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04-06-2019, 11:19 PM
Shit situation, i know. Short story, I'm forty two, wasted my thirties being a player and passing on the girls i should've thought about deepening things with. Frankly I'm jaded and cynical of wider society and by extension game, and my goal is to meet a suitable girl to marry and start a family with, ideally moving to at least a semi-rural location, and living a life as close to nature as humanly possible.
Quite a task. However i am blessed in that i own a property worth approx 275,000USD, and having been living abroad for nearly a decade, and mobile with my work, could conceivably sell up, and buy a rural property for far less abroad. I am going to focus on this beyond all else in my life, as with time being precious, i have no option to procrastinate anymore. As a European and a recently rekindled Christian, i feel it is a moral and spiritual duty at this point.
Is anyone else is a similar position? Or how do single and childless guys feel about the prospect of never having children?
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04-07-2019, 07:03 AM
I am closing on 50, and almost every day I regret not having children. Maybe it's FOMO, or a mid-life crisis, but I think not. Good luck on your quest.
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04-07-2019, 07:35 AM
At 33 I'm feeling the cynicism and black pill get stronger. Don't want to end up lonely middle aged man with nothing but a passable career as my only volition.
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04-07-2019, 09:53 AM
I'm not mexican, just living here currenly, i think the flags a location thing on here but could be wrong... I don't want to go outside of European descended demographic to be honest. Colour me hate-crime, but i'm just not that into the idea of having mixed kids. Also having lived outside of Europe recently, i can see how superficial connections often are with people from very different cultures (eg latinas, s/e asians etc). My ideal scenario would be a northern euro family, somewhere in northern european countryside. That's what i relate to on an instinctive level. Not judging or besmirching anyone who goes another way, but it's not for me.
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04-07-2019, 12:36 PM
Go to the place in Europe you want to settle and marry a local girl. Much easier than both of you transplanting in that rural location you want. You like blondes, hit Eastern Europe. You like tall dark, hit Serbia.
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04-07-2019, 04:53 PM
Good to subject OP. Im 46 , and in that same situation.
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04-07-2019, 05:43 PM
35 here, checking in. Yep hindsight is always 20/20, but I am not sure if the women who I passed on/passed on me would've been right anyways. My plan is to start going to church again, as I think that's the only way to have a high chance of meeting a trad women who isn't destroyed by feminism and alpha cock. I know almost all churches are cucked, and most women you meet there are still indoctrinated by the same BS... But really this is my only remaining idea anymore.
If it doesn't happen, whatever. I am so blackpilled I have lost all passion and joy for life anyways, so the monotonous routine of eat/sleep/work is all that keeps me alive most days. Punctuated by gym, tv, and my once a week pizza.
Banging sluts and materialism has lost all it's luster to me. It is pursuing a dead end that ultimately destroys you. Like Roosh has said, nothing outside yourself will bring you happiness. I think a wife and kids would not necessarily bring happiness, but it would bring meaning, which I think is what we are all missing.
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04-07-2019, 06:03 PM
Quote: (04-07-2019 09:53 AM)Elmore Wrote:
I'm not mexican, just living here currenly, i think the flags a location thing on here but could be wrong... I don't want to go outside of European descended demographic to be honest. Colour me hate-crime, but i'm just not that into the idea of having mixed kids. Also having lived outside of Europe recently, i can see how superficial connections often are with people from very different cultures (eg latinas, s/e asians etc). My ideal scenario would be a northern euro family, somewhere in northern european countryside. That's what i relate to on an instinctive level. Not judging or besmirching anyone who goes another way, but it's not for me.
So we should be seeing your flag change 'pronto'. No excuses right? Your back is to the wall and you have already wasted enough time. Reconsider how this thread can help you when you are not taking the clear steps you already know.
Get your ass back to Europe to find a northern euro woman and stop fucking mixed chichas you don't want to impregnate.
