Sitting around having a few drinks with family last night, I start convo with one of my younger male cousins, who I discover is clearly very beta. For reference, he's 28, works in IT for a large company, and does well for himself financially. When it comes to women, he's getting it all wrong. He received a text last night from his ex, whom he attempted to rekindle a relationship with earlier this month. They had agreed to meet up in New York City Friday-Sunday this weekend, and he had paid for his ex's plane ticket, as well as the hotel near Times Square (I find out total financial investment - $540). She tells him that she had been going back and forth with the decision, but still had feelings for her most recent ex, and that she couldn't sleep with him knowing she was still in love with the other guy. My cousin sat there like a kid whose puppy died, depressed.
Aside from wanting to initially laugh at him for his foolish decision, I told him there are a lot of lessons he will learn from this situation, but the first two are
1. Leave the past in the past. - That relationship was full of drama when he was in it, and attempting to restart or rekindle with an ex is never good
2. Never invest financially in someone you aren't in a LTR with. - He now has to see if he can recoup any of his money spent, but likely will have to chalk this up as a loss.
Hope this cautionary tale helps someone up here who has been through, or knows someone who made decisions similar to my cousin.
Aside from wanting to initially laugh at him for his foolish decision, I told him there are a lot of lessons he will learn from this situation, but the first two are
1. Leave the past in the past. - That relationship was full of drama when he was in it, and attempting to restart or rekindle with an ex is never good
2. Never invest financially in someone you aren't in a LTR with. - He now has to see if he can recoup any of his money spent, but likely will have to chalk this up as a loss.
Hope this cautionary tale helps someone up here who has been through, or knows someone who made decisions similar to my cousin.