Quote: (05-17-2011 07:14 AM)AboveGroundLevelRush Wrote:
A few questions for the veterans of okcupid:
1. Does the match score impact your decision to contact a girl? Do you find your self more successful with girls with high match score (80% or higher)? Also, is there a way to answer questions so that your score will match more girls?
2. When exchanging emails, do you find yourself more successful when you answer emails the same day you get them or the next day?
3. On average are you more successful with going for the date by the second or third emails?
4. Once you have the girls number do you text or call?
1. No, but it can help. Answering more questions improves your matches with more girls (a good thing) and gives you the opportunity to read their answers, check compatibility (i.e. more sex driven chicks).
2. It doesn't usually matter, but I like to answer emails on Sundays (prime time for women online) or early in the week to solidify those dates as fast as possible. 9 times out of 10 you won't set up a first date on a Friday or Saturday, so you need to think logistics. I email similarly the way I text, with rules. If she emailed me, I wait at least 30 minutes to respond. If she sent it on a Friday (or Saturday), I wait until Saturday (or Sunday) morning. It honestly doesn't matter that much, but because some of these girls only log on a few times a week to check their mail it's best to catch them while they're still online so you can either a) open IM/chat dialogue or b) get enough dialogue going so you can lock in the date.
3. Depends on the context. I like to hit fast and hard by going for the date on my first response if I'm confident she was interested (i.e. a lengthier email than one to two sentences). Sometimes I'll get hooked into 5+ responses, but I usually try to avoid too much back and forth (this can take weeks). I've only twice (in hundreds of conversations) ever had a date actually transpired after so many. They'll often disappear or stop writing back if you don't confirm the date.
4. Text. Occasionally there is one that absolutely has to talk to you on the phone first. The good thing about these is you can build some attraction/comfort before the first date and improve your chances of a first date lay. On the other hand, if you're terrible on the phone you could blow it.
I'm working on an e-dating book/compendium that I'm hoping to finish by the end of the summer or early fall which will cover all of these types of questions and more.
Quote: (05-17-2011 08:30 AM)AboveGroundLevelRush Wrote:
What do you guys do when you get a response, but there is no new content to launch new emails? Do you guys mention something else about her profile or do you move on as she is not making it easy to build some repport.
Again, this depends on the context of her response. It's your job to keep her interested enough to ask you questions or write back. Sometimes that means getting creative, sometimes it means using a second scripted response. Often I'll mix old material that has worked with something from her profile. But yeah, three of the girls I've met and banged in the last month I met online. If your dating game is tight this is a great way to meet a lot of girls that are DTF.