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03-22-2013, 07:25 AM
Being 30 plus and unmarried or even single seems to bring out strong emotions in people: They all pretty much assume that I am STILL single but must surely be looking for " my harbor". When I just lightly question the entire model of " must get married, happy ever after" etc the reactions range from condescending shaming ( " you are immature") to pity ( " you have not found the right gal yet"). Of course, most of this is done by women who have recently settled down, sometimes men ( usually when still freshly in love).
What is behind this psychologically? The blind forcefulness of shaming and strength of opinions tells me there might be some defensiveness or attempt to justify their own lifestyle ( men) or maybe agenda ( women who hate men being happy without them or giving hubby ideas). Why else would they care enough to get upset and preachy?
How do you guys react? Being openly red pill, laugh it off or play along to divert ( " waiting for the right one")?
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03-22-2013, 07:51 AM
I'm just 100% honest.
Me: "I'm not getting married"
Idiot: "Why? You're just silly... you'll see, you'll end up falling in love and getting married"
Me: "No, marriage is just not for me"
It pisses me off when people say shit like this.
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03-22-2013, 07:53 AM
Just hang out with different people.
Preferably younger girls.
Problem solved.
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03-22-2013, 08:10 AM
I'll be 45 this summer and I've never been married. I have absolutely no plans on getting married. I tell people that it would be cheaper to find a broad you absolutely hate, and buy her a house.
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03-22-2013, 11:31 AM
I have ZERO plans on getting married or having kids but I only share that with very close friends. I usually tell family that I want to wait til I am in my early 40s. They tend to back off the presure as they see its something I want to do just that I want to and that I am just waiting until I am more established.
My thinking is that most of my family/acquaintances are very conventional people who expect me to also share conventional ideals about marriage/kids etc. So the best approach is just to lie to them and make them feel like I am "normal" and would also like to have the same things they want.
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"Chicks dig power, men dig beauty, eggs are expensive, sperm is cheap, men are expendable, women are perishable." - Heartiste
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03-22-2013, 11:34 AM
Read Esther Vilar - The Manipulated Man and it will all make sense bro.
Basically to women you are a meal ticket. They dont give a shit about love or crap like that. Their endgame is to latch onto some sucker and get him to pay for their shit. Of course if someone refuses to play ball they freak out and gang up on him. They are worried more guys might catch on.
I usually just tell them its none of their fucking business.
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03-22-2013, 11:47 AM
Could be worse, a lot worse. It used to be that a never married man in his 40s was assumed to be gay, omega or some other pariah of the community.
I'm not anti marriage because I think family is important and marriage is the foundation of family.
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03-22-2013, 12:22 PM
Maybe you don't even need two parents to raise a kid...just look at El Mech.
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03-22-2013, 12:24 PM
I just say I haven't found a woman rich enough to marry yet
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03-22-2013, 12:35 PM
When people ask me, I just tell them "My married buddies tell me to stay single, so they must know something I don't." This usually shuts them up.
As for pity, tell them to save it for the over-30 single females. They need it more than us.
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03-22-2013, 01:28 PM
Just tell them the truth, that's what I do. who gives a shit what other people say. You can't live your life worrying what other people think of you.
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03-22-2013, 04:19 PM
I am not a fan of marriage, never have been and now i am in my mid 30's , that attitude is not changing nor do I see it ever changing.
After having been raised in a broken home, and watching countless friends end up in loveless marriages I see no reason why i would end up in the same boat as them, trapped and unhappy or worse still divorced, deprived of access to my kids and financially broken.....fuck that.
In fact a lot of people I work with who are successful and wealthy in their own right (and married) tell me I am smart for not getting married when they ask if i am.
Dont get me wrong cos I love women, they are beautiful creatures and possibly some of the good Lords best work but they are fucking crazy, selfish and extremely spiteful if jilted and there is no getting around those facts.
I no longer hide the fact I dont want to get married, fuck what others think its my life not theirs!
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03-22-2013, 04:41 PM
An acquaintance of mine, not a person who I respect, but a person who I know, recently asked me if I am married. I, of course, said, "No." He then asked me how old I am. I said, "thirty-five." He then told me, "You don't want to wait too long." Some statements are too preposterous to warrant a response.
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03-22-2013, 04:54 PM
Quote: (03-22-2013 04:41 PM)Merenguero Wrote:
An acquaintance of mine, not a person who I respect, but a person who I know, recently asked me if I am married. I, of course, said, "No." He then asked me how old I am. I said, "thirty-five." He then told me, "You don't want to wait too long." Some statements are too preposterous to warrant a response.
Too long for what? That is the underlying, false assumption: they all think everyone naturally wants to get married in the "end", whatever that end is (as we know it doesn't end there but more often than not it is only the beginning of the end, leading to divorce and misery)
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03-22-2013, 05:12 PM
If everyone is married, then their decision to get married was correct. If married people see a happy single man dating many women, well, their world may collapse inwards onto itself.
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03-22-2013, 05:35 PM
I started joking about never getting married a couple of years ago (I'm 29 right now) with my family to try and set expectations early. Some trivial relationship issue comes up in conversation and I say, "That's why I'm never getting married, haha."
To be honest I'm not 100% sure I'll never marry anyone, though it seems increasingly unlikely.
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03-22-2013, 05:44 PM
Quote: (03-22-2013 05:12 PM)worldwidetraveler Wrote:
If everyone is married, then their decision to get married was correct. If married people see a happy single man dating many women, well, their world may collapse inwards onto itself.
Good point. They need to justify their own decisions or their self-worth and purpose would be in danger. Cognitive dissonance at its finest!
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03-22-2013, 06:10 PM
If marriage was everything it was made out to be, there would be no divorces....