I just reactivated my Plenty of Fish and OKCupid accounts.
1) Women are dumb about the technology. A typical woman's profile has one grainy laptop photo and no information about her except that she wants a good relationship. She hasn't heard of other dating sites and doesn't know how to attach photos.
2) Men get few messages. Moreover, the quality is even worse than the quantity. I have had women fifteen years older message me, and plenty of uglies. Women get a lot of inappropriate messages too (inappropriate age/race, nude photos, lame compliments, etc.)
http://jonmillward.com/blog/attraction-d...xperiment/
Some women will "window shop" message tons of guys, and then give short, uninformative messages. One woman messaged me, set a date, cancelled, and then blocked me.
3) Free dating sites are very flaky. Some women have been on there for years. I looked at my old Inboxes, and most of the women deleted their accounts. The hot women usually delete their accounts soon. But the remaining accounts belong to women who were difficult pains in the ass. They were picky, inflexible, and just weird about dating. Some of my female friends have permanent profiles, but never actually meet men. They just delude themselves messaging guys and wasting everyone's time.
A girl can fight with her boyfriend, whip out her camera phone, and have a profile in five minutes. Yes, it happens in real life too. But many online women have boyfriends and are shopping for upgrades. They are not really available.
These same problems afflict women. Losers and spammers send a disproportionate share of messages. I know a dude who sent out 5,000 messages to much younger women with no responses before giving up! Now I get messages from cyber-fantasy women just trolling, criticizing my profile, or otherwise wasting my time.
I guess that is point. There are plenty of time-wasters out there. At first, I spent 80% of my time on 20% of the manipulative time-wasters. No more. It is triage time.
1) Women are dumb about the technology. A typical woman's profile has one grainy laptop photo and no information about her except that she wants a good relationship. She hasn't heard of other dating sites and doesn't know how to attach photos.
2) Men get few messages. Moreover, the quality is even worse than the quantity. I have had women fifteen years older message me, and plenty of uglies. Women get a lot of inappropriate messages too (inappropriate age/race, nude photos, lame compliments, etc.)
http://jonmillward.com/blog/attraction-d...xperiment/
Some women will "window shop" message tons of guys, and then give short, uninformative messages. One woman messaged me, set a date, cancelled, and then blocked me.
3) Free dating sites are very flaky. Some women have been on there for years. I looked at my old Inboxes, and most of the women deleted their accounts. The hot women usually delete their accounts soon. But the remaining accounts belong to women who were difficult pains in the ass. They were picky, inflexible, and just weird about dating. Some of my female friends have permanent profiles, but never actually meet men. They just delude themselves messaging guys and wasting everyone's time.
A girl can fight with her boyfriend, whip out her camera phone, and have a profile in five minutes. Yes, it happens in real life too. But many online women have boyfriends and are shopping for upgrades. They are not really available.
These same problems afflict women. Losers and spammers send a disproportionate share of messages. I know a dude who sent out 5,000 messages to much younger women with no responses before giving up! Now I get messages from cyber-fantasy women just trolling, criticizing my profile, or otherwise wasting my time.
I guess that is point. There are plenty of time-wasters out there. At first, I spent 80% of my time on 20% of the manipulative time-wasters. No more. It is triage time.