If there is one major difference that I have noticed about men and women, it is that a good man can make a mistake, a good women won't.

So what does this mean?

When you meet a new women and you notice some red flags, take them serious. She is most likely a scumbag.

Is she a single parent?
Is she a single parent with 2 kids with two different guys?
Does she use drugs?

If there are red flags with a women in the beginning, watch your back. Those issues will NEVER improve, they will just try to hide it.

Men on the other hand are different. I had friends in College who went to jail, ten years later they are prefectly normal. They change. They improve. Their mind sets change.

A women's personality is more set in stone. I don't mess around with single parents, and I'm starting not to mess around with girls who come from divorced households. Nothing personal, but I don't want to deal with the drama.

But if you meet a girl who has her head screwed on right, stay with her. The red flags will be at a minimum.

Take my advice, if a gf is giving you hard times now about some bullshit, it ain't getting better. That's the way she is.

If you are just looking to bang that is fine, just don't get them preggo.

Every ex gf I had turned out to be a nightmare. I accused one of being a drunk and loving puerto ricans (she's irish), now she has 2 kids with 2 different unemployed puerto rican men. (No offense to PR's, it just ended up like that)

Another I accused of being white trash. She got preggo, married, and the guy died from drugs. Now she is a 33 year old single parent widow.

Beware!!!

You're back!

On topic, I agree and good insight. Hadn't really thought of that before.

Red Flag: The little girl voice in grown women. Google it if you don't know what I mean. Dr. Drew is right on this one. Not LTR material under any circumstances.

My cousin was just dating this chick who has two kids with two different guys before age 28. Of course she says "both guys were losers".

So why the fuck did you let them raw dog you, and go through with the pregnancy? TWICE?? What the hell happened?

Don't fool for any nonsense like that!

Quote: (05-09-2013 06:48 PM)JimNortonFan Wrote:  

Red Flag: The little girl voice in grown women. Google it if you don't know what I mean. Dr. Drew is right on this one. Not LTR material under any circumstances.

It's funny you mention this. A TON of the women in porn have unusually high-pitched, girly voices.

Quote: (05-09-2013 02:22 PM)TheCaptainPower Wrote:  

Every ex gf I had turned out to be a nightmare. I accused one of being a drunk and loving puerto ricans (she's irish), now she has 2 kids with 2 different unemployed puerto rican men. (No offense to PR's, it just ended up like that)

Another I accused of being white trash. She got preggo, married, and the guy died from drugs. Now she is a 33 year old single parent widow.

Beware!!!

One of the biggest lessons. I learned is if you have a gut feeling, just go with it and don't accuse. A) you're gut is probably right. B) Nothing good comes from accusing.

On another note, this topic reminds me of a saying: Women are, men have to become. There's no "becoming a women" beyond puberty. Men have to become, otherwise you're just a male. Be a man.

Great post.

Quote: (05-09-2013 08:23 PM)nek Wrote:  

One of the biggest lessons. I learned is if you have a gut feeling, just go with it and don't accuse. A) you're gut is probably right. B) Nothing good comes from accusing.

This is a lesson I've 'learned' over and over. The weakest part of my game is trusting my gut and walking away from an 8 who is proving herself to be batshit crazy without creating a lot of drama.

Dr. Drew says if a grown woman has the voice of an 8 year old she had "trauma" at that age. He means molestation. That means Hamster the size of a brontosaurus.

In short, men are more wont to take accountability and ownership of their lives and learn from their mistakes.

Women are more wont to blame others, find themselves unassailable, and repeat their mistakes.

Quote: (05-09-2013 08:29 PM)Ensam Wrote:  

Quote: (05-09-2013 08:23 PM)nek Wrote:  

One of the biggest lessons. I learned is if you have a gut feeling, just go with it and don't accuse. A) you're gut is probably right. B) Nothing good comes from accusing.

This is a lesson I've 'learned' over and over. The weakest part of my game is trusting my gut and walking away from an 8 who is proving herself to be batshit crazy without creating a lot of drama.

It's a weakness that I've had for sure, but it is a weakness. By accusing her, you're giving her the opportunity to defend herself. It's as if you want her to convince you that your gut is wrong. Why? Here's why: Scarcity mentality. In one form or another. Either you don't think you can get other girls or you don't think you can get a girl as 'good' as her, so you have this internal conflict of knowing something is wrong but refusing to follow through with it and simply do what needs to be done. This feeling has to go. Being ok with the idea that you might be alone is a good start.

Here's the flip side of the equation:

You will NEVER meet a girl without at least a few issues.

Quote: (05-09-2013 11:10 PM)Samseau Wrote:  

Here's the flip side of the equation:

You will NEVER meet a girl without at least a few issues.

More so in their 30`s n 40`s!!

Believe me - its a dating nightmare in these age brackets!

Women are being. Men are becoming.

This is an old occult law used in magick.

Women are grown. Men are (self)made.

A woman has high value when she is born. She must take care to stop this value from decreasing.
A man has low value when he is born. He must make effort to increase his value.

The task of women is to be and to preserve who she is and by extent to preserve her family.
The task of men is to become ever more masculine, to constantly destroy ones old shameful self and constantly build a new improved persona, then start this process a new and by extent to develop society.

Men and women might seem just slightly different if you look on them as bodies - materialistically and biologically. But if you consider these functional and immaterial differences then you can see that they are worlds apart.

Thinking of women as "good" and "bad" is a bad idea. It leads to overvaluing "good" women who change over time. Consider the fact that all grooms think their bride is different, yet they too end up broke and hearbroken.

Women just are. Deal with them as they are at any given moment without falling into any long term commitment trap.

People will change, count on it.

People can change regardless of the sex. Don't pigeonhole.