I have a buddy that seems like a complete lost cause. He's my age just turning 21 next week. He has yet to even kiss a girl. I'll describe his looks, i wouldn't call him ugly but he's just not hot in the slightest way if that makes sense. He's pretty tall, maybe 6'3' but overweight by at least 50-60 pounds and has little to no muscle on him, he is weak as shit considering the size of him. He's white but has a somewhat Chinese look to him do to his eyes and the roundness of his head. He takes absolutely no pride in his appearance its his personality that holds him back the most i believe.
He has absolutely no self esteem yet has a superiority complex. He will not take advice from anyone and makes passive aggressive remarks where he can.
At the moment he is studying to become an accountant, i think he hates it and just does enough to scrape by grades wise. He also drinks to retardation usually alone. He says he's cut it down to a bottle of wine a night. He also developed a gambling habit and had himself banned from all the casinos in the city. He confided in me that he cuts himself. I thought he was joking (me and my group of friends generally don't take anything seriously) he did it on his ankles and they were so deep that he was considering getting stitches. He has mentioned suicide kind of like in a philosophical way and also told me that when he found out his 26 year old brother got his wife pregnant it made him miserable and he wouldn't really care if they had a miscarriage.
At school socially he was pretty much the same as most people we hung out with. For a while he even looked down on me stating quite confidently aged 14 that he would pull a girl before i would. Then everyone started to have little success with girls here or there and he got absolutely nothing. I think he just expected something to happen.
I'v told him he needs to go to the gym, he has some like anti weightlifting agenda that has no reasoning.
I told him go traveling to the Philippines he will get laid there it's supposed to be the easiest place on earth. He says he doesn't like traveling (he has been on a euro trip solo) and it wont matter.
I told him he needs to get a hobby he just wont listen or do anything. He has no motivation for change.
I often get into arguments with him and come of as a real asshole to him but he just doesn't get it. Some people in life need to work harder than others. He would rather consider suicide than fucking improve himself or his situation.
He knows about "game" and basically calls it shite and laughs about it yet me banging 32 more birds versus his 0 has little meaning to him. He has never approached a girl in his life yet has no problem speaking to them in a classroom enviroment often mocking them with his intellect. Yet outside he becomes like the most awkward retard towards them.
Anytime i mention anything to do with improving his life and getting laid he says he doesn't care yet when i ask him why he thought such disturbing shit about his brother he says because he's having a kid and i can't get laid. It like he's in denial about how bad his situation is. How do you get someone to snap out of it?
Has anyone known or been a person like this and did they ever get their shit together?
He has absolutely no self esteem yet has a superiority complex. He will not take advice from anyone and makes passive aggressive remarks where he can.
At the moment he is studying to become an accountant, i think he hates it and just does enough to scrape by grades wise. He also drinks to retardation usually alone. He says he's cut it down to a bottle of wine a night. He also developed a gambling habit and had himself banned from all the casinos in the city. He confided in me that he cuts himself. I thought he was joking (me and my group of friends generally don't take anything seriously) he did it on his ankles and they were so deep that he was considering getting stitches. He has mentioned suicide kind of like in a philosophical way and also told me that when he found out his 26 year old brother got his wife pregnant it made him miserable and he wouldn't really care if they had a miscarriage.
At school socially he was pretty much the same as most people we hung out with. For a while he even looked down on me stating quite confidently aged 14 that he would pull a girl before i would. Then everyone started to have little success with girls here or there and he got absolutely nothing. I think he just expected something to happen.
I'v told him he needs to go to the gym, he has some like anti weightlifting agenda that has no reasoning.
I told him go traveling to the Philippines he will get laid there it's supposed to be the easiest place on earth. He says he doesn't like traveling (he has been on a euro trip solo) and it wont matter.
I told him he needs to get a hobby he just wont listen or do anything. He has no motivation for change.
I often get into arguments with him and come of as a real asshole to him but he just doesn't get it. Some people in life need to work harder than others. He would rather consider suicide than fucking improve himself or his situation.
He knows about "game" and basically calls it shite and laughs about it yet me banging 32 more birds versus his 0 has little meaning to him. He has never approached a girl in his life yet has no problem speaking to them in a classroom enviroment often mocking them with his intellect. Yet outside he becomes like the most awkward retard towards them.
Anytime i mention anything to do with improving his life and getting laid he says he doesn't care yet when i ask him why he thought such disturbing shit about his brother he says because he's having a kid and i can't get laid. It like he's in denial about how bad his situation is. How do you get someone to snap out of it?
Has anyone known or been a person like this and did they ever get their shit together?