Quote: (08-06-2010 10:53 AM)DevoLach Wrote:
There needs to be a line though. Im in Santa Marta Colombia right now and have a few chicks that seem to take the whole provider thing a bit too far. For example theres one chick im with whose putting the pressure on me to take not only her but her friend too to Taganga for what I expect will be an "all expenses paid weekend..." for them.
Your overthinking it.
Two girls want you to take them on vacation. One is already having sex with you. There is not a more perfect scenario for a threesome.
How much can a three person weekend in Colombia be? If your broke, then skip it. If you have the cash, you'll be kicking yourself in your older years that you didn't take two young non-pro colombians up on their offer to spend the entire weekend with them in a private room, when they are in the vacation mindset. They sure as hell arent going to pay for it, and no Colombian women will. If you want the experience, then crack that wallet.
This is a crazy thread. You guys are way over-thinking the provider thing. Not buying girls anything is not what it means to have good game or not pay for sex. Your shooting yourselves in the foot.
There's a difference between paying for things in the provider role, and paying for things so that the girl doesn't feel like a total ditch pig for having sex with a unflinchingly cheap and un-fun bastard.
The truth is, the better your game, the more you can getaway with not paying things for a while. But it wont last. Eventually, every girl at least wants to know that her man is willing to pay for a baseline level of fun, convenience, and safety. As long as it isn't usurious, then you have nothing to worry about.
Girls want to go on vacations.
Girls want to go to dinners.
Girls want you to pay for rounds of drinks, within reason.
Girls want to feel safe in Taxis.
If your looking to get the most out of every woman, then you need to open that wallet on occasion. If your not sticking with them, fine. But theres a sweet spot of exchange of sex, game and money that you can reach if you aren't cheap, that you wont feel bad at all for paying for things, because she will make it totally worth your while. Its not paying for sex, its about showing respect in a way that has been the social norm since the caveman days.
Take it from me, I've had women pay for everything, over a number of months, several times. Its way overrated in terms of the return that you get. Show her some baseline respect, pay for some fun, and make the most of that notch.
Honestly, if you don't pay for shit, you deserve to have every woman that you date ripped away from you by a guy with equivalent game and some cash to spend. And its very rare that there isn't a guy within your girls circle with equivalent game.