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01-25-2013, 09:31 PM
Ok so I met this chick like 5 - 6 weeks ago and we started hanging out and banging and then 1 week ago I came to Thailand because I told her I already had this trip planned. We have sent a few messages back and forth for the last week but she sent me this today.
"Murrb!! I hope you know I miss you & I wish I knew what we were....I really like you and I hope when you come back we can figure out everything...I'm just letting you know Im going out tonight with Sarah and her fiancé and their friend Tommy. I don't want to potentially ruin what me & you have so let me know if you have an issue with this. I really wish you were not across the world or that we had the relationship talk before you left...who knows you might not care what I do but I'm just letting you know...I really really really miss you & I can't wait for you to come home already."
What do I say back? I dont really care what she does but I still want to be able to have sex with her when I get back in 3 weeks or so.
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01-25-2013, 09:36 PM
Its a shit test to gauge your reaction. Not sure how to respond though.
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01-25-2013, 09:41 PM
"cool"
"word"
"sounds good"
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01-25-2013, 09:47 PM
What shit test? You guys are too much! She is letting him know she wants to be in LTR with him - that's all!
Murrb, what is your plan with this girl? Do you see any long term potential? She is obviously into you and sounds like she is not considering other options. Let her know what YOU want. Be a man.
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01-25-2013, 10:19 PM
She is not fucking another guy, trust me if she was then she would not mention going out at all. She said that to get a reaction from you and to let you know she is not staying home thinking about you (which she probably is).
You are in Thailand, having a great time WE assume.
Be honest how you feel about her! Are you jealous about the idea of her going out and other dudes hitting on her?
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01-25-2013, 10:43 PM
Girls never mention guys they are fucking! If she mentioned some guy to you - she not fucking him! She might be fucking 12 other dudes but not the guy!
Now ..are you doing some chicks in Thailand? I wouldn't mentioned that to her either.
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01-25-2013, 10:46 PM
You must have laid the pipe down pretty well for her to get all wound up like that after 5-6 weeks. You guys hanging out every day or something?
Never ever ever ever talk relationship shit with girls over the phone, through text, or through email. Just tell her,
"Hey thanks for the letter, things are good here. Lookin forward to hanging when I get back. Talk soon."
Some guys would say, "Don't thank her for a letter" or "Looking forward to hanging out is beta." You gotta keep in mind, this girl just took an emotional dump and really reached out to you. If you don't meet her at least part of the way she's going to pull WAY back. I've learned this the hard way since I'm usually a complete stone cold dick to girls when they get all emotional. If a girl goes really emotional on you, you can be aloof, but not cold. She'll turn on you in a heartbeat.
"...so I gave her an STD, and she STILL wanted to bang me."
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01-25-2013, 11:04 PM
I think I will say
Nope I have no issue it is cool with me. I hope you have fun and I want to talk with you as well when I get back.
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01-26-2013, 06:34 PM
Yes Alpha Hunter and Bojangles this is all your guys fault! haha Now she messaged me backing saying all this stuff where she didn't even have fun and that she is done trying to distract herself. I honestlly can't tell if she is just saying this stuff now because she fucked the other guy and just wants to cover it up or not.
Here is the last message she sent me
"If you plan on staying there longer than 3 weeks I will somehow buy a ticket to wherever you are because I'm getting a murrb sickness lol I'm jealous you are able to just get up and travel with no worries! Where are you going to go after Bangkok?"
Should I actually put her to the test and see if she will actually fly over here?
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01-26-2013, 09:44 PM
I just talked to her on skype because she was posting all this stuff on facebook how she missed me. So we talked and she told me what went down and showed me all the text messages she sent the guy. He was coming on to her hard and she said he was just really awkward and was saying things like "If I was murrb I would have canceled my trip to thailand to be with you" I'm 99.9% convinced nothing happened unless she is a straight up serial liar and conjured up the text message conversation.
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01-26-2013, 10:25 PM
I appreciate all the advice this forum gives me. Hopefully one day I can give back!