Quote: (04-13-2019 12:35 AM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:
I'm an older guy, so kids come with the milfs I bang mostly. The older women without kids are much more fucked up and unsuitable than the Milfs with kids.
Something about hitting 40 and not having kids makes a woman go crazy.
They get a lot of hate on this forum. Being a single mum doesn't automatically make a shit woman.
[relevant personal anecdote]
Don't rule out single mums.
I think the issue here is that single moms are among many topics that the manosphere deals with in a very black and white manner. It's useful for rehabbing someone who does all the wrong things in pursuit of their own version of success with the opposite sex. But after the training wheels come off, the usefulness of these false dichtomies deteriorate, if not become downright harmful.
Take alpha v. beta for example. At the very beginning of this forum, from 2008-2011, men would not only brag about notch counts, but kicking girls out after sex right after with little to no cuddling. One famous poster,
Mixx even claimed he never slept with the same girl twice! But around 2012/2013, there was a huge uptick in hoes claiming that athletes and other sorts of high society figures had sexually assaulted them or raped them, instead of the usual entrapment with a baby. It slowly became common place advice on the forum to be "beta" after sex so the girl didn't feel used afterwards. It became common advice to even send texts afterwards saying you had a great time so that girls would reply the same which could be used in court in need be. I myself, resolved to not mix girls and alcohol for the most part when it came to first and second dates. As you can easily see, alpha versus beta as a concept, when tested against real life seems to show the best results when you use the right balance of each at the right time, rather than all or nothing of either one.
Same thing when it comes to single moms. For the most part, as a
young guy you're better off chasing other single, childless women. You've got better options most of the time and these girls come with drawbacks that are harder to countenance at a young age. And sometimes these girls try to deliberate get pregnant to entrap a younger fella who looks like he's got his shit together. However, when it comes to middle aged men and men closer to the top end of the bell curve, single moms are a great option, given the reasons Ratinthewoods already described. No one would care if or fault an older man, especially if he had kids, for dating a single mom.
And honestly, I doubt most guys would really look down on you for getting with single Moms. If you wanted one as a girlfriend or wanted to marry one, you'd probably get a lot of advice and some flak advising you against it, for several good reasons. But ultimately, OP, you're your own man. You have to live with the consequences, both good and bad of whatever decision you make.
I wish you all the best.
G