. You don't take her seriously.
I'd also recommend meditating so as to improve your ability to be truly present in the moment, to try to live your life in slow-mo so that you can take action swiftly (slow your actions and thoughts, so you feel like you have more time to take action), just jump in.
As always, have rock solid body language, vocal tonality, etc.