Good luck
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04-07-2019, 06:06 PM
Interesting perspective in this thread. I'm late 20's and I just moved in with a 44 y/o game-aware guy (met him through an RP meet-up of sorts). I'm planning on studying him and his lifestyle to observe if the long-term bachelor/player lifestyle is sustainable.
There are guys who say "I should've locked down that chick and had kids..." and there are guys who say "I'd give anything to be in the single free life again." You really are damned if you do or damned if you don't
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04-07-2019, 10:09 PM
My kids are the only thing I care about now. Everything else in my life has turned to pure shit anyway.
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04-07-2019, 10:16 PM
There's a lot of negativity on this thread. Try not to get too caught up in the comparison stuff. Just keep your eyes open to possibilities and try to be genuine.
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04-07-2019, 11:03 PM
Very interesting thread.
I'm 37 and been in a relationship with a early thirties EE woman for about a year and a half. She's early thirties and has a 5 year old son. She's a great woman: very pretty, fit, kind, intelligent, good career, great mom, etc. I really enjoy the time we spend together as a family but I'm at a bit of a crossroads.
I would like my own child too to carry on the dynasty and I know she'd make a great mother from seeing how she is with her child now. And she's a really great woman without so many of the common issues these days like BPD, attention-whoring, loose morals, etc etc. I have very deep feelings for her but I'm also not in love and I fantasize about dating (well, fucking) other girls and sex with her has gotten a little boring.
I'm getting older too and in only another 5 or so years I'll be as old as OP. And from my experience and others on this forum and in this thread it's hard to find someone good enough to start a family with. So my crossroads is do I commit or do I continue looking? It's almost like this is a business decision: rationally all the signs say I should. On the other hand, all the propaganda today is "listen to your heart" and you should be in love to marry and start a family. But I think a family should be more a thoughtful decision than an emotional one? Maybe?
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04-07-2019, 11:15 PM
Yes, thought provoking thread indeed..
Looking forward to other members' inputs.
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04-08-2019, 08:49 AM
In a few months I will turn 39 and I'm really starting to come to a unpleasant crossroads about my player lifestyle and what its actually done for me in the grand scheme of things. I'll share some more on this topic later but for now here is a brief story of something that happened last week.
I was out on a second date with a super sexy 19 year old (I smashed on the first date). Shes a cool girl by all accounts really and quite a "firecracker" in the bedroom. However on the second date we were at a restaurant and a small kid a few tables over starts to cry and be a little loud and she looks at me and says "I hate kids, I'm never having kids!" an it was one of the more unattractive things I've experienced in recent memory. It's not really a uncommon theme amongst younger girls these days, its certainly not the first time I've herd it. However for whatever reason this time it really chipped away at my soul. I just smiled and responded "solo gatos?" (only cats) she laughed and said yes.... I'll still see her on occasion but I certainly view her in a totally different light now
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04-08-2019, 09:08 AM
Many women hate kids until they have them, then sometime they still hate other peoples kids but they'll die to protect their own.
Biology is funny like that.
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04-08-2019, 09:10 AM
^^
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Sometimes girls say that to get some points from a man they like. Knowing men (mostly) just want the sex...
When a girl I’m dating ask me if I want kids, I always say “I might in the future, but not at the moment”. Then I continue with “I prefer to spend my time traveling with, and giving my full attention to a girl I like instead of changing diapers”.
So, if the girl wants children she thinks she can convince me to have it in the future. And if she really doesn’t want it (which is rare) she realizes I have a good point of view (enjoy life). It’s a good way to avoid “surprises” (I forgot to take the pill) when you’re in a relationship.
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04-08-2019, 06:19 PM
I’m in similar situation. I’m 38 and recently divorced after my ex-wife said she wouldn’t have a child with me. I’m definitely feeling the pull of producing progeny.
The dating world here in the USA is a dumpster fire. Seriously considering relocating abroad to a country/region where there are more traditional women. Mexico, Eastern Europe, SE Asia.
It’s time to get serious about this. Anyone have any thoughts on which countries to focus on?