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01-18-2011, 02:55 AM
What's up guys, well, let me give a brief description of my problem.
I have a sexual partner, we always used condom and the sex was great, good time, she came a couple of times, etc.
So she decided to start on the patch and I know that we are clean all that shit so great for me but, since we do it raw, I came in less than 10minutes, sometimes in like 5min, this has never happened to me, obviously is a really different sensation with a condom than withouth, pussy is so wet and hot that OMG but, I need to last longer, any advices?
I've been trying Kegel for the last couple of days and mental relaxation but is not working as expected.
Thanks.
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01-18-2011, 03:07 AM
I have a funny story about this.
So I'm sleeping with a girl I've banged before . A girl who I didn't want to fuck but decided to because I wanted to say I porked two girls in two nights. Anyways, I had been teasing her with the fuck all night until I woke up and sat up like a zombie who wanted to bone. I sat up like the old school wwf undertaker and said "alright let's do this Kelly" (I think she was asleep) I strapped up and mounted her missionary style. At this point she was awake. I started thrusting and wasn't into her at all.I just wanted my nut. I closed my eyes and focused on finishing as fast as possible. I was done within a minute, rolled over and passed out. She was gone when I woke up.
As for your question I can't help you. I give myself a five star performance when I approach 10 mins
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01-18-2011, 12:33 PM
Alot of times this is psycological but it also depends on how you're doing it. Obviously if you're thrusting non stop like a madman you'll cum fast, just take it slowly and after some time has passed, leave the good stuff for the end.
I also think its normal to last less while raw, adding the fact that you are not used to it. If you have good trust and a good connection with your partner she can help you out with all this while having sex.
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01-18-2011, 04:23 PM
There are a lot of methods and medicine, but check with your doctor first. You may have a medical problem, and even if not, they still may be able to help you. Don't be shy, they've seen it all.
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01-18-2011, 07:54 PM
Do you know how long the average guy lasts? If not then how do you know you have a problem?
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01-18-2011, 08:17 PM
Medications used to treat depression known as SSRI's (i.e. prozac)
have delayed ejaculation as a side effect...This is an option if it bothers you enough.
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01-18-2011, 10:10 PM
Read some study saying 13 minutes is the average for men. I always have trouble first time i've slept with a girl. The desensitising trojans work wonders for me. As for fixing it going raw, drink a few beers, hit it twice?
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01-19-2011, 12:03 AM
Having the right buzz always works for me, not too many though or it either doesn't get up or I don't get off. Also, the hit it again strategy should also work well. I always last a lot longer the second round.
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01-19-2011, 12:38 AM
Have a couple drinks to help relax you and give you just enough numbness. Try not to get too excited mentally. When you feel like you're about to blow it whip your dick out and smack it with the back of your hand hard. This will help. Trust me.
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01-19-2011, 12:56 AM
With condom I was in the 15-20min range, without I'm around 5, for me that's a problem.
I think that the average guy is 10-15 isn't it?
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01-19-2011, 06:39 AM
I would not mess with my hormonal balance using psychotropic drugs. But you might try yohimbine - a reliable drug to treat erection problems that mainly have a psychological cause. Might help with premature ejaculation, too. Also, have a look at 'The New Male Sexuality', Revised Edition by Bernie Zilbergeld PhD
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10-26-2011, 05:32 PM
I think the average time for ejaculation is 3 to 7 minutes (I don't know how many thrusts that is - it depends on if you're fucking, or making love...HA HA!). Remember, humans fucked for procreation, not for male or female pleasure. The purpose wasn't to tear the pussy up, or make her come a bunch of times. It was to get your seed in there.
Jerking off can help desensitize your dick, but you need a quicker solution. I suggest rubbing that first nutt out yourself, prior to having sex. I think most guys can go longer on the second go-round. You could also use one of those desensitizing creams to help you delay eruption. You could find a position to start out that doesn't giving you so much friction on your dickhead (I generally can't come in cowgirl - I need missionary or doggie to squirt). I found that when I first started fucking that mental tricks don't work, like thinking about a steaming pile of dog shit or something. You need to find a way to minimize stimulation.
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10-26-2011, 07:34 PM
Depends on the position for me, I can rawdog missionary and doggy longer than I can with the girl on top. You need to be in control of the rhythm when rawdogging otherwise there is the risk of blowing inside her.
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10-26-2011, 07:51 PM
im the complete opposite
I CANT NUT FOR AGES. i think its from desensitizing it from so much porn. im giving up the wacking and the porn for a while. i can never fully get into it when im nailing,porn messes with your mind
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10-26-2011, 10:48 PM
Quote: (10-26-2011 10:14 PM)isis Wrote:
Quote: (01-18-2011 08:17 PM)bigxxx Wrote:
Medications used to treat depression known as SSRI's (i.e. prozac)
have delayed ejaculation as a side effect...This is an option if it bothers you enough.
stay away from SSRI's ...
it takes ages to get off them, and more over kills your sex drive.
have a glass or two of wine, always makes me calm and horny for some reason.
You might want to be careful with the wine. It actually prevented me from getting fully hard the one time I tried to fuck after drinking some. I'm not a wine drinker, and I didn't have that much.
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10-26-2011, 10:58 PM
Quote: (01-18-2011 02:55 AM)bars Wrote:
What's up guys, well, let me give a brief description of my problem.
I have a sexual partner, we always used condom and the sex was great, good time, she came a couple of times, etc.
So she decided to start on the patch and I know that we are clean all that shit so great for me but, since we do it raw, I came in less than 10minutes, sometimes in like 5min, this has never happened to me, obviously is a really different sensation with a condom than withouth, pussy is so wet and hot that OMG but, I need to last longer, any advices?
I've been trying Kegel for the last couple of days and mental relaxation but is not working as expected.
Thanks.
Keep a condom on until shes satisfied and then raw dog it. Or masturbate more and see how long you can go. Do this daily... maybe even consider getting a 'flashlight'